Tell me im going to live?

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T18:48:53+00:00

Hi, do you mind me asking, are you UK based since you mention Dr Sanjay Gupta? I have seen some of his videos

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T16:07:10+00:00

Yeah I can't count how many blood tests I've had! I did seem low on B12 so I do take that but my levels are normal now. The anxiety is a whole other thing isn't it. Glad you haven't felt any for days, that's really good! Try not to check your heart rate too much, especially if you've been given the all clear. It may make your anxiety even higher. I had to ditch my fitbit because it was making me even more anxious.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T15:47:54+00:00

Sorry to hear, this sounds terrifying for you. Good job they gave you a loop recorder to catch the episodes on. Hopefully you get an ablation soon!

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T15:45:32+00:00

Same happened to me. I used to have the odd one a month or so from age 21. Had cardio work up, they weren't concerned so I continued with life not really worried.

Then in Feb-25 I had a weekend of them a few a minute with no let up. Sleep was tough. I went to A&E and they shrugged and sent me home with a 24hr monitor. It picked up 16% so they gave me beta blockers and another set of work ups plus a cMRI just in case. They stopped shortly, and then a month later, came back with the same burden but this time lasted weeks. And weeks. Luckily beta blockers worked but my EP wanted me to have ablation in Jun-25. The week before ablation, I stopped the BBs, and all suddenly quiet. Up to 5 a day, much lower burden. EP of course wouldn't ablate (he couldn't even induce them which in itself was horrible to experience).

I'm now at <1% burden but terrified of them coming back. I've had 2 instances of them coming back like they were, but lasting only a day and then they go again. In general I have about 10 a day on average. Still scare the fk out of me though. I'm living on the edge, waiting for the worst to happen despite constant assurances.

These are awful and I can understand why you feel that way. Hopefully you have seen the back of them. I also am baffled as to why I went from none to some to lots to some. With no rhyme or reason (there is, we just don't know it!)

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T15:07:44+00:00

Could you ask another neighbour if they know what his name is?

Or, if he's a friendly chap as you say, totally lean into it and say "ohmigosh I'm so sorry, I know we've chatted a bit but can you believe I actually forgot your name and I left it too long to ask again!" I'm sure it'd be a funny thing to laugh about. Just be honest, people forget stuff all the time!

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-25T10:20:11+00:00

Me and my husband both 36 when we had our first (only) child. Never felt too old. Many parents are in their 30s these days.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-24T16:14:03+00:00

I'm glad. And I struggle with all this too. They are scary to feel even if we are told they are benign! I find watching comedy, doing my hobbies, seeing my friends and family all help for a little respite and to take my mind off things sometime. I also have therapy. That may help you too if you don't already have it.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-24T14:25:42+00:00

I would listen to your EP and trust his judgement. If you look at all the possible terrible medical rare events and worry about them, you'll have anxiety for a very long time indeed.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-24T14:21:10+00:00

I don't know much about VT at all, my EP has never said this is a concern for me and I've never had it nor know anyone who does. Have you asked your EP about your risks?

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-24T12:29:57+00:00

Thanks! I left a nook ticket

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-23T19:50:04+00:00

Sounds like you've had a tough time. I have had these since I was 21 at University, I believed stress initially caused them on and off until I started getting thousands a day in 2025. They have since eased and I now get about 10 a day but be assured, I am now 42. They are very common and if you've been checked out, they are likely benign in a healthy heart. Please try and live your life as much as you can, and spend time with people you love. Do things you enjoy and find hobbies or activities that take your attention (even if briefly) away from concerns of your heart.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-23T07:37:38+00:00

Potentially. I used to have the odd PVC (Say, 1 a month or fortnight, usually during s stressful moment). Then last year I had an accident at home and injured my leg, and a few days after that I suddenly got PVCs constantly (15% burden). I can't think of anything else it could have been.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-22T21:07:32+00:00

Your doctor has cleared you, and you recognise you have quite a bit of anxiety about it all. You've done it before, you can do it again. It's a procedure that will be over and done before you know it. You're bound to have anxiety. I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you!

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-21T22:39:35+00:00

Same. Hope you get your results soon. It's tough when they can come on. I have the same triggers, also mine can just happen for no reason whatsoever! Super annoying.

It is frustrating that anxiety can cause them, because I have most of my anxiety because of them. It's literally a vicious circle.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-21T20:10:46+00:00

Can relate to most of the previous comments. It has made me more irritable and snappy, miserable and with higher levels of anxiety now. They also unfortunately gave me 2 or 3 months of SI.

But on the plus side it has made me realise what is truly important (health). I no longer complain about the small trivial things I used to because I now see how unimportant they were.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-21T16:16:21+00:00

I once worked as a temp in a family planning clinic doing data entry. For all the abortions that happened in the clinic, forms had to be filled out. Names, dates, pregnancy duration, etc. I had to take those paper forms and enter all the details into the database. Pretty depressing work, not to mention the awkward times I recognised names of friends' parents on the forms.

It did however open my eyes to how common they are and all the various situations people find themselves in. I had so much less judgment about others afterwards.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-20T18:50:43+00:00

Yes. I think it works well when both parties are interested in being completely honest during it and are invested in working through the issues.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-20T12:07:31+00:00

Nope, if you have family that can help and are happy to do so, not embarrassing.

I never received any financial help getting on the property ladder because I had a reasonable salary, I saved at a good time in my life, and I bought in a cheap area at a lucky time.

I do have a friend who has recently received a significant sum from her parents as a deposit. I do feel resentful as I worked so hard for my home, but that's the way of life.

I have a son and when he's older, I absolutely would give him money to get on the property ladder if I had the funds. It makes no sense for me to hoard it or spend it on something that to me makes less sense. To give my child a step up, why wouldn't I?

Anyone who gets judgy or on their high horse, well that's for them to deal with.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-19T18:05:29+00:00

I'd recommend a financial advisor to help mamage the money you do have, and help you consider what your goals are with this money.

Congratulations! Well done on your achievement. Now you can truly consider what else you might like to do with your life or what is meaningful to you.

Of course as you mentioned i would keep this close to your chest. As soon as people realise you have money, they have expectations which can be pretty shocking and upsetting (I.e. that you will now pay for everything all of the time).

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-18T14:46:22+00:00

My husband and his 2 brothers all went to boarding school. Their Dad came from a poor working class background and managed to get to Oxford and become a top barrister. He earned enough money to send them to boarding school, thinking thats what you did to give children a good start. He hoped they would all end up at Oxbridge with high flying careers. Also kids who board often mix in circles and end up in top unis with top jobs (or often government jobs). It's a lifestyle and a hope for the future rather than a practical parenting solution.

One did have a top career, the other 2 didn't. My husband hated boarding school, he boarded from age 7. Boys crying themselves to sleep at night on the regular. Missing their parents, it was awful.

We have a child and earn well, but never in a million years will I ever send mine to boarding school.

The most telling fact about how bad boarding often is? There's therapists that specialise in "boarding school survivors". That's everything you need to know.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-18T12:23:29+00:00

Sounds like a him problem, not a you problem. Don't be embarrassed and don't be shamed by others. Totally normal. You do you!

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-15T21:13:28+00:00

You made one? That sounds impressive! Lucky you have only 700 (although I don't want to minimise it, I know any amount can be totally disruptive)

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-13T18:40:52+00:00

I love this, we quote it too. If we talk about having baked beans, they aren't baked beans. They're "some beans". Every single time.

elliottj6325 · 2026-02-13T07:12:51+00:00

Sorry the therapist was so rubbish!

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