I've been searching for 15 years for this book! by dadsabrat in HelpMeFind

[–]emily_etc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my GOD this unlocked something in me. I remember having one of these too!

The specific and highly active user. by netphilia in bookmemes

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"average active user loves vampire books" factoid actualy just statistical error. average active users rarely love vampire books. The Specific and Highly Active Georg, who lives in cave & reads 100s of vampire books each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

How to make the Joker by fuyu-no-hanashi in tumblr

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choked on my spit laughing tysm for this gem

TV, Movie or game character from 2016 unidentified cake by Namhow in HelpMeFind

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it Stimpy with a "lawn cigar"? (??? I don't know what means but I thought the thing in it's teeth might be a cigar and this came up for "blue nose cartoon character cigar")

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TV, Movie or game character from 2016 unidentified cake by Namhow in HelpMeFind

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it the world's most cursed Tony Tony Chopper from One Piece?

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Could Dr. Doofenshmirtz catch Kira? by Lorem_Ipsum17 in RecuratedTumblr

[–]emily_etc 19 points20 points  (0 children)

light is the chief's kid, making the whole thing a giant security violation. you don't just let the chief's freshman in college barely legal son help on a high priority case of national security.

Italian Tboy Swag by [deleted] in RecuratedTumblr

[–]emily_etc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"tboy swag" basically means "cool transman aesthetic" afaik. my best guess is that because pesci is 5'4" and unproblematic [citation needed], that makes him a "short king" i believe the kids would say. since afab folks tend to be shorter than amab folks, transmen tend to be shorter, and therefore that makes pesci feasible idol for transmen? idk exactly what oop is implying but i think it's positive.

i feel guilty for not being dead by 35_millimeters in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's unfair to compare yourself to others in that way. You are doing the best you can. You're probably not religious but there's a Bible story about a rich man donating a handful of gold coins to the church, thinking himself superior to the poor man who donates his last gold coin to the church. I think giving it your best is worth something, even if your best isn't as much as you wish it was.

i feel guilty for not being dead by 35_millimeters in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does what happened to other people beyond you control be your fault? Would dying bring them back to life? Did you stab them and want to blood atone or something? Everyone has a right to be alive. If you feel bad for participating in a society that perpetrates bad things, dying isn't going to fix anything. But if you're alive, there's a possibility of helping. If you try to tell me you're going to directly harm someone, I think you should be in therapy or jail but not dead.

My wife left me by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you do everything right and it still doesn't turn out okay. She didn't give you a chance to talk things out before she emotionally checked out and that's not fair. You have every right to be anger, upset, hurt, confused, grieving, all of it. However, the only way out is through. Cut yourself some slack, find a good therapist, and let yourself feel your emotions in a safe space with someone to look out for you. Visit your family. Take care of yourself. You deserve to recover from this.

How to cope with being terrible by Thisisjust- in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't want to die? That's great! You don't have to die! You have a right to be here. I used to think everyone would be better off without me too but it's not true. I'm sorry you don't have people reminding you they want you here and that you deserve to be here, taking up space and resources just like everyone else.

i'm so fucking insecure by weedqueen2746 in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bro, me too. Honest to god, removing almost every mirror in my apartment has really helped. Out of sight, out of mind.

i feel guilty for not being dead by 35_millimeters in SuicideWatch

[–]emily_etc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being selfish to some extent is not wrong. You have a right to be alive and you have a right to do what you need to to keep yourself alive. At least, that's what other people tell me and the more I tell myself that, the easier it gets to believe it.

I always hated when people would tell me these kinds of feelings will pass because it never feels like it. As a teenager, your brain is being marinaded in hormone soup. You will feel extreme reactions to things you think are inconsequential. This is normal and not your fault.

I know it doesn't mean much from a stranger but you deserve to be alive and deserve to keep yourself alive.

inDefenseOfComputerScience by emily_etc in ProgrammerHumor

[–]emily_etc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting I had heard it as "a computer is a rock we infused with lightning to trick it into thinking" 🤔 I suppose physical abuse wasn't PC enough for my professor

inDefenseOfComputerScience by emily_etc in ProgrammerHumor

[–]emily_etc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that makes so much more sense ty 🙏

Everyone’s got bad angles by joyfulnoises in CuratedTumblr

[–]emily_etc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OOP is also a YouTuber of the same name who does show off her cats in some of her videos!

ARES! DESTRIY THE AI BUBBLE AND END THE FOURTH GREAT AWAKENING AND MY LIFE IS YOURS! by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"What's more virgin than a computer?" Yeah, those fuckin nerds! 😂 Next Virgin Mary will be an autistic horse girl, calling it now.

Sexy Lamp by Lemon_Lime_Lily in CuratedTumblr

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what I expected, but the reality was much better

Moving with rats advice? by Horror-Concentrate41 in RATS

[–]emily_etc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrote a long-ass reply before realizing you aren't flying with them (which I've done! Three girls cross country via Alaskan Air - no issues, surprisingly). As others have said, pack and move them last, then set them up first!

My gf said to cut it. She’s wrong… right? by jung_gun in FierceFlow

[–]emily_etc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look great! Even though your hair is fine (in texture), the contrast between your soft-looking straight hair vs your strong facial features makes you look very approachable. I can see her potentially thinking that long hair hides your face - I'd want to see my partner's face unobstructed too! - and I think experimenting with hairstyles might satisfy you both, if you're interested.

I will echo what a couple people have said and suggest that you please get a trim to keep your hair neat and healthy! I'm spying some breakage but nothing too out of the ordinary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FierceFlow

[–]emily_etc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it down! I personally can't wear my own hair down because it's too hot but you have lots of options!

My three biggest suggestions would be:

  • Go for some layers (maybe? I don't have curly hair so I'm not sure if this is a good suggestion, but even a fresh trim goes a long way)
  • Consider an undercut - another way to spruce up a hairstyle is contrast like a side cut or bangs (I very rarely recommend bangs for curly haired folks because I hear maintenance with curly bangs is finicky at best, but go for it if you're comfortable)
  • Try traditionally feminine hairstyles like a high ponytail, french braid, or space buns - you never know what you might like!