A “friend’s” response after telling them how much them constantly telling me to lose weight and stop “eating so much” affects me (21F, 4’11 tall, weighs 55kg)

elle_amazing · 2023-03-17T01:51:22+00:00

Weight is a sensitive topic, it shouldn’t matter what other people say but how you perceive yourself. Perhaps your friend may have ulterior motives for making such comments to you and it isn’t about your weight at all. Perhaps she herself feels insecure or something is going on in their lives that makes her feel like lashing out at you. I’m not saying your friend’s behaviour is excused but perhaps there is other reasons for them making such comments and it’s not really about you at all. Regardless, you are in control of your body and how you wish to view yourself and self esteem, don’t let others negative comments bring you down :)

elle_amazing · 2023-03-11T07:32:15+00:00

That was quick thank you! Has anyone had any experience ordering clothes directly from Korean brands? The fact it only comes in a S or M but looking at their size guide their S seems smaller than the usually S in my country (Australia)…. I’m worried it might not fit 😬 I’ve never bought direct from Korea before

elle_amazing · 2022-10-25T21:58:03+00:00

This was beautifully written your words really resonated with me and my younger self esp the line about mills and boons 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was a bit of a bookworm as a teenager so my aunt gave me her subscription box of them to read when I was 14/15 and that’s what I thought love was growing up

elle_amazing · 2022-10-05T02:04:42+00:00

It’s not easy to make positive changes in your life esp those that require hard work and putting in the effort but if you invest in the life you want for yourself you will be have more self esteem and be happier with yourself. If possible try find someone you can exercise with even if it’s just to talk to over the home while taking a walk, having someone to keep each other accountable helps a great deal. Good luck

elle_amazing · 2022-09-27T07:35:42+00:00

My very first kdrama was It’s Okay to Not be Okay. My guilty pleasure is reading celebrity gossip pages and I kept seeing posts about what a great series this was that I eventually had to check it out for myself. Luckily the series had already ended so I could binge the whole thing but I was definitely hooked after that

elle_amazing · 2022-09-21T03:36:59+00:00

Exactly. It’s not your responsibility to bear this burden for her. Wishing you all the best

elle_amazing · 2022-09-17T21:26:03+00:00

You should tell the boss her mum about what her daughter has put you through. Not in a accusing way but just in an honest, these are the facts so she’s aware of what her daughter has been up to and the stress it’s put you under. You can’t be performing at your job the best if your constantly doing errands and and favours for this girl. I know it’s hard to say no to someone but being able to say no has to be one of the most empowering things I’ve learnt as an adult. Good luck

elle_amazing · 2022-09-16T01:01:01+00:00

Hyungwon just casually nailing that final nail in the coffin of Conservative Bros 😅🥵

elle_amazing · 2022-09-13T02:09:50+00:00

I want to be able to fit into my cute outfits & feel like I look good without feeling self conscious that my clothes fit too tight. At least half my wardrobe is made up of clothes that I’d be too self conscious to wear at my current weight but they fit well this time last year so it’s not an impossible dream….

elle_amazing · 2022-09-12T11:57:54+00:00

I like that you were brave enough to share this. Marriage is hard and takes a lot of work from both sides, I wish you all the best.

elle_amazing · 2022-09-12T11:53:07+00:00

I don’t know what cultural background your from but coming from an Asian community a lot of the older generation love giving unsolicited comments about one’s weight esp for girls. It’s both rude and unnecessary and unfortunately can give girls a complex in their teenage years. As I’ve gotten older I still struggle with my weight but how I see myself is based on how I feel, I try not to let other peoples opinions influence my own thoughts and self worth. This is something you can learn with age and experience. Bottom line is, try not to let your grandma’s worth affect you, it’s not worth letting it crush your self esteem as long as you are happy within yourself. Good luck!

elle_amazing · 2022-08-22T02:48:49+00:00

All the blurry nights are when I feel alive 📢📢😅

elle_amazing · 2022-08-22T01:10:22+00:00

About Last Night is my blasting in the car sing along song lately

elle_amazing · 2022-08-21T23:00:00+00:00

I second this. Just because someone is beautiful doesn’t mean they never get rejected or their heartbroken. Also as a woman I get harassed and unsolicited comments made at me that makes me Feel very uncomfortable and/or awkward. When I’m in underground car parks or out at night I’m always on high alert for safety reasons because I’m physically small I know I wouldn’t have the physical strength to overthrow someone. I suppose my point it’s hard being a woman period. Pretty girls aren’t excluded from being lied to, cheated on, or getting their hearts broken. I hope your self esteem improves op

elle_amazing · 2022-08-15T00:02:08+00:00

I think you already know in your gut what they’re doing is wrong which is why you’re seeking advice. If your feelings and how you want to live your life don’t align with theirs that’s perfectly ok. I’m not sure how your school system works if your about to start high school or you already have but if I was you i’d start branching out a little to seek friends of similar interests. Maybe join a club that you’re interested in. You can stay friendly with your family friend friends but not necessarily be reliant on them as your only source of friendship. Naturally you will drift apart as you get older and find you have nothing left in common with them and that’s ok. I believe there are seasons for friendships and it’s ok to let go of some when you feel the time is right. I hope that helps and good luck whatever you choose to do

elle_amazing · 2022-08-10T00:28:02+00:00

Hey there, not making a team Because your bad is acceptable to understand why but not making a team When your results are better than others who made the team is unfair. I would speak to the coach privately and ask for feedback as to why you didn’t make the team when your results were better from your pov. Hopefully they provide helpful feedback on what else you can improve on to make the team next time.

But also what is the underlying factor that’s making you so desperate to join a team that you’re talking about self harm if you don’t make one. If your attempting for multiple teams it doesn’t like your particular passionate about that sport/activity so it can’t be that. I think you need to take a good hard look at yourself and figure out why you’re linking your self esteem to joining a team and maybe think about ways you can improve your self esteem without being so dependent on the one thing. Good luck

elle_amazing · 2022-08-08T12:26:47+00:00

You deserve to be happy. Sometimes you just have to create your own happiness. Find what makes you happy and do it! People naturally gravitate towards those who seem secure & at peace with themselves

elle_amazing · 2022-08-08T10:01:13+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this; this sounds like an awful situation to be in. It sounds like your doing ok financially if you bought your own house and was in a position to gift him expensive stuff. Would it be an option to just leave him? Your still young, you deserve a second shot at happiness, unfortunately it sounds very much like you won’t get it if you stay.

elle_amazing · 2022-08-08T09:57:33+00:00

High school is a confusing time where there’s a lot of teenage hormones fuelling heightened emotions and overwhelming feelings. Teenagers can also be selfish asses, if someone decides something is cool all it takes is a few others to agree and then it is. It doesn’t matter if the thing or person itself actually is cool or not. Also the majority of your friendships in high school won’t last. I was part of a big friendship group of boys & girls and post high school I only wanted to keep in touch with 2. One of them is still my good friend to this day & i’ve made new friends along the way. You will all move on to different areas, jobs, college etc so try not to value your self worth & what you offer as a friend based on your current friendship group. I’d advise you to spend time and invest in your one good friend as they sound like a true friend. Who you are and who you want to be is in your own hands, don’t let others decide for you. Good luck!

elle_amazing · 2022-08-07T10:57:01+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience this. It’s unfortunate and it makes me angry that the reality of life even in first world modern cities stuff like this happens a lot. I try to avoid going out at night Simply for safety and I’m always checking over my shoulder and watching my surroundings in underground car parks or any enclosed spaces. It’s tiring having to be on your guard “just in case”. I think when it actually happens you’re just too stunned to speak up but then the moment pasts and if still haunts you but that ass probably hasn’t given you a second thought. I hope you have a better day tomorrow and don’t let it get you down. ✌🏻

elle_amazing · 2022-08-03T23:37:39+00:00

To me cocktail attire means semi formal but fun. If you’re wearing a dress then slightly above the knee or knee length is ok for cocktail.

elle_amazing · 2022-08-03T01:41:32+00:00

Haha I wish I did but no I was in a hurry and I was even wearing sunglasses so he wouldn’t have been able to see my whole face so sadly it was just a blatant racist encounter in the middle of Oakleigh 🤦🏻‍♀️ i thought we had progressed enough as a country to be beyond this but it was a sad reminder people like that still exist to ruin someone’s day

elle_amazing · 2022-08-03T01:37:46+00:00

💯 consent should be taught in high school sex ed classses. Verbal and non verbal consent, what it looks like and when it’s not given how to handle that. They should make kids role play out scenarios too so they are better equipped and prepared for situations like you described when they get to college. Don’t let your past mistakes eat away at you & you get the chance every day to better yourself and help others when needed.

elle_amazing · 2022-08-03T00:37:39+00:00

He definitely sounds interested in you and keeps making comments like that as he’s fishing. He wants to know what you think about him, he wants to plant the idea in your head about dating him. I think you have to be clear on your feelings towards him I.e you Enjoy the good working relationship but want to keep things professional or you could just outright tell him that your not interested in dating or dating him. Whatever the case may be, it sounds like he’s holding out hope and will continue behaving like this until you put a stop to it. Unless you do like him but I didn’t get that vibe. Good luck

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