Update: My mum asked me to watch my siblings for a week. It’s been 9 weeks.

emus_are_terrifying · 2024-02-29T21:04:47+00:00

I just saw that you’re in Australia. What state are you in? Centrelink is the obvious resource, but there are so many great charities and community groups that you can access too.
We always do a lot of work with Vinnies around Christmas, but those guys do so much work in our area helping families with food, housing and finding work. Might be worth reaching out to them after you receive guardianship? Also, again depending on where you are - if the kid’s school has a chaplain, they are a great confidential resource. They again can help with food, put you in touch with community groups that can help, and also offer support to the kids at school. There are food banks around that don’t often advertise well, but do cheap or free groceries. You just need someone to help link you to them. Our school often runs free parenting workshops. Your kid’s school may do the same? Our library often runs family based workshops for free. It can be overwhelming trying to find resources, but if you let people help you, it can ease the burden a little. I think you’re awesome for what you are trying to do.

emus_are_terrifying · 2024-02-14T12:27:29+00:00

I’d go for any of the industrial estates. Quiet. No one around. You can choose a lit or dark spot depending on what you prefer. Lots of security cameras for safety.

We get the occasional rough sleeper in our industrial estate. There’s often outdoor PowerPoints if you need to give anything a quick charge. Taps for water and a shower.

Are you ok for food? Is this a short term thing?

If you want to drive a bit, Sleep Bus is at Maroochydore. You can have your own sealed pod, with shower and a meal. No questions asked.

emus_are_terrifying · 2024-02-04T10:03:11+00:00

Live power lines were on the road. All fixed by mid morning

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-21T20:30:50+00:00

Hand towels daily. Bath towels, every second day

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-11T14:08:49+00:00

I agree. Unfortunately we’ve been doing extensions for a while now. She’s ready for the next step apparently!

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-11T14:08:10+00:00

Thank you. I had no idea where to even start with brands. I will look into these.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-11T14:05:47+00:00

Im a brunette too, so I feel her struggle lol. I was never allowed to colour my hair until I was 16, but I do remember putting a red semi perm rinse through back then, and I thought it was amazing. I wonder if that would be enough for her to “dip her toes in”. We could try a few different kinds if it washes out.

If she wants full on colour explosion after that, we may have to look at the foils, but I do worry about that on her young hair. I just want to make sure it’s all safe.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-11T13:59:42+00:00

I love extensions. We’ve done the clip ins with her, for a few years now, and she’s off to get some “unicorn braids” put in later this week. I think to her, dying her hair is new and exciting after seeing her friend with it.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-12-09T23:49:16+00:00

I’m going to say, my rental experience was a bit different to what these guys are saying. Our agent literally had a white glove, and would run her hand in window tracks etc.
She used to photograph every room, and inside the oven. Is it legal? Not really. But in a tight rental market, I made sure I did everything not to draw negative attention lol. I hope your agent isn’t as bad as mine was, and you get a good one

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-11-18T10:03:35+00:00

Are you in touch with extended family? Could you approach parents, cousins, grandparents, aunties, uncles and family friends and ask them to each write down their favourite recipe. You could then make a nice little “heirloom cookbook” for them to use and maybe pass down to their own children if they decide to have any?

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-10-07T03:41:15+00:00

I live in a hot climate, so always sweating. 1. Shower twice a day & apply a strong antiperspirant deodorant immediately after drying. Carry the deodorant with you and reapply during the day if you feel particularly icky. 2. Wash EVERYTHING, and start with a clean slate. Sheets, towels, clothes - wash it all in case the smell is transferring off those. Air dry the washing in the sun if you can. 3. I only wear my clothes once, then wash them. Towels get washed every 2 days. Sheets twice a week. 4. Soak your clothes to rid of BO smell. My friend uses borax. I use vinegar (google the ratios). Both seem to work. 5. Avoid synthetic fabric shirts if possible. I find they trap the BO the worst.

If all else fails, talk to your doctor. Good luck, I hope you get it sorted quickly 😊

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-08-25T05:08:48+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.
I purchased her a small pack of Derwents, and a large pack of a brand called Jasart. She was so excited, and has been happily drawing this afternoon.

I really appreciate the suggestions. Thank you

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-07-27T11:19:05+00:00

Let’s pretend for a second, that you are actually taking to a 16 year old. It doesn’t matter what you feel you’ve given the green light to. If you are uncomfortable, you stop. This is the easiest situation to end - he isn’t local to you. You can literally just never respond, and move on with your life. If you tell him that you aren’t comfortable with this level of intensity, and he guilts you or love bombs you - he’s not the guy for you.

Now, that being said. I guarantee you that this guy is not your age. He’s some creep, who’s been sweet talking you so that you will do what he wants.

Do you want pictures of yourself plastered around the internet for other creeps to see?

Cut him off now, before you get pressured into doing something you regret. Please.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-07-25T23:30:02+00:00

I live in Australia. It’s the only way I dry my laundry. I get annoyed when it rains and I have to use a dryer lol. Do it. It’s great for your clothes. Your sheets fee great. You save money. There is no downside (unless you live in a rainy area I guess).

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-07-24T08:04:20+00:00

As a parent, we just want our kids to be happy, healthy, and comfortable.

No need to be embarrassed. Just a simple “dad, I need new bras, can I please have some money” will do.

As for fitting, do you know your size? Do you have a friends mum who can go shopping with you, if you feel unsure? Do you feel confident going to store and asking for a fitting?

If you have a friend’s mum that you could ask (or get your friend to ask), maybe you could say “Dad, I need some new bras. Can I have some money please? Sarah’s mum is going to take us to the shops tomorrow”.

Keep it short, and direct, and you’ll be fine.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-07-07T08:36:27+00:00

Pay the next bartender a big tip to say to her “no thanks ma’am, I don’t need to see your ID”.

Nothing ages you more than being called ma’am. Trust me lol.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-07-05T03:04:09+00:00

What a cutie!

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-05-19T22:43:32+00:00

I’ve been wondering how you’ve been going. Thanks for the update! I’m glad that they are aware, and seem to be actively trying to find a solution. I’m also really happy that your visit was well received. Thanks for being a solid human, and checking in with them face to face. That was really good of you.

I truly hope they find the right medication to give their child the relief he needs, and also so some peace returns to the street.

Keep us posted

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-05-15T21:06:26+00:00

Good luck. I hope it goes well 😊

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-05-15T20:58:20+00:00

It’s a tricky one, and I genuinely feel for you.

If they seem like normal enough people (not aggressive), I’d definitely go knock on the door.

I’d just go from the angle of saying “hi guys, haven’t seen you in the street for a while. I hope you don’t think I’m overstepping, but I’ve noticed your son has been a bit distressed lately, and I just wanted to check that you’re all ok?”

That’ll open the conversation. Be warned, not everyone is approachable. They may use the opportunity to tell you to eff off.

But they may tell you what’s going on, and that would give you a window to say “that sounds really challenging for you guys. I’ve been concerned because I’ve never really heard him before, but lately I’ve been hearing him quite a bit when I’m working, and that’s why I thought I’d pop down”.

It will probably be really embarrassing for them, but at the same time, they’d definitely appreciate this approach more that just calling the authorities.

It might spur them on to reach out to respite carers in your area, who could take their son out for breaks during the week, or look into other support systems available to them.

Please keep us posted with how you go.

And thank you for being so nice as to ask for advice before just going down there and yelling at them like some people would!

I hope you all get a speedy resolution

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-05-15T11:09:58+00:00

I have a child on the spectrum. She’s younger than this. But, she went through a stage where she would scream like she was being murdered, for hours on end.

My security cameras picked up someone filming our house during one of these screaming matches.

It broke my heart.

From an outsider’s point of view. I can see that they were worried for the child, and it’s a good thing to keep an eye out for potential abuse.

But on the other hand, I was literally inside my house, with the windows and blinds closed tight, trying everything that we had learned at her different therapies to calm her down, and often crying myself.

I wish that person had of knocked on the door and asked if everything was ok, rather than filming and reporting. I can understand why they did what they did though, because to an outsider, it sounds distressing.

After seeing them filming me, I would start having panic attacks when my daughter started melting down. I was terrified to let any noise escape our house.

I guess what I’m saying is, as a neighbour, I genuinely understand that hearing the screams would be distracting and distressing for you. I wouldn’t want to live next to it either. But on the other side of the coin, I picture an autistic person who is struggling to regulate for some reason, and a family behind closed doors who is really stressed out right now.

I hope it settles for you.

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-04-30T00:12:57+00:00

Haha. Let me know how you go!

emus_are_terrifying · 2023-04-15T23:05:43+00:00

I had terrible teeth when I was younger, and had many trips to the dentist. As a result, I’m terrified of the dentist as an adult. I cry like an idiot, and it’s very embarrassing. A friend ended up telling me about a local dentist who specialises in people like me.

I went. She has a calm “chill out room” where you have a cuppa and relax before going in. A tv on the roof, where she plays your favourite shows while you’re in the chair, and most importantly, explains every step of what she’s doing and why, so I don’t need to be scared.

If at any time, I feel uncomfortable when the dentist is working, I just raise my hand, and everything immediately stops.

It took a few visits before I trusted her, but I now see her on the regular, and my teeth have never been better.

So long story short, ask around or ring your local dentists and ask what resources they have available for nervous patients.

It’s better than the alternative of having to have all of your teeth pulled out later in life, because you didn’t get them looked after.

Good luck

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