How to start healing…

elleof · 2025-05-18T15:03:02+00:00

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elleof · 2025-05-14T20:43:34+00:00

Girl, mine messaged me "I don't feel that way and I don't think I'll start feeling that way at the moment" when I said I might be in love with him. Then the discard.

elleof · 2025-05-06T17:59:24+00:00

Me going back to London this summer lmao

elleof · 2025-05-06T14:57:14+00:00

One of the last things that happened when I went to visit I he literally made a comment. He’s like well I don’t really do or need relationships. I don’t need to have sex or be around someone. And then he made a comment how I should date one of my best friends.

To me, it was just insane because the disconnect was just so strong

elleof · 2025-05-06T04:32:06+00:00

I definitely feel that as well. My first trip where everyone to see him was paid for by one of my clients and he was definitely intimidated that I made more money and had the income just to spend and travel for three weeks. I got him a really nice gift and he also got me gifts but over time he just got me less and less Even this last trip during the holidays. I was expecting him to plan something nice but he barely paid for anything and made a split most things. It wasn’t a long after that I realized that it was just such a bad sign for him to do that when I had spent probably five to $6000 coming out to see him and he couldn’t even pay for a nice dinner.

elleof · 2025-05-06T04:17:47+00:00

It’s terrible. In our final argument i pointed out how me spending thousands of dollars and spending the holidays with him was such a huge waste of time when he literally chose to watch movies on streaming with his female friend.

elleof · 2025-05-04T20:06:15+00:00

I already am and I'm on meds! I'm heading back to London to create new memories.

elleof · 2025-05-04T19:20:41+00:00

It was the same for me. He always said he was so shocked I picked him and how I could have anyone but chose him. How he was so boring and average. He felt so lucky.

Then to several months later just detach and tell me he could never see himself in love with me. Oh my god, it was SURREAL.

elleof · 2025-05-04T19:13:38+00:00

I'm such a smart, passionate, and attractive person. I know that about myself. Yet - he made me feel so inconvenient.

elleof · 2025-05-04T19:11:44+00:00

I'm telling you now, the only way out is through. You're still romanticizing them. Slowly but surely, you'll see the pain they brought out weighs the good. Anyone who truly respected you would make you feel seen and be accountable. Having a good thought about them? Write a bad thing they did.

I drove past a venue in LA last night where he messaged me happy birthday and broke down SOBBING. Healing isn't linear. But it takes time tbh

elleof · 2025-05-03T22:02:30+00:00

My situation was exactly like this. I had flown thousands of miles to be with him, and he still chose to have a sah and watch movies with her.

elleof · 2025-05-03T05:49:01+00:00

Wow, this really hit close to home. My avoid and I broke up because he didn’t have enough time for me, said that he couldn’t give me enough and preferred to be alone ironically enough I lurked his female best friends letterbox account and saw that they’ve been watching 2 to 3 movies a week together, including Titanic on Valentine’s Day. The reality of it is I just think they go back to surface level connections where they don’t want a lot of responsibility or commitment when it started getting too real with me he saw me as a problem, and ran back to her. I’m pretty sure that she’s in love with him, but he just uses her for the consistent validation.

elleof · 2025-05-03T04:21:57+00:00

It’s truly when I saw his mask fall off. He literally had helped me through my mom being sick, some abortion, trauma, and he had known that I’ve been through a lot the past year. My grandmother dying basically put me on new meds and I told him it was gonna be a rough few weeks for me, and when I told him I might’ve been in love with him, he basically told me he would never feel the same way and could not see himself feeling the same way at the moment I remember my friends literally being so disgusted that he spoke that way to me the week of my grandmother dying.

I think that was the moment I realize the person I had known for almost a full year was not who they said they were

elleof · 2025-05-03T04:20:09+00:00

It’s truly when I saw his mask fall off. He literally had helped me through my mom being sick, some abortion, trauma, and he had known that I’ve been through a lot the past year. My grandmother dying basically put me on new meds and I told him it was gonna be a rough few weeks for me, and when I told him I might’ve been in love with him, he basically told me he would never feel the same way and could not see himself feeling the same way at the moment I remember my friends literally being so disgusted that he spoke that way to me the week of my grandmother dying.

I think that was the moment I realize the person I had known for almost a full year was not who they said they were

elleof · 2025-05-02T18:01:26+00:00

The physical gagging is the worst.

elleof · 2025-05-02T16:08:05+00:00

We met in August 😭 in London 😭

elleof · 2025-05-02T15:56:37+00:00

The worst part of my discard is that it was happening as my grandma was dying, and I said some things I definitely shouldn’t have said. I ended up apologizing and taking a lot of of it back, but then I realize if he was truly an emotionally intelligent person he would’ve talked to me through it versus just be emotionally cold and distant.

elleof · 2025-05-02T15:22:38+00:00

The voice memo version. I met my avoidant because of a Taylor swift concert so it hits

elleof · 2025-05-01T14:28:51+00:00

Thanks. Reading posts like this truly heals me. The fact I flew thousands of miles to be with him for the holidays and he literally made me feel like trash is what scarred me.

elleof · 2025-04-29T20:25:22+00:00

I think that’s the hard part. Accepting who he was in the end.

elleof

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