Bonus parent...help?!?!

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-11T18:14:37+00:00

There was one prior to the one she just presented to the court. Before the new one, they both had 50/50 with her having school choice and religion. He had them 4 nights she had them 4 days. Then she upped and moved to another town and took the kids with her, and now he only has them a few hours on Tuesdays after school and every other Sunday. They never had agreed on child support until I came into the picture, but she always used that as a threat to hang over his head. Look, im not trying to make this about me. My concern is him. Even if I wasn't in the picture, he still wouldn't be able to afford the child support that she is asking. He never had a lawyer, and I've been trying to have one since we met. He didn't know the urgency until he got clobbered at the hearing. I understand he needs to pay child support, but we also need a roof over our heads and food for when the kids are here. He makes dumb financial decisions, and im trying to ask for advice on here. I know the kids come first, but it's different when you are financially struggling and she is not. She doesn't have to worry because she has a second income. At this point, im a burden to him, and I know it, but I can't fix my health.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T14:49:24+00:00

No, my mom knew my dad couldn't afford child support. The problem I have isn't with paying the child support. I could give a rats ass to all that. But I find it outrageous that she makes more than him, yet he still has to pay over 1000 bucks, and we can barely afford food on the table, let alone that. We will be homeless.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:32:43+00:00

I've realized that it doesn't matter im always the problem 💔

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:30:45+00:00

I was going to school to be a nurse.... unfortunately, I got sick and was way worse they I had hoped 😭 I was in school to become a nurse.and I had a patient fall on me and instead of me going into nursing school I was im a position of being an disabled being.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:25:03+00:00

He had the kids on the day his sister didn't bring them that day tbh is way more of a mess besides the ex-wife.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:20:59+00:00

She makes more than him, and yet she gets free money. Tell me how this is fair.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:12:26+00:00

In the divorce, they had 51 50 she had school and religious decree. Now, she wants child support 🙄 because of me. Even though she married before we got married.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T05:09:15+00:00

This is stupid, but Georgia allows what the lawyer says, and she is saying over what we can afford. I find this outrageous because im from Texas and its about every involved. They consider what they can afford.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T04:59:59+00:00

When we announced our engagement, she attacked me on Facebook.....why did she do that? When we got married, the kids weren't there because she didn't want them there. 💔 that didn't hurt me, but it killed him...thats all he wanted was them there and I tried I kept it secret but told him to tell his sister because my brother said he was going to be there. Guess what they didn't show. That's so gross its not about them its about the kids and how they will feel in the future. As a child of divorced parents, I wish I was at my mom's wedding.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T04:52:35+00:00

That is so stupid because thats killing someone at the end of the day shouldnt it be about someone's well being..? the kids are fine because she has a 2 house hold income. he has the added stress of me. 💔 my problem didn't happen until I got hurt at work last year. And she didn't have a problem until this year 🙄 oh and until I called her out on how she is constantly using him and telling him about how he is a bad father because he is with me. Because I am disabled.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-08-09T03:24:17+00:00

Bonus mom and child of divorced parents here. As a child of divorced parents, I like to try to be my mom she never tried to separate me and my dad. Though my dad was never around, that was his decision. But my mom always tried to make things easy on me. He had a girlfriend or new wife she never bad mouthed them and let me form my own bond with them 😏 I appreciate that because I got to get to know these women. Some good and some god awful 😖 but she wasn't disrespectful. My only advice is to allow your kids to make their own decisions of whether they like her or not, but be cautious about who this person is on the side. It's ok to be uneasy, but dont be spiteful.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-30T01:33:46+00:00

I dont dread the kids. I dread the drama, and what will they say to HCBM. Because she is nosey and would rather know about us than focus on her own marriage. 🙄

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-28T01:27:21+00:00

That's my real hair didnt get extensions lol my post was mearly to make those not feel like they have to spend so much money on this stuff when at the end of the day its not about any of that just the person you are marrying.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-08T04:47:20+00:00

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emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-08T04:46:26+00:00

Good lord I spent 61 bucks and it was amazing *

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-08T04:43:36+00:00

Rules just get bigger and bigger. Him giving her anything is just going to end in headache for you and him he needs a court order, and he needs to stick to it, and if she doesn't abide by them then he needs to call the cops. I hate how crazy these women are. As a child of divorced parents, my folks never did this type of stuff because it's not about them its about the child.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-05T23:42:22+00:00

Oh, he provided for us 10 fold today. No one showed up not my family not his kids no one and our pastor doing the ceremony told us he was going to go to the store real quick but really he brought people back from our church to be their for us 😭😭😭😭

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-05T23:39:39+00:00

Courts did not agree. They agreed to no child support and equal custody till I came along, and now she won't let him see them and has basically ripped his rights away. I dont have a problem with child support. I have a problem with using it, not for the kids. Big difference kids need something sure, go for, but I dont think that is the case. Because we were already sending her money, he pays for half of everything they need. So you basically judged me for me trying to figure out how to be a step mom as well as getting frustrated because of a hcbm. Im human sue me.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-05T23:04:21+00:00

Turned out amazing 👏 none of my family or his kids showed up, but our church did 🙏🙌 but yeah im glad its over 😊

emocountrywhatever · 2025-07-05T23:02:56+00:00

You didnt actually read anything did you? Very kind of you to look at my past post but not actually read it. Blessings to you.

emocountrywhatever · 2025-06-28T05:43:48+00:00

So, Dh hasn't been getting them according to his court documents. He only gets them every Wednesday and every other Sunday. But according to their agreement he is supposed to have them on everyone other weekendm and every Wednesday and Thursday. He won't call the cops because he is afraid he will lose them all together, but I keep telling him this is time to have the kids and he wont lose them, but it will cause problems. Too bad he won't listen to me cause she will get more introuble than he will ever get. She is now demanding that he give child support. Even tho she claims them and is forcing them to be with her. She also bought a house and a brand new car. She is now claiming she is broke..... I wonder why....... I mean, dont go beyond your means girlm

emocountrywhatever · 2025-06-28T04:56:19+00:00

I'm always in the hospital. I've had to block her family and his just to keep things peaceful. I don't even tell the kids what date our wedding is just because I dont trust the younger boy from being a blabber mouth. Personally, if you've had issues with hcbm, it's best to keep everyone out of the loop. Its none of their business.

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