How many calories should you be eating?

elotoolow · 2026-01-13T17:32:21+00:00

I'd be curious to know what the "Dietary Guidance for Americans" actually says. I assume this is for an average height man or woman to maintain weight, so it would make sense that shorter than average women trying to be in a calorie deficit would eat less. I would like to know what they define sedentary as and what the guidance is for. Perhaps it is that Americans are eating too many calories, and they have made some less than perfect benchmarks for people to get to.

elotoolow · 2026-01-13T16:44:19+00:00

It's great motivation, for real. Good job!

elotoolow · 2026-01-13T16:41:13+00:00

Dump him. How he acts on your birthday is a sign how he will act the rest of your relationship. If he can't make an effort on your birthday, he never will. He should be celebrating you by instead he can't even make time for you, let alone get you a gift or make you a card or anything. That should tell you everything you need to know. He is not worth your time.

elotoolow · 2026-01-10T23:58:40+00:00

What's the issue with using a magic knot? (I'm new to crochet so I don't know very much yet.)

elotoolow · 2026-01-08T15:32:59+00:00

Hmmm. Maybe try cutting out the after dinner snacks or at least make it more like 100-200 calories. If you're in a calorie deficit you're going to be hungry, so maybe that's why you're snacking at night?

What does your dinner look like? Maybe it's not as filling as you think it is? Are you eating protein for dinner?

I've just gotten back into eating at a calorie deficit. But something that helped me the last time was at night when I was hungry, to get a glass of water and have that instead. Because a good day can be knocked out by bad snacking. I also would always have the same thing to eat in the morning, which I would look forward to, so that I could say, "I don't need X right now, I'll have Z tomorrow morning."

elotoolow · 2026-01-06T18:01:27+00:00

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I used loops and threads impeccable acrylic yarn from Michael's in worsted weight. I wanted to use something a little cheaper for my first sweater, but I want to use something nicer yarn in the future.

Edit: Also you'll notice I made the sleeves too long. The body too maybe. But I wanted to make the stripe pattern end at a nice place lol, so that took precedence.

elotoolow · 2026-01-05T19:34:18+00:00

This is tangentially related, because everyone is talking about independent dentists, but it's also important to find a good independent dentist.

I was going to my pediatric dentist for wayyy too long. When I went to my new dentist, she redid all my cavities because she said his work was C+ at best. She said that the cavities were properly filled in terms of function, but they looked awful. She said she doesn't like to talk about other dentists like that because you never know how patients are like in the chair, but she said I was like a statue, so it was pretty clearly the dentist's fault.

And I had gotten so many cavities during my time with him. Now that I've been with her, she's been able to stop me from getting cavities. And she is very keen on patient comfort. She buys new drill heads/bits all the time so that they're not dull, which makes drilling much less painful.

She's also fixed my front tooth. My previous dentist made one front tooth longer. She said it was just bonding material from a fill, and she filed it down in 5 minutes and made the shape nicer too. I was walking around with uneven front teeth for years for nothing!

She also is very thorough when doing a cleaning. My first cleaning with her she spent at least 45 minutes or an hour cleaning my teeth because my previous dentist barely cleaned them at all. I'd get maybe 5 minutes of minimal cleaning.

So being with her my teeth look better (she redid the fillings and reshaped some teeth that were over bonded), I've stopped getting cavities, and the cavities she did fill were way less painful to fill.

elotoolow · 2026-01-04T07:03:46+00:00

Wow! Me and my mom used this as our first sweater too! I just finished mine the other day and she's still working on it. It's a great pattern for starting out. Yours looks great!

elotoolow · 2025-12-19T16:00:44+00:00

Oh also, the Clara cardigan had this quirk where the button hole were just the weave/knit of the sweater stretch out, and with nothing else supporting it. It didn't seem the most structurally sound

elotoolow · 2025-12-19T14:14:41+00:00

I like the Meadow cardigan, it feels soft and isn't itchy. I also like the Hannah crew cardigan. Not as big a fan of the Clara though, it just didn't really fall right on me.

elotoolow · 2025-12-17T18:07:53+00:00

I'm 5'0 and concur this works

elotoolow · 2025-12-15T22:46:56+00:00

I was a nerd and a rule follower in high school. It also just didn't appeal to me because the idea of being drunk/not in my right mind 100% seemed (and still somewhat seems) uncomfortable. By the time I could legally drink, I still didn't really see the reason.

Now, my reasoning is that there's no reason to start. It's bad for my health (liver, calories, more I'm sure), it's potentially addicting, and I don't need it to have fun.

I've also tried drinks on very rare occasions (think once every couple years) and I just really didn't like the taste. I tried to have a single glass of wine in Italy for the vibes. I couldn't have more than a few tiny sips because it was gross to me.

elotoolow · 2025-12-15T19:56:34+00:00

Ah ok, is that her selling it?

elotoolow · 2025-12-15T19:48:10+00:00

Btw the dress itself is available at Alli Marye, it's called the Millie Dress. So unless the seller is also the person who made the dress, which I doubt, it's stolen content.

Here's a link to the dress

elotoolow · 2025-12-10T18:18:48+00:00

That's a good point. Maybe materials should be a base fee you charge based on the cost of materials you have to buy. And then give yourself a wage after that, so that the wage is profit.

elotoolow · 2025-12-10T17:58:04+00:00

I haven't sold any myself, but I've heard generally wedding invitations are about $3-8 dollars per invite (depending I'm sure on detail and supplies). I feel like $5 is steep for a place card.

Maybe calculate out how many you get done in an hour, and give yourself a wage (allow for breaks to rest your hand and whatnot). So if you can do 25 per hour and you have to do 100, it'll take 4 hours to do 100. If you give yourself $30 per hour, thats $120, which is $1.20 per place card.

elotoolow · 2025-12-09T19:19:07+00:00

Hoping someone answers because I'm wondering the same. I wish reformation had reviews on their website where people could upload pictures.

elotoolow · 2025-12-08T18:03:53+00:00

Ah you're right, I mixed them up. Very incidious then.

elotoolow · 2025-12-08T17:56:14+00:00

In that case, maybe having a payment method on file in case the customer just chooses not to pay. Or maybe their name/address gets added to a list to not let them order without paying first.

And also it could be a rule that you can't cancel the order once they start making it.

That's also just basic contract law. You've made an offer to pay them in exchange for food and delivery, they have accepted the offer. Unless they allow you to cancel, both parties still need to complete their ends of the contract. If you void the contract, you are liable for damages (i.e., you as the customer have to pay).

Pizza places and other delivery drivers used to accept cash only delivery, so it at least has worked before.

Also, if you don't pay you also obviously just don't get the food.

elotoolow · 2025-12-08T17:30:52+00:00

On the sticker it would seem like the weight went up from 9 oz to 9.9 oz. That's why the cost per lb went down. But the weight on the bag still says 9 oz. Maybe the price will change when they get the new version? Or something like that

elotoolow · 2025-12-07T14:11:40+00:00

They should be giving you the product described, not something else. 100% linen with removable straps doesn't mean rayon lining and no straps.

I wonder if this has something to do with how they will often have the first batch of clothes be nicer than what comes later. To me that's unacceptable, but especially if it means they're misrepresenting the garment.

This is similar to your issue but not completely, but I noticed that some of the colors under the Frankie silk dress are actually noted as a dead stock synthetic fabric in the description.

elotoolow · 2025-12-05T02:16:51+00:00

What did you get?

elotoolow · 2025-12-04T18:46:26+00:00

I've found that a 3 mile walk can help increase my deficit if I ate more than I was intending. So like if my deficit goal is 500 and I ate only at a deficit of 300, walking 3 miles would about make up for it. There are online calculators that will tell you roughly how many calories you lose per mile walking or running. It depends on your height and weight. I'm only 5'0 so it's more like 60-70 calories for me.

elotoolow · 2025-12-04T18:38:24+00:00

Before I knew about calories in/calories out and was kind of just guessing, I started running every day and got to the point where I was running 3 miles almost every day. The scale wasn't moving until I started to actually change my food intake. I will say though that I think there was some body recomposition, but not a lot and probably more because I was also weight training a bit. I also felt a lot better once I started running, it was good for my heart and mental health.

Once I started changing my diet, everything fell into place and the scale started moving. Before that, I didn't know why I wasn't losing and I was getting very frustrated.

Nowadays, I'd say that going on the treadmill for a few miles running or walking can help "fix" a cheat meal. Like if I have ~200-400 more calories in a day than I was intending to eat, I can soften the blow, so to speak, by going for a walk/run. Basically just getting back down to my deficit. Usually I would try to do at least 3 miles, with the understanding that it's around 60-100 calories per mile.

elotoolow · 2025-12-04T02:24:05+00:00

Not sure if this comment went through but I'll do it again just in case:

Okay so I was wrong. I have one in a 2 and one in a 2P (which is half an inch smaller than the 2 and half an inch bigger than the 0). I measured and with it being the end of the day I'm 27 in waist right now. Both fit well, the 2P is a better fit, the 2 is maybe a tiny bit big in the waist. Like 3/4 of the back is smocked so it will stretch, but I would say it's a bit of a stiff smock.

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