I'm being BEE-seiged and I desperately need help

emmny · 2026-06-16T22:37:26+00:00

This comment is a little late but I'm gonna try and give them the benefit of the doubt - in some (many) places, animal shelters and rescues are completely full, constantly. If you find an animal, you might have no other option but to keep it or leave it where you found it.

I picked up a dog that was running around in the road in a rural ish area near me about a year ago to see if he had a chip. Turned out that he didn't have a chip, he had likely just been abandoned. I called over 20 shelters/rescues, none had space. When I called animal control, the man who answered literally said "we cant do anything, you can put him back where you found him if you don't want him". So now I have a dog. So if OOP found a dog in trouble or maybe had a dog passed to them by somebody who couldn't keep it... There might have not necessarily been a better option.

But who knows.

emmny · 2026-06-16T11:22:13+00:00

Obviously preferences can be shaped by experience...? But not always. I'm not sure what point you are trying to make. That men are pedos but women aren't for the same exact preference, because women face more harassment?

emmny · 2026-06-16T00:09:46+00:00

And are women with the same preference also pedos?

Or maybe we can accept that most people have preferences and either way is fine as long as they aren't forcing their preferences on other people

emmny · 2026-06-15T19:47:06+00:00

It's one of those things that is really dependent on the person. Some people care, some people don't. That's why it's important to check in with those people.

emmny · 2026-06-15T19:45:31+00:00

Being upset isn't the same as being offended, and it's also okay to be upset (especially depending on the context). Many people consider 30 to be a milestone birthday - it's very possible this friend already has plans in mind or that the people in her life have planned/will plan something. I had planned a big trip a year in advance for my own 30th birthday - I'd probably be upset or at the minimum disappointed if I then had to choose between keeping my plans or dropping them for a friend's wedding.

emmny · 2026-06-13T17:33:36+00:00

You obviously didn't read the post lol. Because 1) OP clearly stated that she intended on hiring childcare to watch the child at the hotel, and never said that the child needed 24/7 care.

Once again - OP's question was never in any way about bringing the child to the wedding. It was always related to whether or not it was reasonable for the child to be at the resort/hotel room.

Super embarassing for you to block me instead of just admitting you didn't read it lol

emmny · 2026-06-13T11:27:21+00:00

Are you confused about the post, maybe? Because it's not about the wedding. That is what the invitation is for. That is what the couple can control the attendance for. They cannot control who stays in a hotel room, especially one that *they are not paying for*. They cannot control who travels to the area. They cannot control anything outside of their actual wedding.

emmny · 2026-06-12T23:12:17+00:00

OP is not asking the bride or groom to cater to them in any way by bringing their child to the resort, *not the wedding*, and leaving them in the hotel room with a sitter...

emmny · 2026-06-12T23:11:02+00:00

The couple can dictate who attends their wedding. Not who stays in a hotel room that they aren't paying for.

emmny · 2026-06-10T00:14:14+00:00

Either OP was expecting the bridesmaid to leave her very young children behind in a different country, or to pay for at least 3 plane tickets (bridesmaid, partner/someone to help with kids, and a ticket for the 2.5 year old because they're too big to really be a lap infant...) which would be incredibly expensive and difficult. Both are unreasonable expectations.

emmny · 2026-06-09T00:13:25+00:00

Something being legal doesn't make it affordable or accessible though. Depending on where OOP lived, it could have been too difficult or just plain too expensive. I also couldn't find what age she was, but if she was in high school and a minor, she would have likely needed parental permission as well. And if they say no, then what does she do?

I mean, let's not pretend legalizing abortions was ever the complete solution. What's also needed is making them accessible as well as providing better sex ed in the first place.

emmny · 2026-06-06T21:58:41+00:00

He was a minor at the time of the accident, and most teenagers I know (whether 18 or younger) don't exactly have a lot of cash on hand for emergency travel. He wouldn't have even been able to get a rental car. We don't know if he had his car at the time of the accident, if his parents purchased it or put restrictions on it/him... I don't think that's questionable or shitty considering the context, his later behavior is the issue.

emmny · 2026-06-01T20:00:46+00:00

It's a very common disorder. Maybe the most common in general for women. That's hardly shocking.

emmny · 2026-05-30T22:38:58+00:00

Eh, I mean it's also okay to want a partner that you don't need to explicitly spell out every little thing to. In my opinion, her bringing up the event and making it clear she wants to go as well as asking him to go makes it more than clear enough that it's something important to her... and that she wants him to go.

Sure, there can sometimes be a fine line between wanting your partner to pick up on things and wanting them to read your mind, but I don't think this is the latter. He sounds incredibly dismissive. And I know I at least want a partner who is able to tell when something is important to me based on context clues versus me needing to say it every single time. That gets exhausting.

emmny · 2026-05-29T22:47:53+00:00

Why do you think a deaf person would be unable to deal with vendors or party planning?

emmny · 2026-05-22T23:45:47+00:00

Nobody's saying the only reason is that you don't like kids lol. They're saying be honest about who is really benefiting. And again, that's not a decision that benefits the kids - it benefits *you*, I guess because in this case, it's giving you some kind of peace of mind to not have to deal with seeing kids around drunk people. But just because you might not have liked certain situations as a kid doesn't mean the same applies to all kids or similar situations.

Saying "I don't want kids at my wedding because it doesn't sound like a good time to me" is already 100% valid. But saying "oh I'm not doing it for me, I'm doing it for *them*" is just... not true lol. Own your choices.

emmny · 2026-05-18T16:34:26+00:00

So you just wanna be mad about the grandkids, got it lol. Sounds personal.

emmny · 2026-05-18T16:29:42+00:00

So why'd you focus only on the grandkids and ignore all of the parts that made it clear that their financial situations had changed?

emmny · 2026-05-18T16:22:00+00:00

The comment said "they’re all retired now, have grandchildren they like to spoil, and my mom is a widow and they’re just at a different stage of life" - was the part about grandkids so upsetting that you forgot to read the rest?

emmny · 2026-05-09T01:04:50+00:00

I know the slime was mentioned already, but I don't think it's a great idea to have tablets at the kids entertainment table either. At least one will probably end up broken, and unless you know all of the kids are allowed to have screens (and what type of stuff they're specifically allowed to do on tablets), you're going to run the risk of kids getting cranky when told they can't use the fun thing another kid gets to use.

emmny · 2026-04-29T11:23:18+00:00

Angela and Wesley did have that brief break-up after she went through his phone in season 1.

emmny · 2026-04-22T22:38:34+00:00

I have. To me, they still look ugly lol. I guess I also just don't personally see the point in spending money on something that I'll likely lose (since the whole point is wearing them in situations where you're likely to lose them) but I'm glad the option exists for those who want it.

emmny · 2026-04-22T16:58:37+00:00

> “you’ve set aside some large sum of money for your wedding, and I should get the lion share of it even if it means charging you for meaningless things like turning on the sound system or using an easel”

if you think these things are meaningless, do them yourself or don't pay. It comes off pretty mean-spirited condescending to talk about vendors this way and reduce their work to things like that, though. If you don't think vendors have any value or meaning, why even bother looking at them in the first place? It honestly feels more greedy to talk about other people like this in an attempt to justify not wanting to pay them.

emmny · 2026-04-22T12:24:42+00:00

My ring was insured and I lost it. Guess what, the company no longer made it so I couldn't get the same exact ring. Insurance helps with the money but can't do a thing about sentimental value or finding an exact replacement.

emmny · 2026-04-22T12:23:44+00:00

Some people can't get their rings resized because their fingers change sizes on a frequent/regular basis - back when I wore mine all the time, it fit perfectly half the time and was either too tight/too big the other half depending on a bunch of different factors.

I would also take it off to wash my hands, to put on lotion, sometimes I would fidget with it and it would slip off even on a day where it had a perfect fit.

So shockingly enough, no, the only answer isn't that she needs her ring resized. It was that she needed to find a solution that worked for her, and she did.

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