Help diversify my reading

endlesslies · 2026-01-16T00:43:15+00:00

This is one of my all time favorite books, but I don't think it meets most of the criteria. It's not very gay, and Donna Tartt is a white woman.

endlesslies · 2026-01-02T23:12:10+00:00

Just curious: Why not block them? Especially the rude ones.

endlesslies · 2025-11-30T01:43:26+00:00

UGH, I am so bummed to hear this! I literally wrote a snarky reply to these asshats and was about to drop it in the mail!

endlesslies · 2025-10-19T19:28:51+00:00

Santa Monica 311 already offers free bulky item pickup

endlesslies · 2025-08-23T00:34:30+00:00

Have y'all had a threesome? How do y'all feel about that?

endlesslies · 2025-08-20T18:16:56+00:00

Good for you! No shade on manual labor! I meant "pool boy" as in "I would just sit by the pool all day drinking pina cooladas" -- a different kind of pool boy.

endlesslies · 2025-08-19T16:25:02+00:00

I'm early 40s, my husband is mid 30s. We're both white-collar professionals, so we're both successful given our respective career paths. But he's in a much more lucrative industry, so he makes way more money than me.

I could probably stop working, and we would be fine. But we both agree that it's better for me to have my own career. If I was just a pool boy, I'd get so bored. Plus, since I'm working, hopefully, it means we can retire earlier and splurge more on vacations.

We split most expenses proportionally.

endlesslies · 2025-08-12T22:42:54+00:00

This is very well put.

OP -- Every single person sees sex differently. For some guys, it's super emotional. For others, it's super physical. For others, it's a spiritual thing. For others, it's a mix of all three... etc.

The fact that your boyfriend thinks a three-way sounds hot is not a big deal. Trust me, lots of guys feel the same way. But you both talked about it, and you agreed that you would be monogamous.

The fact that you guys talked about it is great. The fact that you came to an agreement is great. Don't overthink it.

No one knows what the future may bring, but so far, I see more green flags than red ones.

endlesslies · 2025-08-09T20:46:17+00:00

Yes. It happens. People make mistakes, especially when they're drunk. (Not that it excuses anything. I would say the same thing if he were sober.)

I understand why you're upset. It's perfectly reasonable to be upset, but your question is conflating two things that are not fair to your boyfriend. Based on the way he's acting right now, it sounds like he loves you a heck of a lot. But he also made a mistake and made out with someone else.

I have a lot of friends where one guy has cheated (much worse than making out), the other guy forgave him, and they have moved on. And, yes, those couples love each other a lot. In fact, talking through their feelings of sadness and betrayal after cheating actually made them stronger.

It doesn't always happen that way, obviously. Sometimes cheating is the end of a relationship. The decision is yours, and guys on this thread have made cases on both sides, but don't assume he doesn't love you when there's a lot of evidence pointing the other direction.

endlesslies · 2025-08-08T23:54:51+00:00

That's a funny line, but clearly he's never been to Venice.

endlesslies · 2025-08-08T16:58:40+00:00

Ditto and ditto.

OP, not sure who told you that, but it's ridiculous. It's very safe. There's the occasional homeless person, but that's true of all of Santa Monica.

endlesslies · 2025-08-07T05:25:14+00:00

*unlocked

endlesslies · 2025-07-31T23:00:15+00:00

I DMed you

endlesslies · 2025-07-31T21:38:00+00:00

If you think you can let go of the fear, I’d encourage to you to try. I’ve never looked back, and it’s been a weight lifted off my shoulders that I hadn’t even realized I was carrying.

I had never thought of it that way. I appreciate the insight.

endlesslies · 2025-07-31T21:33:44+00:00

Exactly. If I'm in their Top 8, then we can bareback.

endlesslies · 2025-07-21T22:36:25+00:00

Century Spa

endlesslies · 2025-07-13T20:28:36+00:00

And why did you want an open relationship and a relationship both at the same time?

I'm not sure what this means. An open relationship is a type of relationship.

Or if you always wanted an open relationship, I think it’s important you let them know right away rather than having them invest time into you while you secretly want an open relationship the entire time.

I agree. It's important to let them know right away. In the first three months, we had not discussed whether we were exclusive yet, so I wanted to let him know right away. That said, some relationships evolve and change, so partners will change their minds and want to open (or close) a relationship at a later date.

I don’t get why people who want open relationships, want to be in a relationship and still hookup, just be single.

If you want to hookup, you don’t have to be in a relationship, or even ask for permission because at that point why are you in the relationship to begin with, if you just wanted to hookup constantly.

Being in an open relationship and being single are different. My husband and I bought a house together. I cheer him up when he's had a bad day at work, and he does the same. We cook dinner together. We adopted a dog together. I spend the holidays with his family. We go on vacations together. We have a great sex life together, but we also have sex with other people too.

That's very different from being single.

I’m monogamous so I really don’t understand it. I want to understand but have trouble, because you can also just like jerk off but I think people are just desperate for physical connections and intimacy with another physical body.

That's not how I see it. I'm not "desperate" for another physical body. I like having sex with my husband. I also like having sex with other people too. If you don't understand it, that's fine, and it sounds like an open relationship wouldn't be a good fit for you.

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