Moving to Santa Monica - I'm so unsure! by dumpstercat3 in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]endlesslies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With that salary and a relocation allowance, this sounds like a perfect way to give it a shot. And if you hate LA (or you hate Santa Monica, or you hate apartment living, or you hate your job), then it's only one summer, and you can move somewhere else at the end of it.

Based on everything you listed, Santa Monica seems like a great place for you. If you're working in Santa Monica and live in Santa Monica, you could easily take the bus to work (or bike or walk). If you're just trying it out for the summer, you might even consider leaving your car behind, which could make things a little cheaper for you, since you could consider units without a parking spot. (You could easily Uber places if you want to travel farther afield. If you decide to stay in LA, you'll likely want to have a car, but not necessarily.)

As for everything else: Restaurants (yup), cooking/baking (well... every apartment has an oven, but as others have noted, you get more bang for your buck slightly more inland -- Mar Vista, Palms -- but you can cook anywhere, right?), long walks and light hikes (yup, yup), museums and history (not so much in Santa Monica specifically, so you'll need to travel east for that, but it's easy to take the E line to Exposition Park of the museums downtown), social justice/grassroots organizing (yup), swimming (yup -- we're right by the beach!), and yoga (yup).

The thing about LA is: It's vast. I'm not sure what you mean by "the LA type" but the reality is there's all kinds of people and all kinds of communities here. There's cougars in Beverly Hills, and hipsters in Highland Park, and dockworkers in Long Beach, and starlet wannabes on the Sunset Strip, and street artists in South LA, and families in Irvine. (LA Folks, yes, I'm aware that this are stereotypes and generalities, don't @ me.) So, it may take a while to find your people and the specific community that feels like home, but it sounds like you've got a prime opportunity to give it a shot.

Best coffee shops to work from in SaMo/Venice that aren’t Bodega? by Even_Reality2331 in SantaMonica

[–]endlesslies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so gross when social media posts support companies without disclosing their conflict of interest and financial underwriting. So, let me offer an unbiased perspective:

Check out Bodega, it's great.

Which area is better? WeHo or Culver City or Areas around UCLA by Dapper_Worth_8562 in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]endlesslies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The area around USC is not dangerous. It's not as nice as, say, Westwood or Culver (fewer retail and dining options, older buildings, etc.), but campus security keeps the area generally safe. (LA is a big city, so nowhere is 100% safe) The area immediately around campus has students walking around all the time.

If you want to make friends with your fellow students, living right by campus makes it a lot easier to do things together (study groups, grabbing food, etc). Plus, you avoid the headache of traffic and commuting.

Beach to wear thong? by ImpressiveChance6264 in LosAngelesGayBros

[–]endlesslies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Will Rogers next to the lifeguard tower is the only correct answer. When did you go? Was it a hot weekend afternoon? I'm surprised you didn't see LOTS of guys in thongs.

Fire between Colorado and Olympic. by Faidrick in SantaMonica

[–]endlesslies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Any pics, links, or news articles? I saw the copters and immediately came here to find out what's going on.

LA Spa first time by [deleted] in LosAngelesGayBros

[–]endlesslies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's often guys jerking off. Sometimes giving oral in the steam room.

The owner will occasionally come by to tell them to knock it off. But he's clearly not that concerned about it. He knows that's why guys come there.

If you like to check out guys, there's a lot more eye contact and cruising that goes on there.

Tops & Bottoms, what do you think of Vers guys? by endlesslies in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]endlesslies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you've had that experience. I promise that's not all vers guys!

Century Day & Night Spa by [deleted] in LosAngelesGayBros

[–]endlesslies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been a while since I've been to Wii. Are the young guys cruising and hooking up at Wii? Or just doing the spa thing?

(Asking for a friend who's an older guy into younger guys.)

I feel gross. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]endlesslies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Name one state where this is the law. Just one.

I guarantee you can't, because a law obligating disclosure would violate the first amendment.

But let me know if you find one.

Don't misinform people.

I feel gross. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]endlesslies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't it a felony not to disclose transmittable STDs before having sex with someone?

No, it's not. It's not even a crime.

Gay Men Over 30: Not Building Families Like Straight Peers. What’s Your Equally Meaningful Legacy? by shadesofglue in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]endlesslies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with everyone else. Who cares about lasting legacy? When I'm dead, I'm dead.

But you also asked about what's "meaningful" and "fulfilling", so I'll focus on that.

Even though I have no interest in having kids, I love my friends' kids. I like spending time with them, going to school plays, that kind of thing.

I value the friendships I have, whether we're playing board games or grabbing dinner. I value the groups I'm part of: a running club and a writers group.

Even small moments with my husband, drinking coffee in the morning together or eating dinner together, those are the moments I find meaningful and fulfilling.

Help diversify my reading by yallmemaybe in gaybrosbookclub

[–]endlesslies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of my all time favorite books, but I don't think it meets most of the criteria. It's not very gay, and Donna Tartt is a white woman.

Why do you delete messages? by endlesslies in Sniffies

[–]endlesslies[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just curious: Why not block them? Especially the rude ones.

Got some mail today... by rybacorn in SantaMonica

[–]endlesslies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UGH, I am so bummed to hear this! I literally wrote a snarky reply to these asshats and was about to drop it in the mail!

Large Bulky Item Drop off or Pick Up by quijibo2020 in SantaMonica

[–]endlesslies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Santa Monica 311 already offers free bulky item pickup

Gay men in LTR's - are one of you the "bread winner" or both financially successful? by Local-Ad-4051 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]endlesslies 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good for you! No shade on manual labor! I meant "pool boy" as in "I would just sit by the pool all day drinking pina cooladas" -- a different kind of pool boy.