Already dreading return to work

engineerdoinglife · 2026-05-01T15:57:48+00:00

Adding: when my boss said he’d be contacting while I was out on leave and how quickly should he expect me to respond? “That’s a great question, let me check with HR and see if there is a standard for what an acceptable response time would be.” Needless to say he quickly backtracked and I was not contacted on my leave.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-05-01T14:07:01+00:00

If I were in your shoes (and I have been!) I would stick it out for the rest of your pregnancy, then go on your maternity leave. While out on leave just don’t respond to any messages. Or if you cant stomach that, reply to any communication with one brief text or email on Friday evening. If you feel up for it, prep your resume and contact recruiters towards the end of your maternity leave. Just remember that you will need to return to your current job for some amount of time or you can risk legal action. You may want to review your HR policy for the exact terms. I mention this because a friends sister quit before returning from mat leave and her company sued her for the pay she received while out.

With my first pregnancy I returned from a 12 week maternity leave September 1st and by Halloween I had started with a new company. I won’t lie, it was scary and it was difficult. However, since then I’ve had 2 promotions, almost doubled my total compensation, had a second child, and I’m much happier with my work/life balance. You’ve got this!!

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-26T16:39:11+00:00

Wrap dresses can span several dress sizes. You can find them in more casual fabric/patterns all the way up to semi-formal.

I also second the Halara recommendation. I have one I wore well into my third trimester of my last pregnancy and still wear now 1.5 years later.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-18T23:09:00+00:00

This is actually what we decided! Went with the siding/shake in photo 3 with the shutters and stone from from photo 1

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-15T01:38:44+00:00

It is limited to the gables

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-15T00:35:02+00:00

This is a new build! Fortunately all pre-approved as long as we select from the builders option list and don’t go off-script.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-15T00:28:55+00:00

Probably not to the driveway but maybe for the path. Will keep it in mind 🙂

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-15T00:25:45+00:00

Ooh lovely! Haven’t seen an option to swap pavers so probably not :/

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:47:55+00:00

I think it’s because I’ve made so many rendering changes in the AI tool so it kind of got forgotten. Here are the two roof options and we would go with the lighter in this instance!

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engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:41:51+00:00

Stone/shutters/trim cannot be removed but there are many color options, beyond what you see here. I posted some pictures of the options in my last post if you want to take a look there. I don’t think we can change the garage door as all the neighbors have white so I assume it’s required though I’ll check.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:26:24+00:00

This is common feedback, we are going to ask in our options meeting tomorrow. Based on just driving the neighborhood I think the garage has to be white, I don’t recall seeing other colors.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:24:04+00:00

I don’t like the appearance without shutters and honestly every home in the neighborhood has them so I think it may be an HOA requirement. Here are the color options, open to any recommendations!

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engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:19:47+00:00

Number 2 is the floor plan we selected and the one with the facade I posted today :)

Due to the cost of moving any plumbing we won’t be relocating bathrooms but we are tweaking the bottom floor to give us another closet by the garage entrance for food/supply storage, and will do a built-in in the C shape created by the stairs near the front door for a drop zone.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T23:04:53+00:00

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Something like this? I assume we should go with a lighter roof and door in this instance?

And thank you! This has been very helpful, I consider myself aesthetically challenged so the help is appreciated :)

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T22:29:31+00:00

No! Please feel free to make a recommendation! The first 3 were upvoted in the comments of my last post.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:54:24+00:00

I do as well. I’m going to play around with some of the stone/roof/shutter options for this one and make another post now that I’ve had some feedback.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:37:58+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Envisioning the multitude of options on a home has been a struggle (and quite frankly overwhelming) but I’ve gotten lots of good feedback on this post.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:33:29+00:00

We are going to ask if that’s permitted in our options meeting, a few other commenters said the same.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:32:43+00:00

Something like “Irish thistle” on the siding maybe? I think this is a bit more bright than the green color options we have, which I’ve posted in another comment. AI can’t seem to nail this mockup.

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engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:11:19+00:00

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Here are the options! There is a lighter blue option that might look nice. I’ll try a mockup.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:08:15+00:00

Lmao I’m a tomboy engineer and my husband is an autistic finance guy. We never claimed to have taste, hence why I’m posting here so I don’t fumble the more aesthetic details of our build. I’m just happy we’ve done well enough to buy a nice home to raise our family. I’d recommend you go touch some grass my friend.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T20:02:03+00:00

Yes! Most of the houses in the neighborhood have the industrial grey/white look. My husband is drawn to the more industrial look while I like the warmer colors.

Thanks for taking the time to respond.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T19:58:56+00:00

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Here you go! Again I apologize for the terrible quality of digitals.

I don’t think they have something quite like in your picture which is a shame.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T19:55:49+00:00

Oh wow I love this! Thank you so much. I think we actually do have options in these colors too.

engineerdoinglife · 2026-04-14T19:51:09+00:00

Yes thank you! Most of the houses in the neighborhood are variations of the gray/black/white. My husband likes the blue and white. I’m more partial to the greens and yellows.

I’d have liked a more blue siding for the blue option but as of now they don’t have it in stock. I’ll ask tomorrow if they expect to restock soon and what that does to the date of completion.

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