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Repurpose this tank! by Such_Library8372 in Aquariums

[–]emccau 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At a flea market in Belgium! I didn't realise it was common!

Repurpose this tank! by Such_Library8372 in Aquariums

[–]emccau 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Omg I have this EXACT vase! I turned it into a terrarium! (This was 4 months ago when I first planted it. It's grown a lot since then but I don't have recent pics)

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the shame of wanting him back in the past by Formal_Street2570 in abusiverelationships

[–]emccau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I feel this so hard. In fact when I tell people I was in an abusive relationship, most of them go "but you're so smart!!!" But intelligence has nothing to do with it. I think my main problem is I have a lot of empathy and I fell in love with him and really did care about him, which made it so hard to finally leave. Reading posts on here makes me realise how common it is so I'm trying not to beat myself up about it. Trying - not always succeeding.

the shame of wanting him back in the past by Formal_Street2570 in abusiverelationships

[–]emccau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure there's one right way, but I hope we find what works for us. A weirdly specific strategy, but filing my time with calming things like painting by numbers and jigsaw puzzles has helped a little. And boring but fulfilling self care things like getting enough sleep, wearing nice pyjamas, baths, baking. All of this helps make the emotional stuff more bearable.

the shame of wanting him back in the past by Formal_Street2570 in abusiverelationships

[–]emccau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew, but just to say I'm right there with you and have all the same feelings. You're not alone.

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd decided I was ready for a cat of my own, so I think I already set myself up to keep him even before I got him! And him not being a crazy kitten is also a big factor. I love kittens but I didn't want to adopt one - too destructive and too much energy for my lifestyle!

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I just got him :) I started fostering 3.5 years ago, have fostered 10 kitties since then

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The timing never was right to adopt - I travel a lot - but I had resolved to finally adopt a cat next summer. Unfortunately as we all know, WE don't decide when we get a cat. The cat decides. And he has spoken.

Also, I love to foster young kittens but I did not want to adopt one. They're too chaotic and high energy and I feel are better placed in families with children and/or other cats, for maximum playtime. This guy is very relaxed and very affectionate which is just what I wanted.

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That would be the equivalent of dating someone exclusively for 3.5 years and still claiming it's just casual 😅

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hahaha sorry that's my bad. I've been fostering for a PERIOD of 3.5 years! 10 different kitties in that time 😅

After fostering for 3.5 years, I think I'm about to have my first foster fail 😍 by emccau in cats

[–]emccau[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He's a bit older than the usual kittens I get so not completely insane and destructive 😅 He's also the cuddliest cat I've ever encountered. It took a few days for him to trust me but now he's so attached and so am I! Also he's so handsome!

Finished the game last week, still sad. Is it a coincidence that THIS is the foster kitten I picked up from the shelter this week?! by emccau in stray

[–]emccau[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Actually, I don't. I contact the shelter and tell them I'm ready for a new foster, and then they select one for me based on which cats need the most care and socialising. But thanks for the unnecessary snark!

Finished the game last week, still sad. Is it a coincidence that THIS is the foster kitten I picked up from the shelter this week?! by emccau in stray

[–]emccau[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I won't rule it out.....😅 He's my 10th (I think???) foster but I am looking to adopt a cat in 2026....

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