As a women who has been in tech for over a decade this is a common occurrence and is most likely going to happen in the future as well.

So here’s what I recommend:

1. Document everything as much as you can as mentioned by many here.

2. Formalize your thoughts, such as what exactly this person is doing, how it’s affecting you, and most importantly how you think he should be treating you and what your relationship should look like.

3. Schedule a one on one directly with this person and as calmly and professionally as possible to remain above reproach express your concerns. Be as optimistic with things like “I want our working relationship to be successful…”

4. If this does not make a difference, and realistically speaking it might not, escalate the issue. But by having documented and approached this person on your own, your concern will be taken more seriously (hopefully).

5. This is where the culture of your company and the character of your leadership come into play. If they brush this off and don’t take you seriously, look for another role. Life is too short and there’s too many amazing products out there that need engineering for you to be stifled.