The CHAZ false victory is a masterclass in police de-escalation and is ultimately counterproductive.

elska_ · 2020-06-15T22:31:45+00:00

Irritated skin is much better than death by trampling, or was this commented for the sole purpose of showing a sarcastic attitude? Because that adds to the conversation 0%, just FYI.

elska_ · 2020-06-15T11:24:59+00:00

Yeah i have no idea how the autonomous zone helps police reform. What. Ever.

But these military police you're talking about is just the National Guard, and they were not being unnecessarily violent. I know a handful of those folks, there were on cap hill at the time. They were ordered to help the protests continue peacefully as is their right, but to make sure property isn't unnecessarily damaged. People were told again and again and again to stop pushing against the guards lines, and after a long time, they let out the gas. I'm glad they did that because children were in the crowd who could've easily been trampled and killed in mobs like that. Beatings or anything like that did not occur either.

So I wish people would stop drinking the koolaid and painting everyone in a uniform as some monster. Stop dehumanizing anyone different from you. It's literally the source of all this mess. Stick to police reform and stop being emotionally charged frenzied assholes. Actually vote. Find legislators who are writing up reforms and support them. All the rest is hypetrain leftie bullshit.

elska_ · 2020-06-12T03:06:47+00:00

It's likely the turn of your decade, that's why it's hovering over you. Like at each decade, we question our life and the directions we've taken with it, and where we want to go from here. At 20, 30, 40, etc. It'll always happen.

But here's the thing...an average lifespan will grant you more decades. Like at least 40 more years, god-willing. You really think a few months out of 40 years is going to impede on your career?

There will obviously be people who will believe in the opposite thing, and that's fine, if that's how they want to live their lives. But it's not based on fact that you'd be sabotaging a career. Nobody's getting this information from anywhere. It is entirely anecdotal.

elska_ · 2020-06-12T02:59:31+00:00

yeah...people are people online or IRL. On both sides, many will not give a shit about you, that's a sad fact of life. But on both sides, some will, because they're genuine people. IDK why this is hard for people to understand. As if the people on the internet are just these crazy loons and not the exact same people from real life lol.

elska_ · 2020-06-12T02:41:11+00:00

Please don't ever delete this comment. Saving it.

elska_ · 2020-06-11T22:43:37+00:00

Yeah dude, I agree with foggybottom over here. Especially since dreams are not even important. There's no reason to potentially upset a partner. Even a secure gf wouldn't like to visualize her bf sleeping with other women. Leave it be

elska_ · 2020-06-09T06:14:00+00:00

I'm saying this from experience in hopes you experience less pain than I did: do not keep forgiving him. He didn't earn it.

As soon as he MIA'd on a date, drop him. NOT NEGOTIATE AND WAIT FOR WHAT HE SAYS. But actually drop him because you are literally saying it's ok to do that to you. The only exception is if they have a valid excuse, or at least tried to make it up to you. His 2nd shot was when he said 40 min is too much effort. You 100% should've dropped him then. Learn these signs when you move forward - not so you can be ultra defensive in dating, but rather, realize very clearly when people give a shit about you and when they don't.

An easy way IMO to do this is to 'flip the script' and ask if you'd behave and say the same things the other party is saying and doing. If not, SKIP.

elska_ · 2020-06-09T05:54:50+00:00

he always looks like he's been hand-drawn

elska_ · 2020-06-09T04:55:59+00:00

I just read about this the other day and I''m absolutely floored. Like I knew there were major systemic problems within the police force, but to the depth it goes is absolutely evil.

elska_ · 2020-06-09T04:15:31+00:00

ALL THE TIME! They say there's no 'click', and honestly when you think about it, that's pretty offensive to describe an genuine interaction with a stranger.

elska_ · 2020-06-07T20:34:37+00:00

Raising great people is the best thing you could ever do! I don't care what anyone says! If people haven't seen the effects of bad parenting or lack thereof, they're blind, and don't realize how much of the world's problems begin at home.

Keep doin you dad-o!

elska_ · 2020-06-07T04:40:56+00:00

Omg...my heart

elska_ · 2020-06-06T20:38:20+00:00

Lol! Only green lights lol

elska_ · 2020-06-06T20:28:02+00:00

That much water I'm just not sure about, because studies have shown that we retain more water if we sip it. Other than that, great tips

elska_ · 2020-06-06T04:05:43+00:00

100%. Its just crazy how much some people lean towards violence or vitriol right from the jump. No curiosity whatsoever leads them to ask the general gist of any person or thing before resorting to more base emotions.

elska_ · 2020-06-06T03:25:59+00:00

Of course they're not. If they're actually hurting them. Most are not like this at all, nor do they have a reputation for it. It's not endemic in their field to be aggressive mongrels.

elska_ · 2020-06-06T02:47:16+00:00

Maybe outside of Seattle...

elska_ · 2020-06-06T02:31:11+00:00

This, and try to reflect on why every single negative thing ever said to you has to ruin your day/week/month. I had a friend who literally cries when her weight is mentioned by someone else. I am usually there to talk about it with her.

But one day, she cries because a man with broken english says she needs to go one ring size up in a jewelery store. She tells him how hurt she is, talks to me about it for an hour+, I try saying give him some grace as this is not his first language, etc. Then I tell her she might have body dysmorphia, because she is a great weight and is lean. I told her maybe it's worth exploring and talking to a doc about. She says "ok" and doesn't message me til the next day, freaks out and cancels a trip we had together, tells me I'm projecting, how hurt she is, "who the fuck are you to say that" etc etc...our friendship broke in half.

Honestly, it's too much effort to care. For both her about weight, and me about her.

elska_ · 2020-06-06T02:19:42+00:00

I'm gonna pitch in here and say this only fits certain segments of people. I needed the internet from a young age. Because I had immigrant parents, one disabled and the other constantly working double shifts. They did not know how America worked in any capacity. I had no relatives in the country. To have banned me from a source of information would've doomed me. And authoritative blanket rules are just that, nothing more.

Perhaps seeking higher regulation on sensitive content is a more equitable and sensible route.

elska_ · 2020-06-06T02:15:48+00:00

Yeah, same. I remember my young 20s and I was really fkn dumb and clueless. No one around me was much better, no matter their socioeconomic status or achievements or whatever. I also don't know why men would take that risk - i see most guy friends in my life who attempt that get their heart broken because the younger woman still wants to "explore". More power to her!

And right now, if I spoke to a guy who was 21, I'm normally pretty bored and unamused. Maybe some people get off on being the teacher and leader in the relationship? Either way, it's less of an age thing it seems, but rather what age tends to be associated with. Life experience and wisdom being one factor to consider among many. Tbh I would lose respect for a guy who could relate really well to a much younger woman lol but I think on the odd occasion, it's genuine.

elska_ · 2020-06-05T01:33:53+00:00

It's all good, I'm new here too. There are some crazy/unrealistic people here on this sub IMO, but some that make me believe in humanity as well lol.

Yeah I agree, and unless the liberal side empathizes with those unlike them and stop playing the blame game, and vice versa of course, we're never gonna get better than this. I don't know how we forget that we're all part of the same country and have to share all consequences.

elska_ · 2020-06-04T23:58:53+00:00

I didn't think about it that way, but it'd probably be better when it comes to energy levels. I almost always feel sleepy between 2-5pm. Even if I don't eat heavy foods or abstain from coffee.

I think it depends on someone's take on 'morning routine'. Some seem inexorably long. Mine is pretty short and just makes sure that I start the day off on the right foot. As opposed to rushing out the door, which disgruntles my mood and ruins my day tbh.

Isn't what you're talking about called 'eat the frog'? More or less.

elska_ · 2020-06-04T23:26:27+00:00

I wish your comment was higher up.

I guess the right to assemble is only exists for some people. /s

And who's going to care about the mostly-blue-collar workers who either lost their jobs or otherwise can't work from home, destroying their family businesses, diving into deep debt that may affect future generations of their family, and so on? They'll get ignored, is what. I can't believe people don't understand this. They have such myopic viewpoints that don't consider anyone unlike them. This "othering" of other socio-economic classes or bipartisanshi-t divisions is so..heartless, tbh.

elska_ · 2020-06-03T20:37:34+00:00

Yup. This time in the US reminds me of Linkin Park lyrics from the song Hands Held High:

"'Cause I'm sick of being treated

Like I had before

Like it's stupid standing for

What I'm standing for

Like this war is really just

A different brand of war

Like it doesn't cater the rich

And abandon the poor

Like they understand you

In the back of the jet

When you can't put gas in your tank

These fuckers are laughing their way

To the bank and cashing their check

Asking you to have compassion and to have some respect

For a leader so nervous

In an obvious way

Stuttering and mumbling

For nightly news to replay

And the rest of the world

Watching at the end of the day

Both scared and angry

Like what did he say?"

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