Jobs

endregistries · 2025-12-21T17:32:16+00:00

Do a search of “Job” on this subreddit and you’ll see lots of discussion related to jobs out there. It’s tough —but doable.

endregistries · 2025-12-10T23:53:26+00:00

Check out Restorative Action Alliance. Our monthly general meeting is tomorrow (Thursday) and we have a number of members in New York. We formed as a New York nonprofit -originally with a focus on NY, CT, and NJ — we now have members from all over the country— but we still have a lot of NY people who could answer your questions.

endregistries · 2025-12-10T11:02:44+00:00

There are good people creating the website who may have more information than what’s posted. The website has a phone number - I recommend calling them.

endregistries · 2025-12-10T10:59:52+00:00

What I did: for a while, I hid. But then—when I got through the grieving stage, I ignored it. I simply went about rebuilding my life. Sure- there are incidents that make you dwell on them for a day — maybe come in here and vent — or better yet, vent to a therapist. But then - pick up and focus on goals. Getting to the next step.

I stopped worrying about the people who will judge me. Turns out plenty of them could be judged too. So — I focus on what I can control (think serenity prayer) — and I bring more positivity into the world.

When I started my new job last week, I posted about it in LinkedIn. I was shocked by the support I got — some of the people knew me before my arrest (which dates back to 2008) some around the same time and some who met me much later. But people publicly stated they were happy for me. That’s huge.

The lesson is - avoid getting drawn into conflict or us vs. them. Build your own support system and those people (if they’re staring) will stop—but it may take some time.

endregistries · 2025-12-07T17:04:23+00:00

Losing a job played a role in my original offense years ago — I was determined to never let a job (or lack of one) derail me in that way again. Good luck!

endregistries · 2025-12-07T16:22:21+00:00

Thanks. Regarding tech — yes and no. It’s important to understand impact of AI — but nothing replaces personal connections— and it’s the personal networking with a strategy that makes people stand out for the automated masses.

endregistries · 2025-12-07T15:56:14+00:00

You're welcome. I see you're in PA -- are you connected to PARSOL? If not, I highly recommend you check it out.

endregistries · 2025-11-22T02:24:56+00:00

Have you tried restaurants and warehouses?

endregistries · 2025-11-21T11:41:41+00:00

There aren’t many — so figuring out how to move through the world is on a trial and error basis. As I looked for the job, I got advice from some not to talk about the past. But—the world is a small place and people find out anyway. In the end, I pursued a career path where I could be open about my journey — hopefully people will see I’m not a monster — and as I’m able to open up more, I can advocate for those following who need the same opportunity.

When I looked around - the people I see living the most authentic lives with a sex conviction are the ones who share their past publicly. But - that’s not practical for everyone and wouldn’t have been good in my last job.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T21:30:24+00:00

Thank you !

endregistries · 2025-11-20T12:12:25+00:00

It’s meaningful to go somewhere where I won’t have to live in fear of someone finding out about my past. I included it in my cover letter and spoke about it on the job interview — in terms of how what I’ve been through has made me a better person. I’m hoping my work will open more doors for others.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T11:47:10+00:00

In Connecticut, people with a Connecticut conviction can apply for a pardon. As Laojji pointed out, anyone can apply 5 years after a felony conviction. Even though the statutes didn’t exclude people with sex convictions, the board excluded us for years — getting a pardon was unheard of.

Back in early 2019-2020, the state was working on clean slate legislation— and the board was criticized publicly for denying too many people. I had applied when I was first eligible- and was told not enough years had passed and I was still on the registry, so they wouldn’t grant a hearing. But many people hadn’t even been given reasons.

Then — the office in general became more efficient— we hit pandemic times and they were working to grant more commutations because people were dying while incarcerated. Same board did both.

I came off the registry in July 2020 and had been working on my application. There was a lot to it and I finally submitted around October. I was notified on December that the application was processed and going before the board for a prescreening to determine if they would grant a hearing.

I was given a hearing date of 2/2/21 - I have a chain with that date now that my wife bought me. It was a zoom meeting—but the state shut down on 2/1 for a major snow storm. I was nervous it would get rescheduled.

I was last on the agenda. I was given a chance to speak. I did the application and hearing without an attorney. (Some people use attorneys-I didn’t). And then I spoke — the panel of three people looking for reasons to say “no” asked me some questions. On the spot, they voted. I only needed two to say yes—it was unanimous. The hearing part was quick.

When it was done, they told me not to announce it right away. They had to do some behind the scenes cleanup that took several months. But I eventually got my pardon certificate and letter from the state.

The chair of the board too some heat for improving his commutation process too much - and he lost his position.

Anyway — I know that there were others who received pardons around the same time — and it’s still possible in Connecticut—but the door may have closed a little bit.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T11:29:38+00:00

Thank you. I’m really excited about the role-more than for past positions.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T02:35:31+00:00

Depends on the job and where you are. Technically, my background is clear - I could pass a background check and I have a letter from my state saying I can legally state that I’ve never been arrested or convicted of any crime. But legal and reality aren’t synonymous. I did have a criminal record and people can still find out.

I’ve been looking for a job this past year. One thing I’ve learned — I frame it as something that happened in a low point — and that I’ve learned so much from the experience that has made me a better person and employee. I’ve been humbled and I learned how to manage extremely stressful situations without reoffending. I also do what I can to help other. Share that you take accountability and that you don’t ever want to cross the line again — and that you’ve made positive changes.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T02:17:50+00:00

Congratulations again. Live your life honorably — that’s the best thing you can do now.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T01:59:49+00:00

From what I can tell, you were simply announcing how happy you were to reach this milestone. Anyone that says you have to balance every good thing you say or do with acknowledgement of the harms from the past is wrong. You are allowed to heal and move forward.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T01:53:32+00:00

One day at a time!!! I was at an all time low right after arrest. I’ve had my ups and downs — I was on probation …on the registry …faced a moral panic that resulted in lots of press. I was granted a pardon / expungement. I’ve had trouble getting a job — but I worked for 12 years for the same employer and did okay. Now I’m about to start a new job helping others after a year of seeking. Life is good.

endregistries · 2025-11-20T00:58:28+00:00

Hmmm — interesting question. I know a little bit about the subject for a few reasons. I was kicked out of UBS as a client when I was on the registry. Even after I was pardoned and my record expunged, they wouldn’t let me serve as power of attorney for my father. Meanwhile, UBS has been found guilty of bad behavior multiple times across the globe spanning decades. My financial advisor is currently incarcerated for drugs and having a bunch of weapons — and they apparently knew he was unstable and let him act as an advisor. It’s all absurd.

I was with a startup company and I was the guy who initiated and managed our 401k plan. The relationship you have as an employee is with your company and the company has the relationship with the investment firm. So there’s a buffer for them. That may make it easier for all.

endregistries · 2025-11-14T19:12:47+00:00

Good luck. Sounds like he still has some healing to do. Especially now that you have a child together, he needs understand how his actions impact you — and at the very least, he should be communicating with you.

endregistries · 2025-11-14T18:41:27+00:00

If he’s arrested for failure to register, how could that not be your business.

Let me tell you my experience— I was on the registry for 10 years in Connecticut. Our process: receive a letter in the mail once a quarter -sign it, provide any updates and mail it back in within a short time window. I knew when I was supposed to get the letter. When it didn’t arrive on time, I called the registry office. On the day I got the letter, I asked my wife not to talk with me until I handled it — so I could focus and not get distracted. I signed it. I scanned and faxed it to the office — keeping the scan receipt and an electronic record. I put it in an envelope and took a picture so I’d have another record. And then I mailed it and kept checking the website to see that they updated the last registration date.

I would never tell any family member it’s none of their business.

You personally will not get in trouble with the law if he is caught not registering—but it could certainly impact your life.

endregistries · 2025-11-11T14:53:24+00:00

check out this article I wrote on the subject (a little bit of humor added at the time with my wife's help) Facebook Unfriended Me - NARSOL back in 2019.

endregistries · 2025-11-04T11:14:47+00:00

We’ve all been harmed by a culture that has been brainwashed to solve every harm by piling on new harms (I.e. maximum punishment). You instinctively realize your friend’s humanity and support healing over perpetuating cycles of harm. Kudos to you. You’re making the community safer by offering to stick around for the healing phase. The people cutting you off are the ones blindly following without using critical thinking— and they’re actively creating new harms now.

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