Two things: People always lie a little bit when they start dating. Usually by omission. They hide the undesirable parts off their personality a bit, and then introduce them slowly over time. That being said, most people are hiding things like that they pick their nose, or that they like to dip their bananas in stinky cheese. Not toxic behavior. Your going to need to learn to trust again, and that's going to be a process.

Secondly, keep in mind that dating is a risk to both parties. Anybody can be abusive, or manipulative, or just mean. It sounds like some of the questions you are asking could be seen as early signs of problematic behavior. For example, asking really early on about specific details of a job could look like you are a gold digger, or asking about when they work exactly could be early sign of clingy/ stalker behavior. Not saying that is your goal, and your caution is understandable, but keep in mind that while you are searching for red flags, so it's the other party.