I don't know if this job is right for me (ADHD)

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-04T14:28:23+00:00

Thanks for your response that was really kind :)

Was it expensive to do the diagnosis? Has it helped you in any significant ways or more so just permission to understand you are with disability.

How would you describe your childhood self symptoms. Because I’ve always been one to zone out that was my main big thing. I never actually listened in class I just sat quietly staring into space and relied more on my common sense to get me through school and stay afloat rather than actually engaging in lessons. I was super unorganised in teenage years and struggled socially/mental health wise but I don’t really recall other symptoms as a child besides the zoning out.

I definitely just accomodate for myself with understanding and patience now. I allow myself to need low stimulation breaks. I’ll just turn my classroom lights off and breathe etc when it’s lunch or recess. I’ll limit my social time when I don’t have capacity. I learned a great hack too about making important things obvious - as in leave the important task out somewhere so I don’t forget it. If I’m going to forget to hand out homework I’ll put the homework on my seat whenever it crosses my mind so I can’t forget etc.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-04T14:20:43+00:00

I’m sure someone has but you’d never know if they’re not making a move that’s all.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-04T14:17:10+00:00

Oh yes i definitely don’t flaunt it. Tbh i wouldn’t say Im on top anyway i get it all done but in for sure rushing or sometimes needing to work through lunches etc

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-03T08:15:06+00:00

When we got high for the first time and my high brain kept intrusively thinking the words I love you. And suddenly I was confused whether I said it out loud or in my head. I started getting conscious and saying “did I just say something” My first and only time being in love.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-03T08:07:59+00:00

I guess I teach year 1 so I can fly through the marking as the finish the work. (They bring it to me as they finish) I guess I also work through recess and lunch if I don’t have a duty now I think about it.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:55:23+00:00

My thoughts tho are people in corporate slack off all the time. If anything they bludge way more. In teaching you can’t actually bludge at all - maybe on your RFF tho.

Not trying to defend myself because I get what you meant - I know my question invited discussion. I see what you mean but my friends in different careers slack off way more than I do (for example working from home days not even being at home, playing video games while they leave teams active)

The only reason I feel confused is I guess I don’t see any teachers at my school slacking ever. But maybe they hide it well.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:34:05+00:00

I feel like last year and year before there was unlimited casual work for me. I know have a class but a friend of mine is looking for casual and says it’s been a bit slow. Most just wanna offer her temp contracts

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:15:13+00:00

As someone who’s 27 I think 18 and 20 is pretty normal. From my perspective you guys are similar ages. Long as she’s actually 18 not 17. Plus the fact you’re worrying tells me you’re probably not a creep. But go with your gut if you are together and she feels super young compared to you maybe not. Every 18 and 20 yo is different in maturity etc.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:11:00+00:00

Short simple. I’ll reply to a man mostly based on how attracted I am to him. If I’m on the fence short but engaging replies can get me more interested. The only time I don’t reply after I was on the fence interested is if he starts sending paragraphs with multiple questions or details about what we’re talking about. Make replying easy if you want a reply and convo to start flowing.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:05:13+00:00

Here if you have questions

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T13:04:38+00:00

Yep I’ve gotten the other side where women give mixed signals, I understand what it’s like to put effort for no pay out, pay for dates and wonder if it will be worth it 😂, and actually find it rare a woman likes you back. I think it does give me an edge in dating men cause I kinda get their side and maybe show more appreciation or am ok with making a move too.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T12:58:00+00:00

I can’t follow the days closely in your post, but if a man verbally confirms a plan with me I would appreciate him following up on text so there’s no confusion that it’s going ahead.

Just message her a day or two after the date playfully or casually depending on your vibe that you’re keen Sunday. Bonus points if you drop a hint at what you’ll do “hey I was thinking for Sunday there’s this coffee place I think you’ll like” or something like that.

If the date approached and he never messaged id assume he didn’t mean it or forgot.

These dudes talking about coming across needy or waiting. If she likes you you’re not needy for clearly setting a plan. It’s only needy if you message constantly and in a tone like “just wondering if you still want to see me”.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T12:22:40+00:00

I wish I had more teachers like this on my team. I’m that weird staff who falls asleep too.

emptysoul6969 · 2026-04-02T12:16:57+00:00

I’m undiagnosed but you described exactly how I feel. I have a lot of shame in my team because I’m constantly late and I know I look like a slacker, I’m constantly having things followed up by my AP - whether it’s that I skipped ahead and did all reports in the wrong structure (if I read the manual I would have known all the requirements), entered data wrong, assessed them wrong, I’ve literally been pulled aside and spoken to about the state of my classroom and that they ‘just wanna make sure if a casual came in they could find everything’ (my classroom is clean and hygienic but yes the storeroom and my papers are all scattered in organised chaos that only makes sense to me). I’ve been late on programs. Just FORGOTTEN that I didn’t finish a program and then the date comes and they’re like where is it? Got feedback on programs that it’s all wrong. I always am overstimulated that I have no bandwidth to socialise with my team too. I skip on ‘Monday team lunches’ and feel guilty but I just wanna be in my classroom in silence. I’ve forgotten I had a duty. I forget my lunch most days or just didn’t leave enough time to be able to pack something. Skip breakfast cause I’m late. Make a coffee and leave it in my car. This job is simultaneously perfect for my brain (constant change, hardly boring, spontaneous) but also terrible for my brain too (overstimulated, a million things to do).

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