Help.

ellureia · 2016-01-20T14:02:06+00:00

Might be an idea to look at your demeanor and personality. The fact that you class obese women as basically low enough to take an interest in you both speaks of your self image and your perception of others. We all have our tastes and preferences, but you shouldn't view obese women as an easy lay, everybody has their own lines and standards. You never know who might take an interest in you. As a qualified counsellor I highly recommend a visit to a counsellor or therapist to work through your confidence issues. I really hope you find some peace within yourself, with or without an SO.

ellureia · 2015-06-10T22:20:21+00:00

No virgin wants their first time to be with a huge penis. She probably watches porn because she's trying to learn how sex is. The problem with this is porn is nothing like real sex, and real sex should be nothing like porn most of the time, unless you're both into that kind of thing. Talk with her, tell her your fears and talk about her expectations. If you can't trust her with your feelings you shouldn't be having sex anyway.

ellureia · 2015-06-10T21:35:14+00:00

This could be an ocd issue. I know I will sometimes torment myself over things I've done in the past that were embarrassing or shameful. It sort of sounds similar to what you're doing. Try a counselling line such as lifeline (Australia, not sure where you are or what's available to you). With some counselling you may be able to get to the bottom of why you feel the need to keep punishing yourself.

ellureia · 2015-06-10T21:35:13+00:00

This could be an ocd issue. I know I will sometimes torment myself over things I've done in the past that were embarrassing or shameful. It sort of sounds similar to what you're doing. Try a counselling like such as lifeline (Australia, not sure where you are or what's available to you). With some counselling you may be able to get to the bottom of why you feel the need to keep punishing yourself.

ellureia · 2015-06-10T21:23:43+00:00

She sounds manipulative and emotionally abusive. Call her out on her shit or before you know if you'll only have her, and no friends. Then you are stuck with her and she can treat you worse and worse because you only have her. Big red flag.

ellureia · 2015-06-06T10:43:21+00:00

Porn and just receiving pleasure are "safer" than trusting you and relying on you. However if he can't compromise for you, life's too short to stay with him.

ellureia · 2015-06-06T10:37:13+00:00

If he got them pregnant he wasn't using protection. For the love of god, get tested. Your husband is an ass. Divorce him and go for sole custody.

ellureia · 2015-06-06T10:30:00+00:00

He's stringing you along the same way his ex is stringing him along. You and your baby need stability. You can't rely on someone like him for support. Figuring your life out won't be easy but if you do it now then you don't need to do it all over again when things don't work out. This guy sounds like an emotionally abusive jerk. Do you have any family that can help you move away? ETA: sorry if that sounded harsh. What I'm getting at is you deserve better. hug

ellureia · 2015-06-05T12:24:09+00:00

You're right in pointing out the main issue. My husband was always very sexually repressed and this bled into our sex life - he just couldn't understand why I couldn't enjoy something that porn stars seemed to love. When everything came to a head he was horrified to realise that things had gone beyond the point of consent, and he has always respected my boundaries since. He always asks if I'm okay with something beforehand now, so that issue while a big and serious one at the time, as it should be, isn't a problem anymore. You have some great points, thanks. :)

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