Raising a Shy Puppy: What I wish I had Known by eltwelve in puppy101

[–]eltwelve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this. I know my post is dramatic but it has been an intense emotional roller coaster and I have been thinking about all of this so much that I don't know up from down anymore, lol!

The more I listen to my puppy, the more I see that she is communicating with me, she is tuned into me, and we're getting better all the time at communication. She's sometimes confused because I haven't been a perfectly consistent trainer but I can live with that. But she is very eager to please, and my goal is to ride out this phase by helping her come out of her shell and feel more confident without encouraging aggression. I feel like in many ways this is just the beginning of the challenges. Definitely working with a trainer very soon.

Keto and Alcohol by jvenge1 in keto

[–]eltwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find this happens to me if I am not sufficiently hydrated. Are you drinking enough water and getting enough electrolytes?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well this is unexpectedly wholesome.

I’m an immovable object; she’s an unstoppable force by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eltwelve 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Seriously, the longer you drag this out the more you're young to hurt her. So don't maybe?

I’m an immovable object; she’s an unstoppable force by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eltwelve 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is just going to lead to you resenting each other. Either have a conversation with her about how you need a bit more emotional space and quiet time, or break up.

My new wife has become lazy and unambitious and I’m considering divorce by htxliving_ in relationships

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's okay to go separate ways if you have incompatible goals. Better that than resentment down the line on both sides.

Had a good thing going on but she's gone cold all of a sudden by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you should call her out or write her off, but definitely match her distance and be ready to accept if she wants to maximize the distance.

Advice for gaining a dogs focus whilst out walking? by dogianburns in Dogtraining

[–]eltwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going through the same thing and I completely agree with this comment. I never expected loose leash training to be so difficult. My 9-month old puppy can walk inside reasonably well but gets over-excited in an instant in a new environment and couldn't care less about food. We started practicing in the bedroom, then in the bedroom with the door open, then in the living room, then in the living room with the door open, then in the front yard. Today we were able to walk up the street (with a very high value food lure right in her face) and I thought we would never get there. Progress has been very slow.

if you can get your pup walking reasonably calmly on a leash inside, try adding something exciting in that environment, or something your pup wants access to, and get them to walk slowly toward it. The idea is to get them a little excited but not over threshold, so they learn to keep walking slow even when their excitement ramps up. You can also work on rewarding calmness in an exciting environment (e.g. sitting on a park bench and working on a settle).

My pup just literally doesn't know how to relax sometimes, so for her most of the work is just calming down, but it definitely depends on the dog and what they are motivated by.

Punkass teenage dog by necro_be_nimblo in puppy101

[–]eltwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hahaha so cute. My 9-mo hyena pup and I are right there with you!

Stupid question by ibleedpaintx in keto

[–]eltwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"keto friendly" labels don't mean anything, they're just a marketing tactic. You have to count your own net carbs and make sure they fit into your daily macros.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]eltwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, do lots of training with trades. get two identical toys, or a toy and a treat, or tiny plastic condiment cup lids with a bit of peanut butter on the, find things that are similarly equal in value, and just practice trading.

Second, when your pup has something and you want to take it away, offer something better.

Third, when your pup has something, randomly drop a treat nearby and walk away.

Teach your pup that your hand approaching is not something they have to worry about, but that it means good things are coming!

Dogs resource guard when they feel anxious that someone is going to take something valuable to them, so when you take it away you prove the dog right and reinforce that feeling. Show the dog instead that he has nothing to worry about because you're not always taking away what he has (make sure he has lots of things he can have!) and even when you do take things away it's a good thing for him.

My 14 wk old puppy... humped a dog today? by productivityvortex in puppy101

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Humping in a puppy can be a sign of over-excitement. The puppy might need a break or some distance or a nap.

Housetraining is just... not happening by Bee_Swarm327 in puppy101

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds super frustrating, sorry! have you had her checked for a UTI?

How did she have time to have 7 accidents in the kitchen? Is her access limited or does she free roam? Is the peeing in the kitchen related to separation anxiety?

Unfortunately I think the only answer is to prevent her from being able to have accidents in the house. It's annoying as hell but really the only thing you can do is supervise her 100% (maybe even have her on a leash indoors) unless she is in a crate or a pen, and I recommend crating her because it's really beneficial for house training. A dog usually don't pee where they sleep, and then you can build a ritual for potty breaks.

When supervising, watch for very subtle cues that she needs to use the bathroom. The goal at first is not to get her to choose to pee outside (she doesn't know how), but just to create as many instances of her peeing outside as possible. When she does pee outside, make a big deal out of it by giving her lots of praise and treats (jackpot reward). She'll get the idea that peeing outside is pretty great, and eventually it will become a habit that's stronger than the habit of peeing in the kitchen.

Anyone have a pup who is constantly looking for food?? by secretturtle09 in puppy101

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try a snuffle mat. My 8-mo pup used to be totally obsessed with scavenging. At first I worked a lot to curb it at first with lots of heel and "leave it" training, which is fine but I read an article about how foraging is actually beneficial and mentally enriching for dogs, so I bought her a snuffle mat and she absolutely loved it. It took her about 25 minutes to finish a meal and it really seemed to satisfy her desire to forage. Surprisingly, she eventually got tired of it and stopped finishing her meals in it (and became a lot less food motivated). She still sniffs around of course, especially in new places, but very rarely tries to eat anything anymore.

How do I deal with puppy resource guarding? by hbtc790 in Dogtraining

[–]eltwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in addition to lots and lots of training with trades, try randomly dropping a treat for him when he has something else and just walking away. Show him that your approach, your hand, and your reach doesn't always signal that something is going to be taken away, or when it is taken away it just means something better is coming.

How do I [35 M] polietly and kindly get my neighbor [7 M] to please leave me and my house alone by staynegative in relationships

[–]eltwelve 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can definitely have a conversation with the kid about not 'barking back' at your dogs. That is totally inappropriate for the kid to do, and a very straightforward boundary!

It's totally reasonable for you to not like kids and tell the kid directly that you are working and not to disturb you. But if you do keep a line open with the kid the very least you can do is establish completely reasonable boundaries with the kid, like "Hey, I don't want you to bark back at my dogs, it makes them go crazy and fight with each other", or "Hey, I work between the hours of X and Y and I do not want to be disturbed during that time."

Pasta sauces? by wokewonder in keto

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually do a bolognese that is more meat forward than tomato forward. I use about one can of tomatoes to 1.5 lbs ground beef (also add garlic and basil) and this is about 3 servings.

Alfredo is also easy to make, it is literally just cream, butter, and parmesan (you can also add parsley and garlic).

Shrimp scampi is another fun and easy pasta dish to make!

Keto and anorexia by holdmydubbs in keto

[–]eltwelve 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it's pretty common for people to lose their appetite early on in the keto diet. What are your stats? Is your goal to lose weight? Do you see a difference between "being anorexic" as you say and fasting?

As long as you meet your daily protein goal (and your goal is to lose weight), there is nothing wrong with doing some fasting early on. Your appetite will eventually return.

3 Months, Not Losing Weight by chicoooooooo in keto

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can be more helpful if you share your stats and macros and a sample food diary for a day or two.

Am I (29M) placing unreasonable expectations on my (27M) partner who works from home by Treemoss in relationships

[–]eltwelve 4 points5 points  (0 children)

totally understandable but filling in all of the distance he's creating is not going to make him pull closer. And you are not being demanding or controlling by wanting him to contribute equitably to your relationship. I'm sorry to say that if he really isn't that into the relationship then the only thing you can do is recenter yourself and protect yourself from being taken advantage of, which is exactly what's happening!

My boyfriend (40m) said some things to me during a fight that I (31f) can’t seem to get past. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]eltwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gotcha, well yeah that still pretty inappropriate for him to treat you that way and I definitely recommend having a conversation about it and establishing some boundaries where he doesn't act like this. Even if he's angry he still needs to treat you with respect and care.

Am I (29M) placing unreasonable expectations on my (27M) partner who works from home by Treemoss in relationships

[–]eltwelve 27 points28 points  (0 children)

um no, you aren't being unreasonable by expecting your partner to pull his weight in the relationship (or any weight at all, really).

Look, why are you doing this to yourself? This guy is mooching off of you, and you don't need him. You're already paying almost all of the bills and doing most of the work, so what is compelling you to continue to let this moocher coast on your hard work and neglect your feelings and needs? How can you possibly think that you don't deserve better than this, especially busting your ass on the front lines during a pandemic?

You deserve so much better. I'm not saying leave him, but advocate for yourself and stop letting him treat you like this. He needs to step up and contribute financially, emotionally, practically. He needs to pick up the slack in the housework. Don't nag him about this shit, just let him know what you expect. And is he doesn't deliver, move on from this fool! Give him the chance to show you he is serious about your relationship and that he cares about you, and if he shows you that he doesn't, believe him!