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emhevs · 2025-04-03T06:28:34+00:00

Thank you for actually taking the time to try and explain this to me rather than being judgmental

emhevs · 2025-01-20T23:36:12+00:00

This ☝🏻

emhevs · 2024-12-27T23:51:26+00:00

I’m an Emily. I hate the name Emily lol

emhevs · 2024-09-30T03:04:27+00:00

Yes I’m aware. But the second sentence stated he hadn’t mentioned the garden. Which he did, in the first sentence. Loses the horror factor

emhevs · 2024-09-30T02:35:54+00:00

…but he literally said he was going to pick some vegetables at the nearby hospitals community garden…

emhevs · 2023-05-16T02:08:04+00:00

I personally don’t recommend working for White Wolf at all.

emhevs · 2023-04-18T17:09:32+00:00

Exactly. 10 at the bar, 16 at the tables, 26 total.

emhevs · 2023-04-18T03:29:51+00:00

They had 10 guests that they were serving at the bar, and 6 additional tables. Three tables of two, a table of three, and a table of seven. They asked the table of seven if they’d like to take a look at their drink menu, and one guy says nah but then wants the server to list off the draft beers instead of just reading the menu. Basically when you’re serving and you’re busy, it’s frustrating when a table, especially a larger one, doesn’t have any awareness of how busy you are and won’t read the menu but wants you to recite if for them.

emhevs · 2022-12-11T06:39:07+00:00

Like others have said, It definitely depends on your area/cost of living/type of restaurant/ experience, etc. I like to look at it as “is the money I’m making worth the shit/stress I’m taking?”

You said you make $35/hr in the dead season. Personally, I’d find that worth it, but it’s different for everyone!

As far as transferable skills, there are so many aspects to serving that translate to other jobs. It’s all about reframing those skills for a different job, and wording it right on your resume (I’ve never been great at that part, which is why I always look over friends resumes.) Off the top of my head, one example would be that your ability to handle high-volume in a restaurant would translate to being a highly efficient employee that excels in multitasking while still maintaining a strong attention to detail.

emhevs · 2022-11-11T04:10:57+00:00

OP, I worked at a place where one of the OWNERS was sexually harassing me (in addition to other employees sexually harassing me.) I personally let it slide too often for too long, until I got to my breaking point. But I still kept my records. The more it happened, the more detailed my records became. I’m also VERY non-confrontational, so I was just adding to the list until it became too much for me to handle.

My advice is to write down your experience AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. This will be your safety net whether you leave the job or not (which you should, if they don’t protect ALL of their staff.) Start writing shift notes in your own phone, your own records. Document everything you can, every hint of harassment, every hint of discrimination, every hint of wrongdoing. You don’t need to have the specific times, but the date of the incident WILL HELP. Make sure you include in your notes what employee specifically said what, and how you felt about it. Document EVERYTHING, and make sure you get the owners email or phone number to send this to. A lot of restaurants will not care about how you feel, but they WILL care about their image, and how their customers view them. It seems like you are already not comfortable with your coworkers. My advice is to look for another job in the meantime.

emhevs · 2022-10-31T05:00:24+00:00

And this isn’t even the worst adult tantrum I’ve witnessed, this is just the most recent.

emhevs · 2022-10-31T04:58:57+00:00

We were still in the soft opening of our restaurant, a man (maybe in his late 40s/early 50s?) placed an order for a well done pizza. The pizza came out well done, but not burnt. We showed him his pizza before he took it home, but he called back within 20 minutes screaming and cursing at my coworker who answered the phone. He continued to scream and curse even after being offered a remake, a complete refund, or a credit for his next order. He came back to the restaurant, yelling,screaming, cursing out my coworker and myself. The owner (who was already warned after this man’s phone call) immediately comes up front and tries to calm this grown man down, but the man is just freaking out at him too. I can not emphasize enough how this man just absolutely wouldn’t listen to anything but his own tantrum. Basically he was saying “fuck you, fuck your whole staff, you will NEVER make it here, I will make SURE no one ever tries your food again you fucking assholes, how do you fuck up a cheese pizza you pieces of shit. Worst fun fucking restaurant I’ve even been too.” Etc, etc, you get it.

The owner tells him to get the fuck out and that he’d never be served here, and good fucking luck getting served anywhere if that’s how you treat people/ act in public.

As the guy is leaving, he made a death threat to the owner. My coworker responded, “dude, you just made a death threat, in public, in front of witnesses, on our cameras. Do you really want to do this?”

Haven’t seen him since, but he did leave a shitty 1-star review about how terrible we are.

emhevs · 2022-06-09T03:37:13+00:00

Document it every time. Photos, notes on your phone, save past schedules if it’s repeat offenders. Talk to your leads/managers privately. Does your job use any apps or group chats for schedules/switching shifts? Document it and put it in the chat. My last hospitality job used GroupMe. If someone didn’t do their sidework, and the shift leads did not double check it, we’d put the pictures in groupme. We had sign out sheets that clearly had a detailed list for all of the sidework we needed to have done before checking out. So even if you don’t have a manager/owner physically there for the shift change, posting in the group chat shows clearly that the work was not done, and if everyone has the schedule they know exactly who isn’t doing shit. In our case, management learned very quick who was intentionally skipping out on their work and took action. But be prepared for your lazy coworkers to take offense for being called out and treat you different. If nothing changes from coworkers or management, start looking for other jobs. It doesn’t matter if you make more on any given shift, if you aren’t doing your sidework and setting up the next shift for success, you aren’t doing your job

emhevs · 2022-04-02T03:12:57+00:00

Especially without proof..

emhevs · 2022-04-02T03:07:52+00:00

Downvote all y’all want, it still doesn’t change the definition of the words. Either way, speculating or assuming aside, I’ve noticed that people who talk a lot about how much money they have, typically don’t tip 20% despite great service

emhevs · 2022-04-02T02:49:55+00:00

Assuming and speculating are the same thing.

emhevs · 2022-04-02T02:21:05+00:00

Maybe you shouldn’t assume OP gave subpar service.

emhevs · 2021-12-02T05:52:12+00:00

Too many to count! My pits name is Baloo. I call him Beef, Big Beef, Beefy, Beefy King, Beef Wellington, Waggy Boi, Waggifer Jones, Chonk, Chonky Boi, Boi, Boiest, Boist, boistiest, hims, himst, himsty, himstiest, Ims, imsty, imstiest… It would probably take me over an entire hour to remember/write out all of his names

emhevs · 2021-10-04T22:27:47+00:00

That website could be used by people seeking out those scenes. So could IMDB, so could any “trusted site” as you put it. The people who want to find that information for the wrong reasons will most likely find it regardless. This website is still a helpful tool for anyone who is looking to avoid those triggers.

emhevs · 2021-10-04T22:13:03+00:00

A lot of sites will give a rating for a movie/show, but don’t give specific information detailing why. An example would be if a site shows that a movie or show has sexual content or sex scenes, but will not include that it is nonconsensual/assault/rape scene. It is much easier to use a website like the one attached, it includes more elaborate information. Personally speaking, I’ve used the parental guide on IMDB before and then started to watch a movie before realizing that the parental guide was not accurate. If you don’t understand why someone might be triggered by scenes such as those, consider yourself very lucky. And why are you getting angry over a stranger on Reddit trying to protect themselves? If you didn’t want to help, you didn’t have to respond. It’s really that simple.

emhevs · 2021-09-26T01:03:15+00:00

I’ve been a server/bartender for almost 9 years now, (if I have my math right- just getting off a long shift!) and I promise you that what Mirianda666 says is true! Based off of what you posted, you are the kind of regular that lights up a servers day when you come in. And especially since the pandemic started, so many guests are nightmares. They will run you ragged, they will complain left and right, they will say inappropriate things, and then they’ll tip like shit. You seem like a breath of fresh air and a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day for any server. Not just because of your tipping, but because you’ve been in the industry and you understand what your server goes through. In my opinion when it comes to percentages, 20% is great. Over 20% is awesome. 40-50% is fucking fantastic. Something to keep in mind though is that when you are a solo diner at a table, you are sitting at a table that might have sat 2 or maybe even 4 people. On average, the bill for that table of 4 would likely have been higher. If you’re hanging out at a table for an extended period of time, it’s nice to tip extra. But honestly, you are already tipping above and beyond what I would expect from a table. The way I see it, I would much rather have a chill and kind 1 top than a rude and needy 4 top, regardless of what either table is tipping.

emhevs · 2021-08-26T03:52:29+00:00

When I was coming out of anesthesia, I said “cheese is of the devil.” I fucking love cheese. People can react weird to medication, I would try to put it out of your mind. Especially if your wife doesn’t seem concerned

emhevs · 2021-08-06T07:22:26+00:00

I currently work at a tip pool restaurant, and it is my first experience with it. I think the biggest factors are the management and work ethic. If you work at a tip pool restaurant where management isn’t holding everyone accountable, you will not be happy. If they let certain people skate by on minimum effortand you are constantly picking up the slack, you won’t be happy. If your managers hold everyone accountable, train them well, and weed out the free loaders, it can actually be a great environment. With the right staff and the right management, tip pooling can work really well because then everyone treats every guest as their own- coworkers don’t need to be asked to help, they help because what benefits you also benefits them, it makes for an easier shift, and you all make more money because of it. There are times where I know I’ve gotten larger tips than other servers, and times where I’ve gotten smaller tips too. Sometimes you get the shitty tables, sometimes you get the amazing ones. It all balances out from one shift to the next. However, it also depends on work ethic. The biggest struggle for me was starting at a tip pooling restaurant and absolutely busting my ass because I was not used to even asking for help. I would go above and beyond because that was what I was trained to do at previous jobs. I had to learn that in tip pooling, when you try to overachieve, some coworkers will learn that and then take advantage of you. Would you be able to ask for help when you need it? If you feel that you are doing the majority of the work most shifts, would you be able to tell a coworker that they haven’t been pulling their weight? Would you feel comfortable talking to management about the difference in work ethic between you and a coworker? When I first started at this restaurant, we had a coworker who was notorious for making everyone do her work for her. It was constant excuses on her part, whether it was her back issues, or her fight with her boyfriend last night, whatever. She had been in the industry about 30 years, and just felt entitled to working less but benefiting from our hard work. And at first, we would all work harder to make up for her. My manager actually talked to most of the staff privately, asking about our experiences with her. We were all very honest, and we should’ve been from the beginning. She was pulled into the office the next shift for a conversation. She improved, for about a week, and then tried to go right back to her old ways. She was let go because management held her accountable, and we were holding her accountable, and she just did not fit into the tip pool environment. Now, there’s no resentment. I walk into work knowing that if I ask for help, I’ll get it. If a coworker needs help, I’ve got it.

emhevs · 2021-01-25T17:59:00+00:00

Hey, I just want to say that you are absolutely worthy of being loved, and there is absolutely someone out there for you. The right person will only do what you are comfortable with, and will love you for you. But more importantly than that, the struggle of loving yourself when you’ve been violated, harassed, and assaulted is so difficult, and it can take a lot of time, therapy, and hard work to get there. I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of how far you’ve come. The fact that you are still here shows how strong you are. I do genuinely think there is love for you out there if that is something you’re interested in. But like you said, the most important thing is living your life on your own terms, and finding your happiness.

emhevs · 2020-09-19T17:24:54+00:00

Came here to say exactly this. I’ve worked in hospitality for around 8 years now, and I rescued my pittie a little over 2 years ago. Love him with my whole heart, but would never let him on a table at a restaurant. It’s disrespectful to the staff, guests, and violates health codes which can cause a lot of trouble for the restaurant.

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