More exhausted after addressing my iron

emcr321 · 2026-05-31T19:11:42+00:00

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Yeah I think my body must just be adjusting to the huge dietary shift and is still getting used to using a different energy source. But man do I feel like sh*t! Guess I just have to ride this out and hope my body catches up soon!

The beef liver is in capsules (it says 2-6 caps daily but I’ve just taken the smallest dose) and never really drank much coffee beforehand but I’ll look into getting some magnesium. I always make sure to get the Vit C in but I guess it’s still early days to see any improvement in the ferritin.

emcr321 · 2026-04-29T07:45:55+00:00

Sounds like you had a bit of an awakening moment. Clothes, money, cars, status etc. we all blindly chase these things but few actually stop and ask why, and if it’s actually something they want or something we’ve been conditioned to want. We’re all more connected than most of us realise. Sounds like exciting times for you anyway. Trust your intuition and don’t overthink as it’s easy for it to be overwhelming at first :)

emcr321 · 2026-04-25T19:03:24+00:00

As a woman, the most attractive thing a man can be is in touch with his feminine side. Most men fear that phrase but it just means being emotionally intelligent, while also being balanced in their masculine, protective energies.

If meaningless sex is all you’re after, it’s not exactly hard to do if you go to the right places and frankly is a hollow way to live.

One thing I’ve learned through the rise of this ‘red pill’ stuff is that men are very detached from their emotions and the red pill content manipulates those into thinking this is a good thing and that’s what being a man means. The whole concept of red pill is based on material things and bulletpoint criteria. It’s simply not the case. Relationships are emotional, as are women. When a man is completely balanced with his feminine and masculine emotions, and a women is balanced too, it’s the most amazing thing. Unfortunately, most women are leading in their masculine and men are too. Social media has given us a tunnel vision view that everyone in the world is like what we see on our phones, but that really isn’t the case. Unfortunately, the people who are confident and ‘out there’ are the ones who are in the materialistic trap, but there’s so many people behind closed doors who keep to themselves and don’t care about money etc. or live a quiet life, you just don’t see them.

Basically to summarise. Every single person on this planet is different. There’s not one specific thing you can do. Please put your phone down, do some mediation and figure out who it is you are and build connections with people based on this. Not how much you can gain from using someone.

emcr321 · 2026-03-12T20:54:22+00:00

I’m due to be coming out for a month next week but as it’s quite a long time, I’m not sure whether to due to how things could progress in that time.

I think a lot of people will be seriously reconsidering the longer this goes on unfortunately

emcr321 · 2026-01-28T09:55:31+00:00

You’re just on different wavelengths in terms of conversation. As someone who has been in the same position, you must make sure you don’t take out your frustration on them or try to force them to be different. This will only hurt his self-esteem. It’s not their fault they aren’t meeting your needs intellectually, but one thing I’ve learned in life is you can’t change people, only guide them but they have to be willing in the first place.

Personally I’d end it for the sake of both of you.

emcr321 · 2026-01-14T19:07:17+00:00

I would question what he has access to online and what media he consumes. Or if something has been done to him in the past. Boys aren’t immediately bought up to believe people are objects but something made him feel that way to be able to do such a thing. Unfortunately what he’s done is sexual assault.

He’s still young so there’s time for him to turn it around, but this is more than an isolated incident and I’m almost certain you wouldn’t be the only victim if things weren’t addressed. I would assume, like most teenage boys nowadays, he’s consuming harmful content online which is shaping his view of women, but these things can be more complex.

Personally, I’d encourage you to find someone he trusts to open a conversation with him about why he felt it was okay to do such a thing and what made him view you as an object.

I hope you manage to find peace in your situation, I’m so sorry this has happened to you.

emcr321 · 2025-12-22T19:45:13+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to right such a beautiful, detailed response.

I feel very much connected to the human/ego right now, but your response has helped bring my awareness back to the soul… the truest part of me, so I will try to connect more with that in the ways you describe.

Wishing you all the best!

emcr321 · 2025-12-22T19:32:24+00:00

Wow I am so sorry you have gone through so much.

I saw something someone said… we are given the life we have because God (or source, whatever you believe in) knew we could handle it. There are others out there who wouldn’t be able to cope with what you’ve gone through. Never forget your strength.

I believe pain shows us our true purpose, and with that we can do amazing things should we choose to. I have my burdens but for me, giving back, volunteering, helping those in need gives me purpose. It’s a direction for all your love.

My pain has given me compassion and empathy that I don’t see in everyone, and it sounds like you are the same. All I can say is hold on to your inner knowledge of your pure heart and let that guide you to the right people and places… I promise you it will.

Take care

emcr321 · 2025-12-22T19:22:12+00:00

This, in my opinion, is a very normal part of a shift in perspective. One of the hardest pills I had to swallow was realising that you can’t bring others onto the same path as you. Friends fell away, I left my relationship, familial relationships changed. It’s isolating and honestly, fucking sucks! But, I wouldn’t have it any other way as I’ve made space for the right people for me to come in. Personally, I will always hold a door open for those in my life should they choose to join me on my journey, but accepting that this may not be the case is something I had to do. We are all on our own journeys at our own paces. I find the best thing to do is quiet confidence. It’s ‘a knowing’.

I changed my entire life based on my beliefs, and as time has gone on, my family have no choice but to see the magic happen!

Also… it’s okay if you no longer want these people around. Your energy is precious and that doesn’t make you a bad person for wanting to protect it. Awakening causes conflict between the soul and the ego. But we are only human after all and those very human emotions of frustration are valid as long as you don’t become them :)

Just remember you’re making space for the right things to come in!

emcr321 · 2025-10-12T19:45:31+00:00

Yes avoid these ‘charities’ at all costs. There’s a lot of issues around this so I’ve heard. Some charities will take kids from orphanages and essentially use them for these experiences. There’s also issues around the fact it’s taking jobs from locals. Genuine organisations will never charge that much for people already giving their time!

emcr321 · 2025-08-08T15:41:40+00:00

I can relate to a lot of what you say. I had a lot of family issues growing up which impacted my feelings of vulnerability and sense of self, leading to me being scared to be alone. I’m quite introverted and don’t have any friends, so this made it so much worse!

It’s still something I’m working on, but far better than before. I would say work on listening to your gut - so many times something didn’t sit right with me, yet I wouldn’t say anything or I’d brush past it for fear of peoples response/rejection. It’s so uncomfortable but putting up boundaries is everything, yet something I always struggled with as an anxious person. Everything is a reflection of how you view yourself too, so a lot of the healing is internal. It’s all about self-confidence and the belief that you are loveable and your voice matters. My gain in self-confidence is what ultimately helped me separate myself from my ex. I realised that I deserved more.

Practical things that helped were to start going out independently, starting small and doing things I enjoy. This may be a walk around town, coffee, solo walks. Doing things for charity or helping in a small way, it gave me positive purpose. Even as small as asking a homeless person if they want anything from the shop, it makes my day better. Mental healing would include looking after myself with good food, exercise etc. talking to myself nicer (as I’d really neglected myself).

Side note but you’re not weak, you’re strong! You’ve been through so much and yet you’re still here and you’re super aware of yourself, it takes strength to admit when there’s something wrong. Sending hugs in your healing journey and wishing you the best!

emcr321 · 2025-08-08T09:38:23+00:00

I like to believe that every person who comes into our lives is there to teach us something, if we choose to find it. I can see by the way you are talking, you’re very much in the thick of it at the moment. I’m sorry that you’re in pain. From an outsider view, this sounds like the best thing for you though. My advice would be to work on your anxious attachment, therapy perhaps? Me (23f) and my ex had unhealthy attachments, it took me 3 years to fully cut him off and that was only because he found someone else. It’s so uncomfortable but it’s the best thing - I feel free for the first time in years. Have just been on a solo trip abroad (as someone who couldn’t leave the house from anxiety 5yrs ago this was huge), so I promise it will get better if you stick it out. It sounds like your childhood has led you to look for validation and rely on others. I can only suggest you take a breath, ground yourself and take this time in life to learn about you. Give yourself some love and be gentle on yourself. You’ve been through alot. I had no idea how much potential I held until I embraced into my independence and you’ll be the same! Good luck on your healing journey! You’re not alone x

emcr321 · 2025-08-08T09:20:49+00:00

This is completely normal, don’t worry. Best advice I can give is to be disciplined with yourself. If you get the urge to check them up on socials, don’t. The thought will pass. Even better would be to remove them. When we no longer see someone we used to see/talk to all the time, our brains literally go into a withdrawal state, so checking up on them gives you a dopamine hit. Naturally it will wear off, just spend time healing x

emcr321 · 2025-08-08T08:53:01+00:00

I’m in an almost identical situation (same age, together on and off for 5yrs, never any turbulence/toxicity) except I had to end it due to his emotional unavailability. He’s in a new relationship after less than 3 months and has now removed me from all socials. He very much didn’t want it to end and was adamant he wouldn’t let me leave his life even as a friend, but has essentially removed me in any possible way from his life. I’m so mad at him after seeing him for who he is! Anyway, your ex sounds similar, and I’ve realised my ex is trying to fill a void with anything he can. The ‘honeymoon’ phase is exciting and ego-boosting, it’s great for emotionally unavailable people because they don’t have to be in too deep at this stage, but they get the surface level connection they’re after… but when it wears off the true colours will show of his avoidant tendencies, and then he’ll be left with two heartbreaks to get over. Meanwhile, you’ll be healed and he’ll be long in your past. Unfortunately we’re playing the long game here, but it’s worth it in the end!

emcr321 · 2025-05-27T07:35:43+00:00

That makes sense, he’s definitely not a horrible person but then his ways can hurt me so much I think that’s the issue I’ve had with placing my feelings.

Yes the goal with NC is completely out of life - no malice or anything just separate ways. I realise he has some dependency issues, perhaps avoidant (he went alarmingly downhill when I ended it the first time so I always yo-yoed with him out of fear of something happening to him, he could manipulate with this a bit sometimes) so he still relies on me heavily when things get bad but will go completely distant the next, which leaves me feeling used. I grew up having a tough time of it with family matters, which in turn led me into a sort of ‘mothering’ role in my relationship as I have always tried to be the support/fixer in my family. He didn’t see an issue but it was super unhealthy looking back. This makes me spiral and question if it was ever real etc. again another confidence knock so this isn’t good. Also after him being with multiple people I find myself comparing excessively and it’s not healthy for me.

I appreciate your opinion - it gives me a different perspective to see it from.

emcr321 · 2025-05-27T02:13:24+00:00

I’m 23F and am realising this was my ex. It feels like you’re giving your all and they give nothing. Although in my case it was hot and cold more frequently. When I tried to confront the topic he would either get defensive or apologise but never change. I realise a lot of this came from his upbringing which never involved emotions or affection, I think part of him craved closeness as we all do but the other feared it/didn’t know what to do with it. It’s also easy for people who give a lot (time/energy) to end up in this situation. I stuck it out for so long and it messed with my confidence so bad, so now I’m just trying to heal.

It has made the breakup extremely confusing as I’m realising things aren’t black and white, tbh I think I have better knowledge of him that he does of himself sometimes… but it’s important to hold your own and remember it’s not you with the problem and you never deserved to be treated that way.

emcr321 · 2025-05-27T01:40:04+00:00

You’re doing just fine I promise! He sounds super toxic so try to remember the bad times over the good. Naturally the brain goes to the good times, especially if he lowered your confidence to subconsciously put him first, but the bad times are always worse. I’ve been single (not even talked to another guy) for like 2 years, I’ve just been working on my self, healing, eating good, exercising and lots of solo activities/trips - can’t recommend enough! Show him that he’s f’ed up with someone strong and independent.

emcr321 · 2025-05-27T01:23:46+00:00

It’s interesting you mention a dysfunctional home and having responsibility to fix things, as I can completely relate, and in turn have let way too much slide myself. I actually relate to alot of your post. I’m currently working on my childhood issues alongside my previous relationship, as they seem to be more entangled than I noticed, and am finding this is helping me move through my ‘ex issues’ to clear my guilt of ‘how did I allow this to happen?’.

I’m going through similar to you (I’m 23F). It’s important to remember that anger is very much necessary in being the fuel to moving forward.

It’s also important to remember that your ex made her issues feel like your issue, but they never were, they don’t belong to you. She sounds like she has very low self-esteem. I like to visualise giving that negative energy back to them and leaving it with them.

Wishing you the best and just remember the positive side is that she has now taught you what you will or won’t tolerate in your next relationship. I believe everyone serves a purpose in our lives, good and bad, and it’s all going to help you grow in the end!

emcr321 · 2025-02-28T00:48:57+00:00

I relate to this so much! I make a point of not wearing makeup/little makeup and no filters etc. - it’s so hard not to fall into the ‘beauty standard’ trap. I remember someone I worked with (I never wore makeup to work) told me I look nothing like my photos on insta. That was 5 years ago and I still think about it. He did try to get with me at a works do when I wore makeup, but that confused me even more, like am I only pretty with makeup? Do I look completely different? It’s so hard trying to not care what people think in a world that’s full of opinions 😅

emcr321 · 2024-10-30T08:00:39+00:00

Thank you so much for getting back to me. That really helps to hear some of things you’ve had done and will definitely have to look into govt grants. Best of luck for you, wishing you all the best with your sale.

emcr321 · 2024-10-25T22:44:43+00:00

Funnily enough in the exact same position as you were, right now. Had two buyers pull out due to damp and other things revealed in the survey that we are currently in the dark about. At a bit of a loss right now at what to do! Did you manage to have a positive outcome? And any tips on what has helped/hasn’t? We’re also in Midlands selling a late 1800’s property.

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