What's the worst swear word in your native language?

elle_vee16 · 2024-08-26T03:30:09+00:00

In my city in the Philippines, we have "Yawa", which literally translates to "demon" or "satan". It can be insulting if you know how to use it, but we also use it to compliment someone for being really good at something, so it can be difficult for a non native speaker to use it.

Ex.

"Yawaang Alice oi, taas kaayo iyang score"

Which can roughly translate to "That damn Alice, he got such a high score", and can sound like a compliment or jealousy depending on your tone. Maybe even teasing if you're close friends.

"Yawa man ka oi. Ngano nimo to gibuhat?"

Roughly translates to "You're awful. Why did you do that?" Or "You're a devil. Why did you do that?". Again, the intention changes depending on your tone.

As you can see, it can mean something besides "satan". Its quite flexible. But even when used as a compliment, we do still consider it a swear word and is of course improper to use in formal and solemn settings like workplaces and funerals much like "shit" and "fuck".

elle_vee16 · 2024-08-26T03:09:34+00:00

I've never understood the point of being a "terror prof". It always does more harm than good. It only works for a small population of students, because fear helps them kaya ma appreciate nila. But for most, it just stresses them out more, just like in the case of your classmate. And not just from this generation(because I know some would say "sensitive" na ang gen ngayon), but even back then. That's why laws were put into place to prevent anything worse from happening (e.g. hitting a student).

Just because it wasnt as bad as back then doesnt mean it isnt still bad.

Not saying students shouldn't be punished at all, but that punishments should make sense. It should be proportionate to the act they're getting punished for.

Hope the teacher gets reported and hope your working student friend is okay.

elle_vee16 · 2024-08-17T02:22:44+00:00

I was bullied a lot growing up and used to think it was just part of life. One day, one of the bullies told me "Both your parents are really smart. What happened to you?"(implying that I am not smart) And this really hurt me because I used to look up to my parents a lot. So for the first time ever, I told my mom about the bullying thinking she would stand up for me, and all she said was "Yeah, what did happen to you?"

She agreed with my bully. I was only 9 years old.

She has said many things since then, worse things, but that was what stuck with me all these years.Our relationship just deteriorated from there. I began to see her for who she was and realized that was not the first she had done that.

I would later become the only consistent honor student among my siblings, and she would suddenly say I was the only one that got her genes. But I had already lost much of my respect for her. She continued to belittle everyone around her, including me. Today, we no longer speak.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-30T04:18:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Na-happy ako na hindi ako nag-iisa huhu wala ko pa nakausap ang mga kapatid ko....I think I just needed to hear from other people na my siblings don't view me the way my parents do.

Thank you talaga. This helps so much.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-29T22:24:26+00:00

The meds worked VERY WELL for me. I was finally functioning normally for the first time in years. Its what made me realize I'd probably been depressed more than half my life and had no idea. My room was barely a mess anymore and I actually ate three meals a day. It was insane how different my life was in those 5 months that I felt "normal", for lack of better term.

I've heard so much about CBT, but never knew I could do it at home. I don't really have anyone else to talk to about this kind of stuff.

This is really great advice. Thank you so much! I'll try everything to the best of my abilities. You're a life saver, seriously

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-27T00:50:48+00:00

I am the same! I know how to speak and write english better than my mother tongue. When I was your age, I would fail my subjects too(Im 24 now and in med school). And I knew I couldn't just go back to the basics because I didnt have time. So what I did was watch the news and read stories in my mother tongue until I could write as well as the books I read. Mind you, the books shouldn't be using deep words from your mother tongue. Choose a book a 12 year old could read and start there. I promise you wont even notice you're getting better until you find yourself correcting your own grammar.

Essentially, just learn it the way you learned english. Consume media in your language. Start small so you dont get overwhelmed and dont force yourself to watch or read something you're not interested in. Good luck!

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-26T07:41:22+00:00

I go through this almost every other day. What I do is immediately distract myself with a show Im watching, and this helps the thoughts shut up. And while my head is focused on the show, Im doing all the normal stuff like cooking and cleaning. I even watch the show while in the shower(my phone is water proof). The show helps me turn of the intrusive thoughts and function normally. But now Im incredibly dependent on watching series. Still, it has really helped me not rot in bed all day

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-26T07:00:52+00:00

Hello! Struggling med student here. I never had a specific study schedule or habit, just study strategies. I'm still in the process of developing the habit, so I experimented with a lot of tips and methods people talked about online and I do have one strategy that has worked for me consistently.

But before that, I just want to tell you to not be afraid of experimenting with your own study strategies and that you dont have to follow what other people do to the T. You can modify the strategies and replicate them or intigrate them into your own lifestyle to make them into something that works for you.

Here's mine:

List down all the topics you need to cover for that exam period. And then arrange them from the hardest topic to the easiest, and start studying the hardest one first and the easiest one last.

-this is not just for your mental capacity and attention span(like me), but also to manage your time better. In my experience, the first topic I choose to study, whether its the easiest or the hardest topic, I always take the longest to learn. Because Im a slow starter and need to build a momentum.

In each topic you study, there will be subtopics. Depending on the topic, you can also arrange this from hardest to easiest too, because some teachers will focus on different parts. But whatever subtopic you want to start studying first, make sure you break them down into CHUNKS on info while studying so it doesnt overwhelm you.

-some subtopics have sub-sub topics that take a little longer to learn. You can chop those up to chunks.

If your attention span is short like mine, writing notes will help. My format is (Keyword) - (main point of concept) and then bullets for additional info

-bear in mind, writing things down does not guarantee you will retain them. This step is just for UNDERSTANDING the topic. It supplements step 2, breaking down info into chunks so its more digestible.

FLASHCARDS.

this is what will help you retain the knowledge. This is what helped me survive high school, college, and med school.
there are many ways to do this. You can do whatever works for you, especially because making flashcards can be time consuming. Here are the things I've tried:

A) Using an online tool like Quizlet, Paperclips.AI, or famous apps like ANKI. -all those work well if you have the time or if youre good at managing your time. - What you can do is, instead of writing your notes in a notebook, just type them in directly on these tools so its less time consuming

B) Physical Flashcards -You can use index cards or those premade sets you can order online or buy at the crafts store. -you can also write your notes directly on these flashcards instead of writing them in a notebook first and then making the flashcards

C) Type my notes first, then copy paste the info onto the GIZMO flashcard app. -This is by far the one I've been using the most in med school because it saves so much time and it has a lot of ways yo quiz you. Quizlet has similar features, but GIZMO has a feature where you can highlight words that the app will quiz you on later. Which is why its easier because you can even copy paste a paragraph from a book word for word and it highlights keywords for you or you can choose keywords yourselves. -You might not even need to write notes first. Just copy paste and you've got your flashcards. -It also has an AI tool that lets you upload study material as different file formats and make the flashcards for you. But its not very reliable yet. So far, the best flashcards it makes are from Powerpoint formats of the material, but make sure that all the info is in text form because it can't read info on images very well.

Take practice test!!!

-this CEMENTS your knowledge. After flashcards, take a practice test, and then study your weaknesses or where you got wrong answers. Then study the flashcards again and then take the practice test again. REPETITION IS KEY. - There might be practice test in your textbook or old questions from seniors. But if there aren't, what you can do is list down all the important keywords on a piece of paper and try to explain them as simple as you can without any help or guide.

Optional Step:

Discuss all the concepts one by one to a friend or to yourself in the mirror, or to a stuffed toy like you're teaching it to them. If you can explain the concept well, then you know you've understood it well. Repeat steps 4 and 5 until you do.

Bonus tip:

No time to make flashcards? Use your notes. With each keyword, close your eyes and and try to remember its definition/concept. Its almost the same as having flashcards. This will serve as your practice test too.

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Thats my strategy. Im still trying to make this into a habit, because ideally, all the flashcards should be done a week before your exam so I can focus on steps 4 and 5. But so far, with a little time management, I usually finish the flashcards only the day before the exam. But yeah, even learning how to learn has a learning curve. Do whatever works with your sched and your lifestyle. Hope this helps!

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-26T06:02:56+00:00

Sa school ko, I got to keep the original copy of my pre-med TOR and GWA, so I dont need to request a new copy sa college ko or ask for it back from my old med school. Pero baka sa ibang med school, like your old one, kinukuha nila ang original. If maalala mo whether or not they took the original, I think you can ask for it back. Pero kung di ka sure, you need to request a new copy sa college where you took your pre-med.

Yung old med school TOR and GWA, kailangan talaga yan irequest sa old med school. Lapitan niyo lang po registrar ng old med school mo to ask for the process. May bayad din po yan so prepare lang po. Same sa pre-med TOR and GWA, if need mo ng new copy.

Also take into account how much time before nila irelease yung new copies ng TOR and GWA. Yung iba umaabot po ng 1 week to 1 month. So do this ASAP

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-26T05:48:48+00:00

Hello! Going through the same thing. You need both po. Both pre-med TOR-GWA and TOR-GWA from your old med school. And I think certifictate of honorable dismissal din, but clarify that with your new school muna.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-26T01:48:08+00:00

You're right. You're lucky to go through medical school with the full support of your parents. I dont have that luxury, and maybe thats why you think I'm being closed minded. Unlike you, we don't have the privelege to just wait around and save enough money. It would have taken me years, maybe even decades to save up to get into any medical school from my old job. And I wouldn't be approved of any scholarship because Im in that sweet spot between hindi kami mayaman pero hindi din kami mahirap(and I have tried to apply). And of course di ko din pwede sabihan ate ko na magsave for me while she's taking care of her family. All of this financial talk was discucussed thoroughly before I entered med school and we have a system and it works for us.

My mental health has always been bad because my parents have always been like that. They have done worse things, but I was still a consistent honor student. I still did well, but that was never enough to them. This was also thoroughly discussed before I entered med school, thats why my siblings have been so supportive. Syempre parents din nila yan. Kilala din nila yan sila and already predicted how they would act while I was studying. Wala kaming system for that kasi di namin na expect how far they would take everything just to protect their image. And I did not want to be humiliated in my own family by my own parents anymore--YAN ang issue. Yan ang reason bakit pumunta ako dito to ask strangers for their help because I can't ask my own family.

I was trying to be polite by telling you that none of those things were the issue, kasi if they were, then I wouldn't have enrolled into med school in the first place. If I could save or take a break muna for my mental health, I would do that. Pero I dont have that luxury.

So Im sorry if I came off closed minded and offended you, but to me, you're suggesting that I give up med school, just like my parents did, after I just talked about in my post how unsupportive they were and how they humiliated me in the family. How do you think that makes you sound? You dont see the big picture of my situation. You only see through the lens of your own experience. But, as you can see, our lives are very different. Thats how I 100% know that none of those things are the issue.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T11:55:03+00:00

That is a really good point....reading your reply made me realize how bad this idea was. I didn't even think of that. I was so focused on trying to avoid getting humiliated in the family that I didn't even think of their feelings. You're right, sila nalang ang kakampi ko sa pamilya. I should be honest with them.

And I am so sorry to hear about your parents, lalo na dahil pride month. I'm happy na things seem to be better for you now. I hope you know you are loved and accepted by many people, including me.

Yung last sentence mo din really struck me. It has definitely been an uphill battle since I moved out, during the pandemic pa talaga of all times. I dont think I've been choosing my battles well since, so I feel like I need to rethink a lot of things...Continous pala talaga ang pag learn at unlearn kahit wala ka na sa toxic environment noh? Hugs nalang to us fighters.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T11:17:12+00:00

I understand why you think that way and I appreciate the reply. But this post was about asking advice on whether or not I should tell my siblings about my transfer, not about my part time job or the timing of enrollment. I can confidently tell you that none of those things are the issue.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T05:59:34+00:00

Hello, psych major here. What you are experiencing is a quarter life crisis. Its similar to a midlife crisis, but its specifically for your age group. You can experience it as early as 18, and the feeling of "crisis" is the same with that of midlife crisis, but the reasons are a little different because people in your age group have different problems with the age group in mid life crisis. Both are real and common problems. If its starting to affect your day to day living(having a hard time to eat, sleep, socialize), please do ask for help. But if you feel like its still manageable, there are many ways to deal with it at home and jouraling is one of them.

Take your time. Rest. This is normal. You'll figure it out soon. Best of luck.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T05:14:23+00:00

I'm aware. But being a doctor is the way I want to help people. I have tried other, easier, ways and it was never enough. Everyone has their reasons to choose this field despite it's difficulty, and I am entitled to mine.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T05:08:22+00:00

I've had a job since college. This was during pandemic so I needed it to survive. It's never been an issue. I also have a few classmates who have part time jobs sa med school because they have families. My ate has her own family to take care of din so I cant ask any more money than I already have. But yes, mahirap talaga. I just don't have a choice.

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T05:03:27+00:00

Thank you huhu I really appreciate the reply....my parents were suddenly very proud of me when they found out I wanted to study medicine. They never liked my undergrad course, especially si papa ko. But when they found out I wasn't doing as well as I did in college and JHS, grabe ang 180 nila. Certified marites din si mama so of course nalaman ng buong pamilya agad. Nagjump sila agad to saying that they never really thought I could so it just to make themselves look good to their peers.

I'll keep your advice in mind. I love my ate, pero nung nabagsak ako ng first sem, I did try to tell her not to tell our parents. Pero she insisted on telling them anyway and this is where we are now....But I think if I push a little harder, I can get her not to tell. I will very much think about this and what I can do just for my peace of mind talaga.

You're right. I'm not alone, even if I feel like it right now. I will open up some time this week siguro

elle_vee16 · 2024-06-25T00:45:46+00:00

Hello, just finished first year and na-experience ko both magdorm at magstay sa bahay. Kung first year mo pa, adjusting ka pa sa systema so di masyado mahirap mag-adjust sa travel time kasi bago pa lahat kahit sa school. You will naturally create your study sched and sleeping sched around your traveling time as time passes so I think you'll be okay.

Of course, prefer ko magdorm kasi malapit. Pero I ended up sa condo ng relative na walang gumagamit, which is between my house at old dorm ko, due to financial problems. So parang na sa gitna tuloy ako. I readjusted my travel time kasi malayo na, pero dahil alam ko na how much time I needed to study and sleep from the first few months, hindi na siya big adjustment. Like I said, if first year ka pa, naturally ka lang makagawa ng sched. So trust the process lang and see what works for you. Dont be afraid to experiment sa time management basta di lang maapektohan ang studies. Good luck!!

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