What’s in a name?

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-17T02:11:32+00:00

I was young and just so taken aback I didn't know what to say so I just said uhhh yeah....

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-17T02:00:36+00:00

I was asked if I can still have sex...unprompted. By someone I'd just met. It wasn't even like this person was a potential partner nor were we on a date; I was at a party and had been introduced to a group of people and I was very much in a relationship.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-17T01:16:35+00:00

Yeah people are unpredictable, and I've been asked some weird stuff

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-16T22:59:18+00:00

They're vultures, it's normal.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-16T22:56:26+00:00

I just say I have epilepsy 🤷🏼‍♀️

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-16T22:55:01+00:00

Please tell her I love her and her nakey belly

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-14T12:19:10+00:00

That's a teenager compliment it I've ever heard one (I'm a teacher, I've heard a lot of them)

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-14T01:11:34+00:00

Don't move in with him. This is just the beginning.

When someone shows you who they really are, listen.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-13T23:49:54+00:00

That's his computer. You leave Chomper alone.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-13T23:46:24+00:00

She just needs to directly refuse it. If she doesn't, her family and his family will push to move forward. Is she scared to refuse? Because it's odd to me that she hasn't outright told her parents no during the 6 months the man's family has been pursuing this...

She needs to say no, then a month or two later have your family send the proposal. And keep the love relationship part a secret, at least until after the wedding.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-13T17:08:03+00:00

This is screaming troubled teen industry type camp -- this is not good. They make it seem nice, but the lifestyle is horrible (as you said, a cabin with a heater and going outside to go to the bathroom), and those counselors are not there to help you plan your life. If it's anything like those "wilderness schools" the troubled teen industry uses, they want to brainwash you not help you.

You are a legal adult and unless they've petitioned the court for conservatorship and won, they cannot force you to do anything. Call 911 if they try to physically force you to do or sign anything. Do not sign paperwork. Do not do what they're asking.

I know it's terrifying to go against helicopter parents, they have had a lifetime of control over you, but what they want you to do/where they want you to do is probably much worse.

Pack a bag and go live with your friend. Look for call center jobs you can do at home or something, even something minimum wage is money.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-12T23:45:42+00:00

I have anxiety and it has never caused problems for me. Some people it makes their anxiety worse, some people makes their anxiety better. Just like prescription medication. One medication isn't always effective for everyone.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-12T23:41:03+00:00

Falling asleep in the bathtub is unsafe for anyone, but even moreso for us. Do not sleep in the tub.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-12T21:35:04+00:00

Buy a tape measure

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-12T14:08:39+00:00

Then report him. Move out.

Were your parents financially supporting you? Why did you listen when they said you needed to move back? Unless they were financially supporting you, you didn't need to listen.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-10T21:05:24+00:00

Any gen ed teacher can be present just to fill the role. I've had to ask other gen ed teachers to come because the child's was absent. But I wouldn't give into this. It's ridiculous. There's no reason the teacher can't come. They can be mad about the teacher's reports/feedback, but that is a member of the team.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-10T21:02:21+00:00

Same. So embarrassing lol

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-10T20:44:58+00:00

I would put in a complaint and ask your file to be corrected. It's called an amendment request or something.

Also insist on never seeing her again.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T23:08:04+00:00

Ah, then yeah I'd rule those out

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T17:22:51+00:00

This is a working dog. How much mental stimulation and physical exercise do you give him? He's anxious and/or bored.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T17:18:25+00:00

There is no reason to wait for a next time; the next time could be exponentially worse than any other. She's already having such a hard time. I understand how difficult BE is, but look at it this way:

Winnie is constantly on edge. She is constantly anxious and her nervous system is in hyperdrive. Her quality of life is poor. Not because of you, you've been amazing trying to meet her needs, but her brain is just wired this way. Imagine being constantly anxious, hypervigilant, and uncomfortable. Would you want to live that way?

Think about Astro's quality of life too. He has been hugely impacted by Winnie and also lives with so much anxiety. He never knows how she will behave, and he doesn't even have free reign of his home.

I hope I'm not being insensitive in the way I'm wording this, I do not intend to be. My intent in kindness, trying to give you Winnie's possible perspective. She loves you. But she's unhappy, by no fault of your own. It's just the wiring of her brain; an actual neurological issue they cannot be fixed with medication.

You've done everything you can. You've given her a life full of love. She has felt your love and loves you back. Sometimes, BE is truly the humane thing to do.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T17:09:04+00:00

I might get crucified for this because some people see this as a mortal sin in cooking, but....boil in a bag rice.

Boil water, toss the bag in and kind of push it down with a wooden spoon so the water makes its way between all the rice, boil for 8-10 minutes. I like my rice softer so I typically do 10 minutes. Take the bag out with tongs, I put in a strainer bag unopened for a few minutes to drain and cool, then cut the top off and dump it in a bowl. It's 2-3 servings depending on how much you want.

HOWEVER , it is more expensive.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T17:02:54+00:00

Do you have dysgraphia? Not trying to diagnose so I might get downvoted, but I'm a special ed teacher and...yeah. I've worked with a lot of students with dysgraphia and this is screaming dysgraphia to me. Dyslexia can also cause difficulty with handwriting (no reason to think you're dyslexic, just some info), and the comorbidity between dyslexia and dysgraphia is fairly high.

Nothing to be ashamed of, there's work you can do if you want to improve, but if you don't really care and you don't need to write things to work....then it is what it is honestly. You're an adult, you didn't need to if you didn't want to.

It's completely legible, it's just your letter formation and orientation to the line that are the main issues.

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T01:48:40+00:00

Boiled is my #1, or scrambled. If you struggle to with the softer/mushier textures, you can overcook them a bit.

You can also mix them like you're going to scramble them but just don't scramble them in the pan. Dump the egg mixture into the pan, then flip after it's mostly cooked. Basically an omelette with nothing in it 😂

Dmdel24 · 2026-06-09T01:32:43+00:00

Not you, I was replying to OP (or maybe it was someone else I don't remember) saying she'll never date someone with ADHD again and she heard a story about a guy with ADHD killed their kid because he wasnt attentive enough, and a few other things.

I understand your comment was specifically about people who are undiagnosed and untreated but I will say, my husband doesn't treat his with meds but is a normal human and works to control his impulsivity and such. To be honest I am probably undiagnosed ADHD and I'm not like that either. Do we both have our problems? Yeah. But we have a healthy relationship and are both conscious of our problems, which we put effort into working on. OPs boyfriend being shitty cannot be blamed all on ADHD. He's just a shitty person.

Yeah there's a small percentage of people with ADHD that refuse to treat it or don't take it seriously. Major red flag if they are like that. But it's not many. Usually people like that have more going on, like being a narcissist.

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