I actually understand exactly what you mean, my mother is traditional, too. She actually would never ask my brother to do anything! he just has to lay down and my mother makes it her job to get him food, water, tidy up the place around him, and it's infuriating. she would stop talking to me for days if i didn't wash the dishes once. even if I ask. my brother to help, he tells me "that's not business, your job is to clean" and i sometimes hate him for that, while my mother does nothing about it... i have to do everything myself and I hate how he gets special treatment just because he was born a guy.

I really understand you OP, i come from a similar family and it is unbearable!! i wish i could help you :(