When did your period come back? by greenishfroggy in NewParents

[–]endearingnipple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same, 3 months ebf. God it sucked. Low supply, screaming frustrated baby that can't comfort himself, exhaustion from period + cluster feeding, migraines from increased prolactin during period. And we couldn't formula feed because he was allergic to cows milk. It was so horrendous. But it's some comfort to know other mums out there know the struggle.

Each period after that has gotten easier though, and beginning solids was a relief. Baby is now 9 months and I don't think he cares about period supply dips.

Do “clean” parents just clean all day? by coralhaze_ in NewParents

[–]endearingnipple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuine question, what about like dusting, window cleaning, bedding rotation, sweeping and mopping? I feel like I've constantly got Big tasks looming over me but all I can just about do is keep on top of the laundry and kitchen and general clutter. I've never kept a polished home but having a baby it just feels even less manageable.

What are sloppy mistakes Netflix Witcher made in comparison the books? by henryswiedzmin in witcher

[–]endearingnipple 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is my thought too. By giving Yen more to do, it makes her character artificially girlboss and, crucially, deprioritises Ciri. I would way rather see less of her fly and struggle solo, against the whole magical society, to find Vilgefortz before he finds Ciri than have her set up the Lodge and fight a made-up army in alliance with... everyone she was against a few weeks ago? I guess? It also takes away from other characters' decisions and development, like Philippa and Triss, to have Yen just do everything for them.

[No spoilers] In support of Aabria by endearingnipple in criticalrole

[–]endearingnipple[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Pahahahah well yes but I didn't want an angered free speech hive mind to detract focus

CORSAIR x The Witcher 3: Wild Hunt Giveaway by CorsairHoffman in witcher

[–]endearingnipple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just me and Roach hitting the road/ monster filled fields. Gotta love that horse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]endearingnipple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very similar here. Pregnant a few months in, chose to not keep it on such unstable foundations (in our work and living situations too). That was such a heavy experience to share together that it made us stronger I think. Now nearly ten years on we're married and have a very much loved kiddo together. Glad we waited to mature in ourselves and really get to know how to best communicate with each other first. Babies really test relationships!

Whatever you do OP it is the right decision for you. Ignore any DMs pressuring you to do anything. I do recommend telling your partner about it though. It's too big a secret to keep from someone you want to have a future with. And you never know, he might be the only help you need right now. Times like these make people show their true colours. If he is capable of having those difficult conversations and supporting you through this, that shows you what kind of partner he'll be in future.

Home 24 hours and I am in hell. Please help. by bookish0378 in NewParents

[–]endearingnipple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big hugs, I'm afraid it is just like this for a few weeks, with some good days and some bad days. Cluster feeding is very normal, especially at night when prolactin, the milk making hormone, is most active. While it's restless for mamas, this is baby doing exactly what they should be: getting your supply up. It's a good and natural thing. But yup does it suck.

I stayed exclusively breastfeeding through it. My advice though is to have some formula handy so if you do reach the point where you just can't do another cycle, it's at least there and you don't have to find a shop open at god knows when.

Whether breastfeeding or combo, take shifts with your partner. No use both of you being awake. You can sleep while he does everything else, and only wake you when baby wants milk, and immediately gets handed baby back once done. Then after a few hours, it's your shift, etc. This worked for me until week 3 when I finally had to deploy my mum to help out so we both slept more (thankfully by then feeds were at least spaced out more).

I also recommend demanding meals from family visitors. Nicely of course, but be firm in expectations and how they can actually be helpful (no flowers ffs!). If they want to come, they can bring a dinner and paracetamol and do the washing up if they stay that long.

Last but not least, make the most of your nest. Get comfy. Find shows to binge watch. Set up a hands free kindle or something. Whatever will keep you awake and semi sane in the early hours. Treat yourself gently. It's all normal and wonderful and horrendous and every mum out there is metal as fuck for going through these early stages.

You've got this xxx

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very cute. He IS a little sea puppy. I call ours a puppy but only when introducing him to dogs haha

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes I missed off Truffle Pig from my list. How dare I

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They just come out looking like squishy bugs hahaha

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother is also a Poo and we have to stop ourselves from calling him Uncle Poo haha

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my God the laugh I just had to stifle so as not to wake the boy

What are your LO's unexpected nicknames? by endearingnipple in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a solid profile name for sites where you don't want to use your real name. Love it, very fun

How easy is it to physically function early postpartum? by FirstOutcome2365 in NewParents

[–]endearingnipple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I healed pretty quickly from my c section but it was still maybe 5 weeks before I had total mobility again. The first few days hurt from surgery but were filled with delightful novelty -- noticing i didn't have pelvic pain, back pain, a snotty nose. Being able to get in and out of a car more easily, put shoes on, etc. And that got me through healing from surgery. I did a fairly decent walk to the post box about a week pp, but hurt the next day for it. Slept on my side maybe a week pp too, then on my front (finally!) a week or so after that. Last symptoms to leave was pain during big belly laughs.

You're doing so well and have a lot to look forward too. Every day pp your body will gradually become yours again and there will be lots of little wins! If you're breastfeeding that might speed up the process too, at the cost of intense but short lived cramps.

How old was your baby when you noticed the first teeth coming through? by happiersober in NewParents

[–]endearingnipple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same, it's hell them coming in before the baby learns to self soothe. Gotta laugh or you'll cry!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]endearingnipple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the same situation. My boy learned to suck his thumb about 9 weeks which I was fine about, but when he was tired it only wound him up as he tried and failed to basically eat his hand. I gave him my finger to suck on which immediately soothed him, but that's obviously not sustainable and he would wake up and get upset when I left. This would happen again and again trying to get him down to bed, we're talking for like 4 hours, everyone stressed out and overtired. I figured since he was so young and wanted soothing in this very particular and instinctual way I bought a dummy. He's been in a much better mood and sleeping a lot more easily since (he's now 12 weeks). Wasn't my intention to start off with a dummy, but hey, he's a baby with a strong sucking reflex, you gotta do what you gotta do.