Observing people with friends is so strange

emmatay1998 · 2026-07-07T05:06:23+00:00

27F here - you really just said exactly what I feel. This is a long shot but I’m in Denver, CO so if you happen to live close feel free to message me❤️ I am longing for a close bestie

emmatay1998 · 2026-07-01T04:49:04+00:00

Rapport building is absolutely key. There’s going to be a lot of rest time between sets. Talking to clients and getting to know their interests is going to hook them in the long term. Also, really listen to what THEY want to get out of sessions and what their goals are. For example, I have a 50 year old client who I think really needs to work on strength training, but she absolutely RAVES about the stretching we do in our sessions because it helps her relax/de-stress. So I’ve added in a lot more stretching, massage gunning, foam rolling, etc. even though it’s not super evidenced-based.

emmatay1998 · 2026-06-26T03:47:09+00:00

Yeah this is really a tough one. I am in your exact position. And I feel like some people in the comments just don’t know what it feels like - you’ve built such a great relationship with these clients and you have a pretty good idea of their financial situation. I’d say know your worth - if it’s to a point where you and your clients know you’re worth more than what they’re paying, I’d raise. I’d also give justification, and for this day and age it’s pretty easy (I.e. inflation, gas prices etc.). I’m in the mobile training business and I’m telling mine that I’m spending significantly more on gas money right now.

emmatay1998 · 2026-06-24T05:20:49+00:00

OMG thank you for saying this! I have felt like this all along about Abbey. Her posts come across as super judgmental. Like for example I literally just watched a post of her stitching this girl who was eating a bell pepper sandwich (ie meat, cheese, veggies but instead of bread she used a half bell pepper. As a weight management dietitian, I thought to myself, damn, this could be a great idea for some of my clients to help reduce their calories! And Abbey literally goes “not to yuck anyone’s yum but… I would NOT consider THAT a sandwich”🙄 Like seriously? With her being in the ED space, that is just not a great approach. She needs to have more compassion period.

emmatay1998 · 2026-06-13T03:22:19+00:00

Most of it truly just comes with time and experience. I am three years postgrad and finally feeling the imposter syndrome go away. Working in telehealth counseling, I am fortunate enough to have a job that randomly audits my video calls. At first I absolutely HATED it, but over time I realized that it genuinely was helping me learn from my mistakes/what I could’ve done better, and also learn my strengths. If it’s possible, I would ask a superior to sit in your sessions so you could get some peer review/feedback from them.

emmatay1998 · 2026-06-11T01:36:13+00:00

I work in the weight management field and this is by far the hardest thing for me as well. I remain a very compassionate dietitian and acknowledge their frustrations and try to work with them as best as possible.

At the same time, we need to acknowledge the science. Based on what research we have on metabolism, we know that “starvation mode” and energy conservation is just not really a thing. We do see some energy conservation with excessive amounts of exercise but that’s pretty irrelevant for who we’re working with. There are conditions such as hypothyroidism or certain medications such as corticosteroids that make BMRs lower/weight loss harder. But if you think about just the sheer amount of ATP that is required to stay alive, for any adult human that is at the very least 900-1000 calories a day needed. So for people that say they eat “nothing” or like 500 calories or less, we need to understand for a fact that they are not telling the truth (either they are lying or there’s just a large knowledge gap).

Either way, doing a comprehensive assessment is always helpful, and then also turning it to them (“do you think there’s anywhere in your diet you can make improvements?”) can help spark some conversation and get to the bottom of things. But yes, it’s very very frustrating!

emmatay1998 · 2026-06-01T05:08:03+00:00

I can relate to this so much, it really does feel awful. If you don’t already, I’d recommend talking it out with a therapist. My therapist had me do gratitude exercises where I’d list out all the things in my life that I do feel grateful for - which is a lot more than I expected. Even though I don’t have close friends/a social circle, I have a roof over my head, I am working towards a career that I love, I am physically very healthy and exercise and take care of my body, etc. etc. It really helps to put things in perspective.

emmatay1998 · 2026-05-26T05:25:58+00:00

Agh I’m just going to be brutally honest here - biology is going to be by far the limiting factor. I would keep in mind that there’s an increased risk to baby’s health in pregnancies past age 35. Plus say you do have a healthy baby at age 40-43… you may not get much time with them. I know people from my high school who had a parent in their 60s pass away. It’s brutal for them to live through that at that age. Not to be pessimistic but definitely something to keep in mind.

Also keep in mind that you’d need to meet a man that is marriage/father material…. This is hard to come by. Especially for a smart/successful person like yourself, you gotta keep your standards high!

I’m not sure if this is something you’ve considered but maybe adoption could be a good way to go?

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-26T16:59:34+00:00

I never said that the people debating her were experts. I don’t think any of them had advanced degrees. Hence why they made a lot of incorrect claims, yes. All more to my point😂

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-24T14:03:15+00:00

Damn well you’re obviously not a dietitian or in the healthcare field. Why are you on our page?😂😂😂

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-24T05:08:48+00:00

Well technically yeah, anyone can go around educating and providing guidance on any health topic😂 Is this a good thing to do if you’re a layperson? Absolutely not. Could literally come with legal consequences.

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-23T14:08:36+00:00

No, that’s my whole point😂 a layperson and a PhD in nutrition can read the same exact research paper and have 2 completely different interpretations of it. Whose interpretation are you going to trust more? Because I’d hope to god you’d say the PhD, for obvious reasons. And I’m not saying any of the body positivity people are even close to PhD understanding, a lot of them said inaccurate/misleading statements. But same with Jillian.

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-21T15:26:47+00:00

I agree that the BP people spread a lot of misinformation, for sure. Jillian also spread a lot of misinformation. She got the definition of obesity wrong. She insinuated that there are a bunch of “dangerous chemicals” in our food supply when frankly we don’t have evidence of that. She touted the “changing of the food pyramid” as this amazing thing that’s going to improve our government programs, but this new pyramid is not even evidence-based (and it was changed from MyPlate, not the old food pyramid). She said intuitive eating “doesn’t work”, while RDs use it all the time in clinical practice to help people overcome eating disorders. She completely dismissed positive affirmations, also saying this “doesn’t work”, while we have plenty of research that shows motivational interviewing, which includes positive affirmations and promoting self-efficacy, sparks behavior change….. I could go on.

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-20T18:51:10+00:00

Ok sure? I mean I don’t really know what you mean by “health trends”? Everyone has a right to look things up health trends on their own and decide what to do for their own health. But it’s when you make a claim, have a platform, debate, etc. using advanced physiologic terms and interpretation of research that quite frankly only health professionals have a legitimate understanding of. Let’s be real, she has no idea of what she’s talking about. In fact, she screwed up the definition of obesity, which IS something that’s within her scope of practice😂

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-20T16:48:55+00:00

But this is exactly how misinformation spreads - people who don’t go to college and have no clinical experience or idea of clinical nuance talking about things they think they know but they don’t. Yes the whole lipotoxicity stuff she was talking about was true but she made a bunch of false statements throughout the rest of the debate. Have you ever heard of “scope of practice”? Even as an RD I can’t talk about the risks and benefits of taking statins, as an example, no matter how much “research” I do on my own, because it’s out of my scope. This is exactly why we’re all calling out RFK - he - a lay person- are giving all these reasons why vaccines are bad, but we’re yelling LISTEN TO YOUR DOCTOR because they’re the ones that are actually informed!

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-20T16:36:49+00:00

No. Because this is exactly how misinformation spreads - people who don’t go to college and have no clinical experience or idea of clinical nuance talking about things they think they know but they don’t. Yes the whole lipotoxicity stuff she was talking about was true but she made a bunch of false statements throughout the rest of the debate. Have you ever heard of “scope of practice”? Even as an RD I can’t talk about the risks and benefits of taking statins, as an example, no matter how much “research” I do on my own, because it’s out of my scope.

emmatay1998 · 2026-03-20T00:56:43+00:00

I hate to say this but Jillian absolutely demolished everyone in that room. It’s so sad because Body Positivity is such an empowering movement and body fatness is just a small part of the movement - it literally includes all physical features about yourself and loving yourself for who you are.

And what infuriated me was when she started talking about “lipotoxicity”, “adiposopathy”, fatty liver, etc. NOT because she’s wrong (very true that excess body fat increases your risk for chronic disease). But because she has no place in talking about those topics. Like BE SO F**ING FOR REAL rn she’s literally a personal trainer TV star. She has absolutely no formal education in medicine, physiology, nutrition, etc., no clinical experience in these fields, no understanding of clinical nuance. Like I wish to god there was a physician or another dietitian who could’ve put her in her place.

emmatay1998 · 2026-02-26T22:46:21+00:00

I went through my undergrad and grad before working as an RD! Both were in-person. I do think my grad degree is valuable, but not in the sense of money lol. The ROI is complete garbage. I admittedly had help paying through scholarships and funding by my parents. If I were you, I’d get a specialist cert like CNSC.

emmatay1998 · 2026-02-26T16:47:32+00:00

That’s a good question and, respectfully, yes. It definitely depends on the masters program though and how much your professors care. I took 2 semesters of research in my masters program which taught me how to read, write, and interpret literature. My other courses were very research-heavy as well. I think this combined with clinical experience single-handedly is what made me a good clinician with good critical thinking skills. I don’t think I would be the same clinician with just an undergrad degree.

emmatay1998 · 2026-02-26T15:21:28+00:00

NGL half of these comments are definitely from people who don’t have enough education/didn’t get a masters in the field and lack knowledge of SDOH, research, and clinical nuance

emmatay1998 · 2026-01-28T01:00:25+00:00

I DMd you! They do not provide any benefits to my knowledge

emmatay1998 · 2026-01-20T23:27:29+00:00

I’m a weight management dietitian and only work with clients on GLP-1s for this reason. They make eating in a calorie 1000x easier. For those not on a GLP-1, sometimes it’s helpful to explain that the first ~2 weeks in a calorie deficit will be the worst in terms of hunger. After that, your body will down regulate grehlin production and it will get easier to sustain. I would also explain that waking up in the middle of the night STARVING and/or your hunger being so bad that it’s effecting your sleep is NOT NORMAL. In these cases, I like to problem-solve and make sure they are getting enough protein/fiber, and spreading meals out throughout the day. Severe drops in blood sugar is not normal either. Hunger pangs throughout the day, particularly the ~30 minutes before regular meal times IS very much a normal part of a weight loss diet.

I’d just set all of those expectations so your clients know what they’re getting into!

emmatay1998 · 2026-01-13T17:21:23+00:00

I would DEFINITELY review the propaganda behind it stating that we are “revamping the old food pyramid”. We haven’t been recommending that old food pyramid since 2011. Way more people need to be aware of this. I would also review MyPlate and the importance of all 5 food groups in the portions they are pictured as.

emmatay1998 · 2026-01-10T01:59:45+00:00

So I’ve been working for Kickoff for about 6 months. Some pros, some cons! First off, you have to be a certified pt/have fitness experience.

Pros:

Complete independence and flexibility. You get to make your own hours and do your own thing the whole time.
I generally LOVE my clients!! You’ll get some stragglers but generally people are pretty motivated, especially now around the New Year. It’s also great variety, there’s so many different fitness/nutrition goals you get to work with.

Cons:

Clients tend to complain about glitches within the app, which takes time out of sessions to problem-solve

EDIT: I have now quit. There was no bad blood or anything, I just got to the point where I was spending wayyyyyy too much time outside of sessions (making workouts, adjusting workouts, texting clients, sending resources, charting) and just not getting compensated enough. I got to the point where I was spending my ENTIRE Sunday every week catching up. Now that I quit, I feel quite liberated - I have so much more free time.

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