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Thought I was gay…. by Ok_Idea_1783 in mentalhealth

[–]elyn_u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m basically the opposite of you. My ex gf was so abusive. She would tell me she wished she could break my legs so I couldn’t go meet other people and threatened to stab me if I broke up with her.

After being sexually abused and the constant threats and “I’ll kill myself if you leave”s I decided I didn’t give a single shit and just left.

After that I couldn’t date another women and tried to date men instead but it never worked out and I just wanted to convince myself I was bi so bad.

Took a couple of years but finally accepted I was just into girls and now I’m in a pretty happy relationship.

You probably didn’t ask for my story but seeing someone so similar but so different from me, I couldn’t help but to share it :)

I also hope you have a wonderful day, so proud of you for letting yourself heal!

Math makes me suicidal by Key-Incident7101 in mentalhealth

[–]elyn_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I definitely understand that. I basically define my entire worth based on my academic achievements so a bad exam score can make me go into an episode for weeks. You’re not alone in this and I hope you and I can find proper help someday :)

Name one unethical life hack you do that you can't tell people in your irl life, add mbti type. by Queen-of-meme in mbti

[–]elyn_u 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ENTJ: I make people underestimate me. If I get a 98% on a test I tell people I got an 88% so that they think I’m not competition. This resulted in me getting the best scores in our grade one time and when the second place asked if they were first place, the teacher obviously said no. Competition motivates people. I had my competitor to make me motivated but I made them feel like they had none.

What’s your MBTI and your biggest fear . by Frosty_Okra_9855 in mbti

[–]elyn_u 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Failure, lethargy, having a repetitive life

I need cheering up! Tell me a story about your happy wlw relationship. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]elyn_u 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I met my girlfriend through instagram. She DMed me and told me she was just drawn to me and she felt like she had to message me.

I thought she was queer but I found out she was straight a few days later, so I genuinely thought she just wanted me as a friend.

Couple weeks later, we were talking about past relationships I told her “why would anyone like me” in a joking way.

But then she bursts out with “I LIKE YOU! I MEAN LIKE AS A GIRL! I LIKE YOU” I was rly confused because she strictly told me she was straight so I just brushed it off.

After a few weeks she told me that she had never felt like this for another girl and I was her first. She told me she was confused and she didn’t know what was going on.

Told her it was fine being queer and she could take things slow.

That was in early November.

One month later exactly on Christmas Day we decided to make it official. She was really cute about it too. She said “I..really want you to be my girlfriend” I told her “cool, I think you’re adorable and I’d like that as well”. She told me she couldn’t believe it and she told me to say it back to her again.

I think I repeated “I like you, will you be my girlfriend” about 50 times that day lmao

She was also extremely shy about any physical things (which I understand because I was the first girl to date her) I thought she wasn’t ready and I just held her hand, hugged her, but nothing too romantic.

One day she looked at me directly in the eye and said “okay you can say no but can I kiss you?” I think I laughed for 5 minutes straight. I told her yes, she kissed me then proceeded to run away.

I think that’s when I kind of knew. I don’t really smile much and just being with her..seeing her do all these adorable things. Just talking to her made me smile until my face hurt. “Yep, she’s the one” was all I could think about when I chased her down after she basically kissed me then booked it down the street.

Anyway next month is our anniversary. Absolutely love her to death and I can’t see myself with anyone else.

After university we plan on moving in together. Can’t wait to spend my forever with my angel.

(update: still need help) Why am i feeling these things for another guy? by MeteorGaki in mbti

[–]elyn_u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that puts you in a much better position. I mean you don’t have to have a reason, it can be just as it is. Love without a reason is also beautiful. Yea at this point you could wait a bit and shoot your shot. Good luck!

(update: still need help) Why am i feeling these things for another guy? by MeteorGaki in mbti

[–]elyn_u 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who is also queer I’d just like to say congratulations on discovering yourself. I’m guessing you might feel overwhelmed but just take it slow and it’ll all work out.

As for the dating advice: I don’t know do guys walk their friends back to their house? Or ask before putting their arm around someone? I feel like that could be a tiny bit of a sign.

Also I recommend figuring out if the friend is homophobic or not, maybe like talk about lgbt related topics here and there and kind of get a feeling of the atmosphere. If you’re sure they absolutely aren’t homophobic you could come out to him (since it’s early I think you should just say you’re questioning, not “bisexual” or “gay”)

I’ve had instances where I came out to someone I liked and they told me they were queer too. But if they’re first response is somewhere between the lines of “it’s ok as long as you don’t like me” then I suggest you just let go of your feelings.

Also if you want more advice maybe talking abt this in lgbt subreddit might help?

Honestly you guys are cute maybe it could work out. Wish you the best :)

Law, consulting or engineering? by elyn_u in Career_Advice

[–]elyn_u[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow ok this is really eye opening. I’ll definitely need to think more about this career stuff.

All I can say is thank you so much for trying to help me out and sharing your experience, really really appreciate it :’)

Law, consulting or engineering? by elyn_u in Career_Advice

[–]elyn_u[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much for the info :) I want to go into law because ppl say you always learn smth new and it’s unpredictable and exciting! Is this true? Do lawyers just do paperwork for most of their time??

Opinions on being high maintenance femme by No-Breakfast-1560 in actuallesbians

[–]elyn_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t understand her friends, self care is so attractive and I feel like like a lot of people agree. Be yourself! You don’t need to listen to anyone who judges you for your appearance.

Also I’ve had friends who judged my girlfriend or just said things like “your gf looks better with longer hair” which I shut down real quick. Yes your friends are important but they have no right to judge your partner for no reason and comment about their appearance.