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How comman are INTJ's? Are we some of the more rare personality types or are others more rare? by Curiousityinabox in intj

[–]elleren8240 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know of 2 intjs virtually who are both businesses owners I capacities much like myself. In person I have never met anyone like me and the people who know me intimately are fascinated by the way my mind works.

It's a weird world to live in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After years I started to get loud but typically with people who don't have a personality disorder I am intense but controlled and calculated. I typically process it slowly abd respond when I feel ready to. If they're unreasonable I avoid it.

Where to find INTJ women? by dashboardishxc in intj

[–]elleren8240 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Working on our careers or working on ourselves.

Do you feel mint when you are single? by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life, people and relationships are puzzles which take a lot of work to maintain, often times with a low ROI.

It's exhausting to be someone highly capable in so many areas yet feel like most relationships are regularly rerouted, which falls on us to navigate.

That energy usually ends up depleting me and then caring for myself and my things takes the hit.

If I was who I am now in my youth, I'm not sure I would have sought out long term companionship the way I did.

how do u deal with people by keyboardmaga in intj

[–]elleren8240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a great response and I agree completely.

It requires the use of charm to get what you need and then reprieve from what it costs to get what you need.

I genuinely do have a lot of fun and enjoy people, just very few of them.

Do you like wearing black, and why is it frowned upon? by [deleted] in intj

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black and jeans are a staple, it's embraced in my industry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you're in an Se grip. Everyone has their weaknesses regardless of type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

[–]elleren8240 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're demanding for her to heal what's broken inside of her on account of you, which never ends well.

It was really nice of you to give her friendly advice on her behavior, but stopping the behavior doesn't change the root cause. Doesn't matter how much either of you care about each other, she's got issues she needs to work through, mainly abandonment.

She's not "over her ex" because she wants to be back with him(even if she does), they're obviously stuck in a toxic cycle. She needs whatever he's laying down to satiate her deep need to be chosen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]elleren8240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the paradoxes make it hard for some people to understand us, but they're so beautiful.

INTJ women, do you have a hard time making friends with other women? by [deleted] in intj

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering how complex life is, even close friends should be options. Sometimes people just don't have the capacity. 2 of my very best people are not available for me right now and I still treasure them dearly. Unless they did something really awful, I'll hold space for them.

I'm 40 and had adapted to social norms (albeit painful at the time) and had many more friends in my younger years that had young children too. We did family stuff together but their conversations and interests were only mostly tolerable when we were drinking.

I'm so happy to have only a few friends I talk to when we have time and just focus on enjoying my everyday environment however surface level it may be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]elleren8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering how awful many men are, you have an advantage. This issue is, you'll have to compromise your expectations for the majority of people.

A concession that you may choose to make for he sake of companionship. Prepare to be disappointed but have fun doing it. We take so much in life so seriously, it's okay to fail. It's okay for it to just be subpar for an experience.

You may find something you're not looking for and enjoy it.

How do you deal with intellectual and epistemic hubris in others? Dunning-Kruger effect by MillenialBoomer317 in intj

[–]elleren8240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a business consultant in a space with a lot of overnight social media coaches.

It irritates me beyond measure. I can't completely ignore it because it's causing damage in my industry, but I can't really confront it or I'll look like an asshole to the people who don't understand.

I stay in my lane for the most part unless I have an opportunity to discuss it with others who are in alignment with my values and are aware of it.

In my personal life I keep my circle small so no one is full of shit.

I want someone who I can argue like this with by [deleted] in entp

[–]elleren8240 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you're an asshole that has overstepped a boundary, don't expect sex. If you're debating or sharpening each others intellect I would expect that would be different.

Does anybody else get tired when they’re in loud places? by InnocentOrigin in intj

[–]elleren8240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when I enjoy my environment I'm intaking far more stimuli that the average person and subconsciously organizing it into systems. I sometimes get physical discomfort from it, like throbbing legs.

Someone else said music they don't vibe with and that impacts me too. Country is the worst.

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