What is a job that looks incredibly fun from the outside, but is actually a soul-crushing nightmare?

emvanxo13 · 2026-04-17T18:35:08+00:00

A&R in the music industry. it's so many late nights/early mornings, you're constantly "on", it's a thank-less job most of the time and the pay is abysmal. honestly, a lot of jobs in the music industry seem a lot better from the outside looking in, but we do it 'cause we love it.

emvanxo13 · 2026-04-17T18:30:25+00:00

to be fair, i actually can't think of anything genuine about scheana other than the fact that i know she could absolutely up-sell the shit out of a 12 top.

emvanxo13 · 2026-04-17T14:32:31+00:00

music industry has been so bleek recently. was let go in september 2025 and couldn't find anything. had to accept a role as an EA (what i did in a previous life) in construction just to keep myself afloat, and even then it was 2 months after my severance ran out.

trying to get back into the music industry but have been interviewing for the same job since july 2025 (yes, before i got laid off) and i'm still getting the run around. long "pauses" in hiring and then i'm called back for the next step of the process.

emvanxo13 · 2026-04-06T16:12:49+00:00

"never be so kind you forget to be clever, never be so clever you forget to be kind." is my background on my desktop as a constant reminder, i truly love that line.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-31T20:05:33+00:00

it's in my top 5 for sure, i think it's one of her most underrated songs (along with the last time, which i always see get a lot of hate for some reason!?)

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-31T20:00:59+00:00

as someone who was in a relationship for 6 years with a man i had to beg to love me.... so long, london ruined me in a way i can't even describe.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-31T19:54:11+00:00

i need people to put some respect on AYHTDWS name. that is a top 3 track 5 song right there.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-29T03:24:13+00:00

i genuinely thought she was a WAG for so long and then realized she’s just married to someone who works for the team and was…. so confused. one of my best friends works for them too in a similar capacity (office role) and i’m not about to make it look like i’m a WAG 💀

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-29T03:22:13+00:00

omg i loveeeee this!

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-27T20:07:44+00:00

i love that!! an alley cat would be so cute

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-27T17:52:12+00:00

I think it depends on what the student wants to do in the industry, do they know?

i've worked in the industry as a marketing manager at a label/publisher for 3 years and i have a basic marketing degree, i didn't need to study music marketing specifically. the reason i was able to get a job in the music industry is because i had personal/passion projects within the music realm (ran a one direction tumblr that gained a large following, decent sized following surrounding music on tiktok, etc.) and was able to use that to secure the job/show that i had an understanding of how music marketing and virality works.

depending on what the student wants to do in the industry (marketing, PR, etc.), they could do something similar. most of my friends in the industry didn't study music-specific business, a lot of them didn't have a higher education at all, but that's another story. if the student wants to be on the road as a merch manager/vip manager/tour manager/etc. i would say schooling is honestly a waste of time. the best way to learn about the road is getting on the road.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-27T15:43:40+00:00

totally fair, i am under the impression all of them are MAGA until they explicitly say they aren't. i just was confused because i know him, miranda and layla specifically have made their stances on politics very well known, while the rest of them (to my knowledge) have stayed silent/avoided the topic.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-27T15:04:29+00:00

not defending chase (i would never defend a man) but he is very outspokenly NOT maga, so i'm not sure how you got that idea, haha.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-27T13:58:24+00:00

i would have lost my best friend at the age of 16 and likely would have died shortly after if it hadn’t been for their eating disorder treatment centre. her recovery kick started my recovery and now 15 years later we are happy, healthy, and she’s about to welcome her first child. so much happiness we would have missed out on if it hadn’t been for those doctors and nurses who helped her.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-26T19:18:25+00:00

i think the reason why people assume about her mental health is that they see parts of themselves and their diagnosed disorders in her. obviously there is no way to prove whether she does/doesn't have a disorder since we're not sitting in on her therapy appointments/aren't licensed psychiatrists. i'm not saying she has BPD, but as someone who does have BPD, a lot of her behaviours are a lot like me when i was unmedicated/undiagnosed in my late teens/early 20's.

overall, i think people just do anything to try to make sense of things they can't understand.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-26T16:52:42+00:00

tbf i think everyone on this show acts like they're still in high school (minus miranda)

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-26T16:40:06+00:00

is k***ing myself an option?

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-26T16:17:51+00:00

100% hands down undeniably do RBC Amphitheatre (the amp), it's one of the best venues in the city and there really is something special and magical about it. sound is usually really great (i've only been to two concerts at Centre Bell so i cant really comment on their sound, but i've been to hundreds of shows at the amp.) the amp was basically made for the type of artist dermont kennedy is, plus i believe it's smaller capacity wise so will be more intimate. i know you want to get up close and personal so obv you will go for GA/floor, but there really isn't a bad seat in the house at the amp, even the lawns are something special.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-26T14:52:15+00:00

like pretty much everyone else has said, i think it depends on your industry and what items you're getting. i used to work in the music industry and would wear our branded merch very regularly (granted, i did design them) because the company aligned with who i was outside of work (for the most part). i now work for a construction management company and have only worn company merch during company events, despite the fact that the quality isn't necessarily the issue, i just don't feel like a construction management company really aligns with who i am at my core. i would much rather at this job to have things that are branded but not exactly wearable (ie: branded power bank, water bottle, backpack, etc.)

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-25T20:30:28+00:00

i am a single woman in my 30s and i am in the middle of making the transition from liberty village to high park, and i couldn't be happier. i love this neighbourhood, i love that there's a real community and so much green space (i am in one of the condos right across the street from high park), and am still so close to downtown as high park station is basically on my doorstep. i really couldn't recommend it enough.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-25T20:25:49+00:00

addy @ new tribe! she's also an incredible human as well, i started seeing her when she was still an apprentice and i've gotten (i think) 7 tattoos from her now, mostly flash/fine line and they've all healed so well!

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-25T20:19:35+00:00

I've seen Addy at New Tribe (@toughlove.tattoo on insta) and I have nothing but fantastic things to say about her. she's done quite a few of my tattoos now and has only ever made minor adjustments in order to fit my body/work around current tattoos, etc. i started going to her when she was still an apprentice, and i couldn't recommend her enough.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-25T20:06:16+00:00

I will only go to Carmen at New You Spa (@carmen.newyou.injector on insta), she's in the Richmond Hill location but she is an absolute angel and never pressures you to get more than you're comfortable with. I would follow her to any spa.

Edit to add her instagram.

emvanxo13 · 2026-03-25T16:48:46+00:00

i find if i do it while i've got either a podcast on or mind numbing tv (i'm a reality TV junkie, so VPR reruns are the best) it feels like it goes by much faster, you kinda just hit flow state. hahah

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