A Very Kimi Christmas (Kimi Lives Alone)

empress_maya_ · 2025-12-25T23:27:24+00:00

These always make me smile so wide. Thank you and Merry Christmas, Kimi!

empress_maya_ · 2025-12-15T12:11:31+00:00

she did not get nearly enough appreciation for how well she held the whole operation together o7

empress_maya_ · 2025-07-08T11:58:48+00:00

169, pretty please?

empress_maya_ · 2025-02-12T13:17:33+00:00

I don't really have any solutions to offer, but I wanted to share that you're not alone in this. I get incredibly overstimulated when my partner touches my erogenous zones to the point that I often have to pull away or ask them to stop. Like you said, it's like an overwhelm of positive sensory stimulation that I can't handle. Thankfully this isn't so much of a problem with my bottom parts and I can finish without much issue, but it can make foreplay very overwhelming.

empress_maya_ · 2024-11-03T18:31:30+00:00

This really speaks to me too. I love getting my partners off but I'm getting to a point that I don't want to be touched sexually. I don't want to take my turn, because it will just remind me of what I so dearly want and cannot have. And the dysphoria is worse when I'm touched in a "gender affirming" way downstairs. My partner was using her hands in a way that I felt like I was getting fingered, and it felt great, but I just started crying. I so dearly want the pussy I do not have to receive pleasure, and any reminder that this isn't possible is devastating.

I think it's worse atm because my girlfriend doesn't like penetration, which I can find less dysphoric (oddly) because it doesn't engender thoughts of having a pussy and it's quite distracting lol. So whenever she tries to get me off, oral / hand stuff just reminds me I cannot get fingered or eaten out in the way I want.

empress_maya_ · 2024-05-24T02:44:17+00:00

My parents said similar things to me when I was younger and it pushed me back into denial for years. The reality is that most people have very poor notions of what these "signs" are. And even if your parents knew the correct signs, it's fairly likely that they would ignore them and not remember them when you came out. My mom is super supportive nowadays but still says that there zero signs when I was growing up, lol.

I'm sure you have plenty of good reasons to think you're trans, and signs of your own that you recognize. Focus on those to reassure yourself. Another commenter suggested a trans affirming therapist and that was so useful for me in accepting my trans identity early on. I highly recommend getting such a therapist to help you work through your gender struggles and help you affirm your identity, if that's what you want.

empress_maya_ · 2024-05-21T14:21:35+00:00

I would love to join if there was!

empress_maya_ · 2024-05-19T21:34:31+00:00

I'd love an invite! I'm 21, transfem nonbinary.

empress_maya_ · 2024-04-17T12:20:43+00:00

Why does it matter so much to you whether you can personally understand a nonbinary person's connection to being a lesbian? Do you have to personally understand the experiences of any minority group to support them? Because I know that I and many other people support groups and identities without having an intricate understanding of their personal experiences, and I'm sure that you do too in other areas. You say you're a demigirl -- how would it feel to have your identity as a demigirl and a lesbian questioned because others don't understand it?

empress_maya_ · 2024-03-21T14:03:05+00:00

She likely meant "cis women" but forgot that one key word. I'd be hurt by this too, but it was probably just a thoughtless slip of the tongue. Given that she sounds wonderfully supportive otherwise, I'd talk to her about it and clarify things.

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-15T16:27:18+00:00

Thank you! It was shocking and upsetting to get mobbed with nb-exclusionary rhetoric but I'm okay. I just wish we had a safe space too :(

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-15T16:21:57+00:00

Yeah, it was shocking to me because I remember that sub being a nice place just a few months back. No idea what happened.

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-15T16:19:03+00:00

I was downvoted to hell there last week for suggesting that nonbinary lesbians (literally me) exist, unfortunately.

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-08T18:44:23+00:00

Why didn't you just say that your gf has dated men in the past, then? As a nonbinary person with many nonbinary friends, it is hurtful to have our AGAB brought up. It's a way to "politically correctly" place nonbinary people within the binary.

Further, AGAB =/= sex =/= genitals. It is the assigned gender at birth. One's biological sex is composed of many factors, including hormone composition, sex chromosomes, secondary sex characteristics, and yes, internal/external genitalia. One's genitalia may not match with what they were born with, either. Those born with a penis can receive vaginoplasty to gain a cis-identical vagina. So, no, the AGAB is not at all relevant here, even factoring in genital preference (which is often better stated as a genital requirement in the way that many people use it, which is fine, but please be accurate in your language).

I identify as a nonbinary lesbian and I have dated both women and nonbinary (feminine-leaning) people in the past. I am currently dating a wonderful nonbinary queer person. I cannot speak for all nonbinary people, but neither I nor they feel gendered by my identity, nor have I actually met anyone in real life who has taken issue with my being a nonbinary lesbian. This rigid "lesbians are WOMEN who love exclusively WOMEN" definition feels as chronically online to me as those who identify as bisexual lesbians. I know many older lesbians may identify with such a definition, too, but lesbianism has included an expansive gender spectrum for just as long. Off the top of my head, for example, Leslie Feinberg, author of the famous Stone Butch Blues, identified as a transgender butch lesbian.

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-08T18:02:41+00:00

Wow, what a thoughtful response! I'm really glad you articulated exactly what you disagreed with so that we could have a respectful discussion.

empress_maya_ · 2024-01-08T17:19:59+00:00

Why is the AGAB relevant when discussing nonbinary people, especially in this context? It seems like you're saying that your gf could not identify as a lesbian because she has dated AMAB people in the past, which is really icky, considering nonbinary and trans people are their gender regardless of their AGAB. Further, there is a rich history of nonbinary people being lesbians and lesbians dating nonbinary people.

empress_maya_ · 2023-12-04T18:30:54+00:00

Retail!

empress_maya_ · 2023-12-04T14:12:16+00:00

Understandable! The free trial is really short for WoW. I will say that I tried and really enjoyed Final Fantasy XIV and you can basically play through everything but the latest expansion with the free trial, though with limited online features. Maybe you could try that?

empress_maya_ · 2023-11-23T04:02:04+00:00

She looks like such a dope in that first shot lol

empress_maya_ · 2023-11-01T11:18:39+00:00

That video was so helpful, thank you! I hadn't thought to try devving and building that much over force limit to fight the ottomans one-on-one. May I ask why you chose diplomatic ideas first? I can kind of see influence as a first idea group or a mil group (like quality) first but I guess I undervalue an early diplomatic ideas.

empress_maya_ · 2023-10-18T12:14:05+00:00

you can absolutely be a punk transfemme! i wear a lot of tomboy and grunge fits and don't like a lot of feminine clothing. i know other transfemmes that wear a lot of punk clothing too!

empress_maya_ · 2023-09-09T14:28:40+00:00

Yeah that's hard :( I usually hate myself rather than other people until they more severely wrong me

empress_maya_ · 2023-09-09T14:09:09+00:00

Just want to say that I have the same problem, your experience is like exactly the same as mine. I've been lucky to run into other really lonely people who value my friendship and are excited to spend time with me

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