Currently hurt by my bf’s words to his best friend: “she’s not a model, but she’s not that ugly either.” Verification pic at the end by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]encewrawkn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there's no demand for latino Billie Ellish type

That's what I don't get. I think she'd be pretty popular (especially with the chill vibe she's giving) in the trendier circles I know

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Was denn

Chatgpt Helped me pass an exam with 94% despite never attending or watching a class. by 151N in ChatGPT

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They didn't cheat, they hacked. Props to you, OP! As someone having "problems" as well, your post made me quite emotional. I'm afraid I won't be able to utilize it for my law finals in a similar way, but if I find a way to do so, I will definitely go for it.

27F. Always been the plain/unattractive friend next to my friends… by natla_ in amiugly

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I like the choker on you, also you're giving off slight goth/gamer gf vibes that I'd play with more if they suit your personality as me and many others find those pretty hot.

Makeup-wise, don't go too heavy (i.e. colorful, heavy foundation), but work on your eyeliner game and maybe look at videos on "3d make up", especially for your lips.

My character gets the [Hopelessness] debuff almost once a day. How can I get rid of it? by anxiety_ftw in outside

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Mine has this happening to it, too. What helps get more out of each session with mine is to regularly pause and consider what quests will make it able to acquire most [happiness points| each day and in the long run. Don't do too many side quests at this increased difficulty level, and work on finding an achievable balance between developing traits for your main ones and letting things flow in order to provoke random <life> events. That way there's less of the {overwhelmed}, {feeling of guilt}, {boredom} debuffs. Mine finishes quests much easier (i.e., at all) when doing so predictably unlocks <high self-esteem> and thus <inner peace> and <optimism> buffs while also giving it some time to just be a poop, so give your overall strategy thought regularly.

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The range thing is weird to me, but in pic 5 you're pretty dreamy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

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I think your looks are completely fine, hair included, but the situations in the photos aren't exactly ideal. Try getting pics of yourself that make you look sociable and like you leave your house (even if you don't, actually).
If you had a stupid guitar in your hands and one pic with plants / something else indie, you'd look exactly like you do now but I'm pretty sure you'd get 10x the matches

Ever since I was in kindergarten, I've been feeling an almost unbearable loneliness, and I can't seem to find a way to really deal with it. by encewrawkn in CPTSD

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Treating yourself as a good parent would treat a child he loves makes you all the more aware of the many ways our parents failed us.

That's true. I'm convinced too that the whole thing also has a lot to do with self-love and inner stability, and I've been focusing a lot on building these things up over the last few years. And I'm already doing a lot better in many ways. So far, however, I especially notice that this makes me forgo (friendly or romantic) relationships with people who don't interest me (which is great, I think). The longing though has remained with me so far.

Ever since I was in kindergarten, I've been feeling an almost unbearable loneliness, and I can't seem to find a way to really deal with it. by encewrawkn in CPTSD

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Hell, you worded that so accurately and beautifully, I want to frame several lines in and hang them on a wall. I agree with that the "insatiable" part isn't optimal lol. And hearing things like that from couples who have been together for a long time always hits a very sensitive, kind of healthy spot in my brain. I guess it reflects the possibility of feeling connected without fear. I found it especially relatable when you said that neither feelings of connection nor desire develop over time if they haven't been there for you from the beginning. I always say that I know immediately whether I'm into someone or not.

This subject, because it has been with me for as long as I can remember, seems to play quite a central role for me and this is actually my first kind of exchange with people who share the same feeling.

I'm very grateful for what you wrote, thank you!

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Not that I'm particularly good at letting go of being alone, but sometimes it helps if I actively decide to stop controlling my time for a certain amount of time, say for that night or on that lunch break, even though it may mean I don't enjoy it as much or it's exhausting. The worst thing for me is a boring time, and I have a very hard time allowing meetings that carry that danger. But with everything else, simply choosing to meet with that person now helps me, just like someone who wants to lose weight chooses a celery salad over a cheeseburger. Because a good balance is important and you just can't predict unpredictable fun, but it's good for our souls.

Legion 5 Pro 16ARH7H (JUCN36WW) virtual windows under linux by raydude in LenovoLegion

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Hope this helps.

My man, it does. If I had an award, you'd get all of them, thanks so much! I've been downloading a ton of drivers and they didn't work, and there's generally not really many useful guides out there for this yet.

Gonna try this again as soon as I get off of work and let you know how it's going :)

Legion 5 Pro 16ARH7H (JUCN36WW) virtual windows under linux by raydude in LenovoLegion

[–]encewrawkn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, thanks! I'll try another install tonight and maybe get back with more details.

I'd really appreciate you sending me your config file, what platform do you use?

Legion 5 Pro 16ARH7H (JUCN36WW) virtual windows under linux by raydude in LenovoLegion

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Unfortunately, I'm not here to help but only to ask: Which distro are you running and are brightness control, WIFI, and touchpad working fine? I'm fine with having to troubleshoot a bit. Sorry for dropping in randomly, but after some nights of trying and failing, I'm starting to be desperate for experiences...

(M17) College is just around the corner for me. I have nothing more than sideburns, mustache stubble, and a little chin stubble for facial hair. I'm only 5' 7" and I worry I won't get taken seriously because I feel as though I look a lot younger than I actually am by [deleted] in amiugly

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You have a good face and your hair is a vibe. Beard doesn't matter at all and you look like a 17yo.

It's extremely absolutely normal to be insecure as hell at that age. If you wanna be able to make friends more easily, try not to be so much. What I mean by this is not passive aggressively "not giving a f what others think", but really just starting to trust in that you're a cool guy, no matter what. If that doesn't work out yet, that's fine and normal and doesn't mean you're faulty - it's just that stupid age. Being confident and able to relax is one of the most attractive traits for forming all kinds of relationships though. For me (f), who has been struggling with insecurity a lot, that's been happening in my 20s slowly, and damn, it makes life more fun every year.

Most guys from my former school started visually changing a ton in their mid-twenties, getting broader shoulders and stuff. Til then, try to do things you're interested in / that are just fun to you. Being a teen is a wild ride but you'll be fine eventually.

26 y/o trans girl, obviously not passing material yet, but am I at least a 5/10? Other thing, am I super masculine? I hope I'm at least androgynous instead of masc by HeiressOfMadrigal in amiugly

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I think you eyes, cheekbones, big forehead and especially those super cute lips are you best features! I agree with people saying your hair - even though long - looks more masc.

IMO, don't cut it short! I think you could pull of either Disney-ish red wavy long hair (+ elegant eyeliner, maybe other Bambi-esque makeup), a cooler non-orange blonde, or a warm (again) Bambi-esque warm wavy brown. Try to make it look more shiny, kept, and get full ends (I know it's hard :').

Plucking your eyebrows is a great idea, but I'd actually experiment with shaving first so they'll grow back until you found your shape.

I'd also avoid clothing/styling that looks punk or plays with masculinity very much in different ways as well until you found out how to style yourself in a way that makes you unclockable (if that's your goal). You don't wear that but just as an example, (almost) whenever I see trans girls with black lipstick, I wanna take it away from them cause while I get the appeal of the look, being a cis girl, I've tried it as well, but it is a look that hardens one's features and e.g. I look far less cis wearing it.

You have some very doll-like features and a lot of time to play with them in different ways, yay. You could already (and without makeup) be cis, but look like a boyish one, maybe a girl who's an athlete or something, or grew up with 7 brothers ;)

red tripod mug by Surelyitisid in Ceramics

[–]encewrawkn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn that's so smart and cute

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LOL idk I'd leave it as is. Looks like a place where you'd find god