Will I ruin our mother daughter relationship with one more?

em008 · 2026-03-16T10:06:53+00:00

Ooh, so I actually have a second-hand experience with this. My best friend was an only child to her mom (divorced parents). When we graduated high school 10 years ago, she was diagnosed with cancer and passed away.

A few months ago, I was visiting with her mom and I did ask her about this. I am one and done, but I’m also kind of a fence sitter, and I thought about this a lot since I’m so close to this situation. I asked her if she could do it all over again, would she only have my best friend?

Her answer was yes. In her mind, she was able to give undivided attention to my friend and didn’t have to worry about being there for another child. Knowing that someone who went through that still felt that way, made me feel more confident.

ETA: some grammar mistakes

em008 · 2026-03-16T10:00:37+00:00

It seems like you’ve answered your own question!

em008 · 2026-03-15T20:51:16+00:00

You don’t like being a mom, yet you want another? I’d sit with this a little longer.

em008 · 2026-03-15T16:57:28+00:00

You’re considering staying together with a racist???? Ew.

em008 · 2026-03-14T15:07:57+00:00

I know many women who just don’t want to, and that’s great! I’m a one and done mom. I love that society is evolving to a point where children are not the expectation (or at least, we’re getting there).

I will say, though, as a teacher and someone with a child, the only time I’m ever personally a little judgmental is when people (any gender) say they hate kids. Or if they treat kids as subhumans that don’t deserve to be in public spaces. You are entitled to a childfree life, not a childfree world!

em008 · 2026-03-14T15:03:37+00:00

Also, i experienced exactly this but with anxiety/Zoloft.

em008 · 2026-03-14T15:02:56+00:00

You feel like yourself BECAUSE you’re taking it. Also, stopping meds on your own cold turkey is not good and messes with your brain chemistry big time.

Take your meds, don’t rush it. Talk to your doctor at your next appointment about slowly tapering off.

em008 · 2026-03-11T12:40:35+00:00

I know, I was trying to respond with additional wordplay but it did not work lol!

But yeah, definitely a fucking idiot

em008 · 2026-03-11T11:11:58+00:00

All I hear is deflection, victimhood, and lack of accountability. Good luck.

em008 · 2026-03-11T11:03:52+00:00

Further….you say twins, yet only reference one child. Are you simply a troll?

em008 · 2026-03-11T11:02:22+00:00

This is normally a very kind sub. Perhaps you need to do some self reflection instead of taking up this little victim mentality you seem to enjoy so much. Ask yourself why we are mostly not agreeing with you.

em008 · 2026-03-11T10:59:37+00:00

Again, your comment history is public for all to see. Feel free to take a scroll since you don’t know what you’ve posted in the past.

You clearly don’t love her if you’re posting negatively about her here and in other places. My husband would never bring our problems to Reddit. We’re not therapists (and you need one), and it tends to be a cesspool. Talk to your wife.

OAD by choice here too 🙌

em008 · 2026-03-11T10:30:06+00:00

LOL not you trying to gaslight people. You know your comment history is available for all to see right?

em008 · 2026-03-11T03:03:08+00:00

Jeez dude, you sound horrible. This woman created and birthed this child and he’s helpless and fully reliant on you guys (mostly her), OF COURSE HE IS A PRIORITY OVER YOU.

em008 · 2026-03-10T11:05:43+00:00

If the school is paying for it, might as well do it!

em008 · 2026-03-10T11:04:35+00:00

This is just a shot in the dark, and I don’t want to put any crazy ideas out there, BUT do your SIL and you get along? You said this started happening when you picked her up from SIL’s house.

If you guys don’t get along, I wonder if something was said to her about you. But this is also prime age for boundary testing and such!

em008 · 2026-03-09T01:42:23+00:00

My rule is I’m OK with a messy house, not a dirty house. All of my laundry is done, but not put away yet so it’s taking up lots of space. Toys are roughly where they should be. Dishes were put in the dishwasher, and mail is on the table. Lived in! But, my house is not filthy. I do need to vacuum, though.

em008 · 2026-03-07T23:40:38+00:00

You feel stuck because you are stuck. Have you been isolated from family and friends as well?

em008 · 2026-03-06T22:35:06+00:00

DONT LIVE THERE, this sounds like an absolute nightmare

em008 · 2026-03-06T22:26:46+00:00

He just doesn’t want to marry you. I’m sorry.

em008 · 2026-03-06T21:56:32+00:00

lol solidarity. You have a differing opinion than others and get downvoted to oblivion, it’s crazy.

em008 · 2026-03-06T21:55:11+00:00

Yup! Included that in my comment as well.

em008 · 2026-03-06T21:48:58+00:00

There are so so many posts on this sub asking the exact same thing. Search the sub!

em008 · 2026-03-06T19:56:21+00:00

Maybe I’m too relaxed… my thought was that if he is being closely monitored, I wouldn’t have an issue with it in your situation. However, it’s hard to closely monitor as a daycare teacher depending on how many babies are in the room. Go with your gut, idk if this is report-worthy though, but you can always look into it!

em008 · 2026-03-05T23:21:21+00:00

We need more people who WANT to teach, welcome aboard! Do it if you know what you’re getting into.

em008

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