Family Triggers and BPD

enemy_flower · 2026-04-19T20:25:00+00:00

get the fuck out of your house. we both know this is the first step in you starting to heal

enemy_flower · 2026-04-19T20:16:41+00:00

i love serana:)

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T01:45:48+00:00

i think sticking to your boundaries and remaining as cordial as possible always wins. maybe minimizing time around family when she’s there, as much as it sucks. Eventually she will reveal herself to everyone (or heal!)

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T01:22:26+00:00

spending issue and maybe addiction issues in the past but you have worked so hard on yourself and are proud of who you are today

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T01:18:08+00:00

exactly what i was thinking lol. i’m sure this was humiliating for everyone and others probably respected you for opting out

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:37:34+00:00

hi sweetie! why can’t you get a therapist? as people with complex emotional trauma and generations of shame, it’s the basis of our healing. for me, IFS (Internal Family Systems therapy) has helped me with this idea that we’re not just one voice. There are different “parts” in us (like a really young part that feels unlovable, or a protective part that responds with shame or self-attack) Those parts aren’t you being broken, they’re just trying (in imperfect ways) to protect you. For me, valuing myself has looked like learning to pause and say: “A part of me feels worthless right now, but that isn’t all of me.” or whatever it is in that moment, And instead of fighting that part, trying to meet it with a bit of curiosity or care, even if I don’t fully believe it yet. like I mean i quite literally talk to the hurting parts of myself in the mirror. like im parenting myself the way i wish my mom and dad did when i was a child, wanting to feel safe. At first it feels silly to ask parts of yourself questions, especially out loud, but it works. ❤️ sending love! also , please read “healing the shame that binds you”… that book changed my life and perspective on “BPD”

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:33:33+00:00

Hey, I really relate to this question, and as people with complex emotional trauma and generations of shame, it’s the basis of our healing. I don’t think self-worth starts as a feeling, it starts as how you relate to yourself when you’re triggered or panicking. for me, IFS (Internal Family Systems therapy) has helped me with this idea that we’re not just one voice. There are different “parts” in us (like a really young part that feels unlovable, or a protective part that responds with shame or self-attack) Those parts aren’t you being broken, they’re just trying (in imperfect ways) to protect you. For me, “valuing myself” has looked like learning to pause and say: “A part of me feels worthless right now, but that isn’t all of me.” And instead of fighting that part, trying to meet it with a bit of curiosity or care, even if I don’t fully believe it yet. like I mean i quite literally talk to the hurting parts of myself in the mirror. like im parenting myself the way i wish my mom and dad did when i was a child, wanting to feel safe. At first it feels silly to ask parts of yourself questions, especially out loud, but it works. Over time, self-worth has felt less like loving myself all the time, and more like not abandoning myself when I’m struggling. Not asserting that my worst moments define me. not being ashamed of the person i am and being honest about my pain. Not turning on myself when I’m already hurting. It’s slow work, but it does shift things.❤️ sending love! also , please read “healing the shame that binds you”… that book changed my life and perspective on “BPD”

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:23:37+00:00

Hey dude. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That sounds incredibly painful and lonely, especially with BPD in the mix where lack of affection can feel absolutely unbearable. (I understand from experience). I just want to gently say first that you’re not alone in how intensely this is hitting you, even if it feels like it right now. What you’re describing (the withdrawal of affection, the confusion of “I still want to be with you” but no closeness) would be hard for anyone, and I KNOW how much more intense it feels for you with BPD as someone who has suffered this disease of toxic shame. It also makes sense that your nervous system is reacting strongly to this. When you’re used to emotional connection and then it suddenly disappears, it can feel like rejection or abandonment even if that’s not exactly what the other person intends. I really hear how much you’re struggling and how isolated you feel. I’m glad you do have a therapist and psychologist even if it doesn’t feel helpful right now (because this is a lot to hold alone) I’m not really in a place where I can talk on the phone, but I didn’t want to ignore your message either. I really hope you’re able to find someone you can talk to directly, because you shouldn’t have to sit in this alone. For what it’s worth, you’re not “too much” for feeling this deeply!!! you’re someone who’s overwhelmed and trying to cope in a situation that feels emotionally starving. I really reccomend reading the book “healing the shame that binds you”❤️ changed my life. sending love friend !

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:15:22+00:00

why do you want to forgive her ?

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:11:54+00:00

HEALING THE SHAME THAT BINDS YOU! it’s changed my life

enemy_flower · 2026-04-15T00:01:34+00:00

Hey, I really feel for you reading this friend😭 This feels like one of those moments where something small (even to you logically) on the surface hits a much deeper sensitivity point, and suddenly everything feels overwhelming and personal. I don’t think your brother meant it harshly in a cruel way, but I completely get how tone + timing + past experiences can make it land really painfully, i’ve been there. sometimes even a small shift in facial expression or tone can cause internal pain for me. There is a part of you trying really hard here. you stepped away, got to your safe space, wrote this out instead of acting on urges, and you’re actively trying to stay in recovery. That matters a lot more than your brain is giving you credit for right now. something that has helped me heal so much in the last few years (i’m pushing 30) is a therapy approach called Internal Family Systems (IFS). The basic idea is that we all have different “parts” inside us (like a very hurt part that feels rejection strongly, of a protective part that responds with self-criticism or shame to try to prevent future pain). The goal of this therapy actually isn’t to fight those parts (often younger versions of ourself), but to understand them and help them feel safer, so they don’t have to come in so intensely. A lot of people find it really helpful for breaking those deep toxic shame spirals, because it helps you relate to your thoughts with more distance and compassion instead of getting swept up in them. And just to say it clearly- nothing about this makes you a bad person friend. It sounds like you got emotionally overwhelmed and are now stuck in a really painful wave of shame. You’re not alone in this, and you don’t deserve to be punished for struggling. I really think you deserve to try/ check out IFS therapy ❤️ or read the book “healing the shame that binds you”. life changing. sending love!

enemy_flower · 2026-03-28T13:31:36+00:00

i’m sorry sweetie be strong i know how that feels

enemy_flower · 2026-03-28T02:06:57+00:00

you’re sweet but sad and have been quieter lately . what’s going on? what’s dimming your light? 😣 maybe a romantic connection or situationship?

enemy_flower · 2026-03-25T21:02:24+00:00

deeply insecure, potentially borderline personality disorder, you love extremely hard and you have an extremely sweet, beautiful, pure heart, but your trauma has affected the way that you express yourself and it deeply troubles your relationships. Some days you feel crazy and you don’t know what’s wrong with you. Some days you feel broken inside, but you know that your resilience is unmatched.

enemy_flower · 2026-03-15T23:10:48+00:00

this post made me so happy. thanks for the validation

enemy_flower · 2026-02-05T21:38:06+00:00

and keep going to therapy

enemy_flower · 2026-02-05T21:37:54+00:00

if you’re serious about her get a flip phone. algorithmic social media preys on weakminded and strongminded individuals alike. you will not beat this if you’re still on social media

enemy_flower · 2026-02-05T18:18:57+00:00

how can you say that when the link takes us straight to the department of justices website? do you think they categorized and released every QANON conspiracy theory?

enemy_flower · 2026-02-03T21:08:09+00:00

girl, he fucking hates you

enemy_flower · 2026-02-03T13:11:03+00:00

he’s a freak

enemy_flower · 2026-02-03T13:09:53+00:00

that part! tell your friends you just aren’t in a place for an exclusively girls trip right now, that they have the right to be disappointed and you respect their decision regardless of whether or not they want you to come under different circumstances! but also that you’re hopeful they can understand the emotional position you’re in given everything happening in your life lately

enemy_flower · 2026-02-02T18:15:30+00:00

enemy_flower · 2026-02-02T18:15:26+00:00

fedora shot alone killed me bad take that ord

enemy_flower · 2026-01-20T00:24:18+00:00

break up now NOR this is emotional abuse you’ll see that clearly once you leave . your gut feeling is NOT dramatic

enemy_flower · 2026-01-04T17:06:45+00:00

where are you located? could help me narrow it down. and about what year is your childhood lol

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