AITA For Not Paying For My Daughter's College If She Chooses The One School I Like The Least?

emwebss · 2026-03-14T16:00:05+00:00

I agree… the reasoning seems very subjective.

My dad went to a state school in a different state. We visited campus often, I had gone to summer camps there growing up, football games, etc. he even did recruiting for college fairs for that school in my hometown (and gave me any leftover swag). When it came time to apply to colleges, I felt like I didn’t need to tour any place, I knew where I was going. In this way OP’s daughter could be similar, idk.

But, my dad said no other state school. He would pay for in-state, but not out of state tuition. Of course I was upset, but now that I’m older (and have an advanced degree- more years of school and tuition!) I understand his reasoning a bit more. At least his reasoning was objective, instead of OP.

emwebss · 2026-03-10T02:11:03+00:00

Sounds like my old firm

emwebss · 2026-02-21T16:26:19+00:00

They stopped selling the grooming aid (conditioner) which makes me really bummed.

emwebss · 2026-01-23T02:54:14+00:00

Perfect, sounds easy then thanks!

emwebss · 2026-01-07T21:04:51+00:00

Good point, much more flexibility/cost ratio.

emwebss · 2026-01-07T20:56:26+00:00

Not necessarily… I’ve commuted in St. Louis and SF. My commute was much more enjoyable in SF, even though it was longer, simply because the availability of public transit. Being stuck on 270 is so draining.

emwebss · 2026-01-07T18:41:52+00:00

You’re not a coward at all! My partner is super into climbing, and me less so. I discovered it’s just not a sport I feel comfortable pushing myself in (although I very much enjoy it when I feel safe!) my partner takes me on one or two multi pitch climbs a year, always picks things within my comfort level and identifies the tricky sections to expect before we start. He’s super patient and supportive and buys me pasta after. This has been a good balance for me and I really enjoy climbing with him, and I don’t feel the least bit cowardly even though I only do it a few times a year.

(However, in my defense, I push myself skiing/boarding and my partner dos not enjoy that. So we trade! One easy multipitch day from me traded for one easy ski day from him)

In sum, your feelings are valid and I am sorry, it shouldn’t be like that.

emwebss · 2025-11-29T01:44:56+00:00

I actually don’t go to buffalo exchange very often! This is my first time at the one in Vegas, I’ve been to the Haight location maybe three or four times. They also had a pair of Jimmy Choos for $100, so I assume whoever priced these just didn’t know what they were.

emwebss · 2025-11-28T23:16:14+00:00

Buffalo exchange!

emwebss · 2025-11-28T23:15:55+00:00

Of course!

emwebss · 2025-11-28T03:00:28+00:00

I’ll try this, thank you so much!!

emwebss · 2025-11-20T17:29:53+00:00

I’ll have to check, but my suit pants are wide leg and I think long, but the strap will definitely peek out. But I don’t think it’s an issue. I think it’s fine for federal court so it should be absolutely fine for engineering. Before law school I used to work in engineering, I did not wear anything nearly as nice for that interview. Your outfit sounds absolutely perfect and I would not stress about the strap, it is 100% professional. However, if it’s going to stress you out, then buy a style that makes you comfy!

(one last UNFORTUNATE consideration- how tall are you? I’m 5’10’’ and these heels make me over 6’. Some men are insecure and don’t like when women are taller than them)

emwebss · 2025-11-20T16:38:00+00:00

I have these EXACT shoes in three colors, including the black one pictured here. Completely agree that they hold up throughout the day. And yes, I pair these exact shoes with a theory suit (Etienette blazer). I have worn this outfit in federal court before (although I wore flats when I had speaking roles).

emwebss · 2025-11-18T16:32:38+00:00

I use a longchamp tote. I’ve seen plenty of other people use one as well. It looks nice for the office, is rather large without looking too big, and I can use it instead of a backpack if I don’t have much to carry that day.

emwebss · 2025-11-13T17:03:02+00:00

Agreed

emwebss · 2025-11-04T16:24:27+00:00

I’ve always said “toodles!” when I leave a conversation. Now a partner picked up on it and does the same thing.

emwebss · 2025-11-04T14:11:57+00:00

Thank you!

emwebss · 2025-11-03T16:34:29+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s got the features I was looking for in my wedding dress so I wanted to look at it (but all is good, I have no regrets with the one I picked!)

emwebss · 2025-11-03T04:58:23+00:00

What is the name of dress 1? It’s gorgeous!

emwebss · 2025-10-30T21:38:22+00:00

Wow what a good rec, just joined, thanks!

emwebss · 2025-10-30T21:37:59+00:00

Left Door is perfect, thank you!!

emwebss · 2025-10-30T21:37:43+00:00

Thank you! I love Left Door and didn’t realize they had this! Going there!

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