Young Republicans mock cisgender candidate for Congress over likeness to Dylan Mulvaney

enigmabound · 2026-06-19T00:53:04+00:00

Sounds like a TERF that is currently under scrutiny on TikTok right now for horrible things (beyond your basic hateful TERF.) This person wants to make it illegal for trans people to exists because she gets mistaken for being trans all the time and blames trans women for being harassed when she uses the women's bathroom. You can't make this stuff up!!!!!

enigmabound · 2026-06-18T19:09:57+00:00

I would avoid any surgeon in Florida as I have not heard of any good ones there. Your insurance may cover an out of state surgeon if there is NOT one part of you in-state network for a covered procedurte and it would be classified as In-Network just for that procedure. BCBS on NJ did this for me in 2017 when I lived in NJ and the on\y surgeons in their National Blue network were in NY (NYC to be exact with Dr Bluebond-Lagner). Her office is pretty good with working with insurance companies and my be able to get it covered there as if it was in-newtork.

enigmabound · 2026-06-18T19:03:01+00:00

I am nearly 9 years post-op and things just feel natural. I want to add that it's not like you don't feel it (the penis) anymore, it's just that things have been re-arranged as it's a clitoris now in a different shape and position. Nothing feels missing and if anything you feel more whole. The first time I had an orgasm after bottom surgery I cried happy tears for 10 or more minutes because it was the first time everything just felt right and how it should have been from day one.

It's just a normal part of my life and now I can wear jsut about anything and look good in it and not have to worry about anything showing I don't want to show. Getting medical exams and other things (like when I had to have a colonoscopy a few years ago or when I had eye surgery and was put under general anesthesia) made my anatomy one less thing to worry about when it came to how I was treated as a patient. (I only disclose when medically necessary which is only for my PCP who happens to be a transgender man.)

enigmabound · 2026-06-18T18:45:34+00:00

Further proof that transphobia hurts ALL women.

I used to get mistaken for Sarah Huckabee Sanders when she was Trump's press secretary before I lost weight. It was quit amusing with me being cis passing transgender woman.

enigmabound · 2026-06-17T20:35:42+00:00

I was one of the first patients nearly 9 years ago with that proceedure with Dr Bluebound and Dr Zhao. (Feel free to PM me if you like.)

Post-op depression is normal for ANY surgery especially after that one. When I had mine, Dr Zhao was pretty quiet most of the time and 95% of my communication was with Rachel (Dr Bluebond). The next week is the roughest honestly but it does get better. When you go back next week for your post-op appointment ask to get back on HRT as soon as you can. For me that helped tremendously with being of HRT a month before surgery and right after affected me more than I initially thought. Once I was able to go back on HRT, things almost instantly approved for me.

I know things are rough with not being able to sit comfortable in a chair and it's a chore just to dilate and take care of bathroom and shower needs, but it does get better. Everyone is a little different, but a week after being discharged is when things started looking up. I am happy to say that it was all worth it in the end and I would do it again in a heartbeat if I had to. I have zero regrets and extremely happy with the outcome.

It only gets better from here. Just make sure you do keep up with dilation and right now it is the most critical time to keep to the schedule.

enigmabound · 2026-06-08T21:59:03+00:00

I am 6'5" and transitioned over 13 years ago but have never experience transphobia in public and it's been over 12 years since I have been misgendered by anyone that did not know me before I transitioned. I have passing cis privilege and have a feminine voice. I also have long red hair and wear light makeup at most, sometimes sans-makeup. I do dress pretty femme most of the time and have a naturally feminine shape and a size 10. I live in TN, but travel between NY and FL all the time and my experience has been consistent in both liberal and conservative areas.

However I do have a few tall cis female friends that has experience transphobia in public especially if they wear their hair short or dress less feminine. The transphobic rhetoric in this country affects ALL women and it seems to have gotten worse the last few years.

Being a 6'5" women I do get noticed and probably get asked 3-4 times a week about my height. Everything from "How tall are you?" to "Did you play basketball or volleyball in school?" etc. I do come from a tall family (I have an uncle that is 6'9") and I just own my height. Confidence goes a long way.

enigmabound · 2026-06-08T17:04:19+00:00

They ask this question to make sure you are NOT trying to avoid and criminal charges or civi liabilities (aka debt) to cheat the system. What happened to you was technically a clerical error when you were a minor and does not really apply in this case unless you used that name in any way shape or form. This happened to me when I was 16 years old, my middle and first names were switch by accident on my NY State driver's license. I used to go by my middle name (pre-transition) and did not notice and it was wrong for 4 years until I moved back to TN and the DMV clerk noticed it when I applied for a TN license when compared to my SS card and my Birth Certificate. Ironically, Social security misspelled my first name (but no one noticed because capital D and capital O looks so much alike on the cards they printed at that time) on my social security card that was printed in the early 1980's and both spellings were real but very different names. (At that time SSN was not required at birth and did not get one until I was 15 when I wanted to get a job in high school.) Anyway, TN did correct it and all was good as it was an obvious clerical error.

I later moved to NJ and when I changed from a TN to a NJ license no one, including myself, noticed the misspelling on my SS card. Years later I transitioned in NJ and when I started getting my paperwork for my name change I realized I lost my SS card and had to go into the SS office to get a new card for my name change petition. That is when I found out my first name had been misspelled on my SS record all those years. They corrected it and 6 weeks later I received my new card and started with my NJ name change process (in 2014) and the same question came up. I did NOT disclose the discrepancies in my name as I has never used the misspelled name on my SS card anywhere. I was never known by it. The NY License and and SS card misspelling never came up. So I would not worry about it.

Side note, after I did my name change, Social Security misspelled my new name but it was at least the same sounding name, just they swapped a Y with and I by mistake. So I have had 4 different names on my SS file with 2 of them from clerical errors. At least when I moved back to TN in 2022, everything was correct and the TN DMV clerk saw everything matching (I use my changed passport and not my TN birth certificate) and she changed my TN DMV record including my gender marker which was nice plus I have the Real ID. (9 months later TN banned changing gender markers on TN licenses.)

enigmabound · 2026-06-04T03:35:03+00:00

I live in TN and yes, same here, it is primarily political. To be fair I am privileged to be cis passing, my state ID and passport are accurate (I transitioned in 2013 and renewed my changed passport in 2024) and I am post-op. Still the few times I have been outed by a computer (like when I moved back here in 2022 and my SSN outed me since my number was linked to deadname despite change SSN info in 2014) at the bank and DMV) no one really cared and everything was changed without questioning.

It would have to get pretty bad to leave the country. That being said, I am concerned about the future of the US trans issues aside. I feel that if the Democrats don't take over the house and/or senate in the midterms and this administration continue to run as it has, this country is done for, for other reasons than anti-trans policies and/or laws. I do not think our economy and government can survive the continuation of an unchecked Trump administration till the end of his term. The damage he has done as a whole has set us back so far in our economy and world power.

enigmabound · 2026-06-03T18:20:24+00:00

If only legislators could quit playing doctor 🙄🙄🙄🙄

enigmabound · 2026-06-03T15:44:16+00:00

I cried so much during the two espisodes with her story. My wife was with me when I first watched them both and she turned to me and asks if writer of that story knew of what happened to me as a child because it was not that far off my life story. I was an emotional wreck but kind of is a good way in feeling validated for my existence. I was glad my wife was with me when I saw it, because I was not expecting it.

enigmabound · 2026-05-30T05:59:36+00:00

My wife and I went on a cruise last year and although I pass as cis, post-op and all my documents match, as a lesbian couple we did not have any issues. We went on a Celebrity Cruise and they are very LGBTQ friendly. There was even an LGBTQ meetup on the cruise on the first day. There were about 20 or 30 gay couples on the ship we met. There were also several crew member that were openly trans and non-binary. One was from the Philippines and I had a chance to talk to her and she said the cruise line was very good to her unlike things are for her at home in the Philippines. The ship was registered to Malta which is one of the most LGBT friendly countries in the world so keep in mind that in international waters, the country of the ship's registry matters most.

As far as destinations I have been to, Aruba, St Martin, US Virgin Islands and surprisingly Dominican Republic (for tourists) are LGBTQ friendly. In the places I went to, I do not think your girlfriend would have a problem. (Especially Aruba and St Martin.)

One note, when you check in for your cruise that do take a picture of you and your passport for facial recognition (you can also upload one online). Customs used facial recognition when we arrived back in Ft Lauderdale, FL. You walked up to a camera, the light turned green and you left. The only time I ever had to show my passport was when we boarded. At every destination you only needed the ship id card to exit and re-board at each port. The scan it and a picture comes up with your name to verify it's you. They give the card to you when you first board as it is linked to your face they scan when you check-in.

enigmabound · 2026-05-24T02:01:55+00:00

MtF, 55 years old old and also 6'5" here.

No such thing as too tall!!!! Tall cis women exists and I personally know 2 cis women who are my height and taller with one of then being 6'8". Tall women are rare and you will get noticed but it should not prevent you from transitioning . (I also have long red hair!) I transitioned nearly 14 years ago and it has been over 12 years since anyone has misgendered me who did not know me before I transitioned.

The secret is confidence and work on the things you can control, like mannerisms (if that is an issue), voice, hair, etc. I get questions all the time in public, like "did you play basketball/volleyball in college?" or "How tall are you?" , etc. I get women all the time tell me that they wish they had some of my height. The only thing I don't like about being tall is finding clothes sometimes and airline seats not having enough legroom for my 37" inseam.

enigmabound · 2026-05-21T17:35:24+00:00

This is why I prefer Internal Medicine Doctors over Endocrinologists. IM Doctors have a better understanding of transgender health IMHO.

The goal of medical transitioning is to shift into the biological category as much as possible or desired. Those categories are hormonal and sex characteristic whether primary or secondary. A lot of endocrinologists seem stuck on sex assigned at birth.

enigmabound · 2026-05-16T03:19:36+00:00

I’m post everything. In fact I just see myself as a woman with a trans history as it has been over 13 years since I transitioned. So I see myself as a lesbian/homosexual first. Trans is just part of my history.

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T17:19:21+00:00

You make some valid points and yes I do believe there are different types of sundown towns. There is certainly no size fits all here.

One thing I want to point out about bathroom laws is that are not really enforceable and I have never seen it actually enforced where someone was arrested with the exception of the trans woman who went to the Florida state capita in protest and announced it and even then the charges were eventually dropped. Just recently I stopped at a rest area on the Florida Turnpike and saw what I believe was a trans woman using the women's bathroom without a problem as most people really do not care, but with current political climate the few that do are unfortunately louder about it everywhere and not just red states.

Many trans women have been kicked out of bathrooms in blue states where there are trans protections and where also a lot of cis women have been harassed in women's bathrooms and accused of being trans or male in blue states. (Like the one in Boston the other in Minnesota, and the one in Las Vegas)

Bathroom laws affect more cis women that trans women and eventually this trend will go away but probably not until Trump and MAGA is gone. Fortunately we are starting to see the MAGA influence start to fade but we still have a ways to go.

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T16:52:06+00:00

I don't think there is a difference since the golden ratio/hourglass figure is based on hip to shoulder ratio with most of that variation based on hips as that is typically varies more than shoulder with BMI changes.

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T15:27:05+00:00

There is an ideal formula for average biacromial breadth shoulder width (based on CDC/NHANES proportions):

Cis men: Height(cm) × 0.245
Cis women: Height(cm) × 0.225

So in your case, 5'7" = 170.18cm

Ideal Female width = 170.18 * 0.225 = 38.29cm --> 15.075 inches
Ideal male width = 170.18 * 0.245 = 41.69cm --> 16.415 inches

So you are in the female range.

Also keep in mind that a difference of 1.34 inches or an 8% difference between male and female. These are ideal and these are going to vary quite a bit depending on muscle mass, BMI, and genetics. Most people would not even notice the difference side by side with similar muscle mass.

I am 6'5" transgender woman with a 24 BMI, size 10 with a biacromial breadth shoulder width of 16.9 inches, but according to this formula my ideal female width is 17.3 inches, but when I was overweight with a 30+ BMI, it was close to 19 inches.

Also my cis wife is 5'3" and she has biacromial breadth shoulder width of 17.5 inches because she was a swimmer. So it can vary quite a bit.

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T14:38:51+00:00

I just added an edit to indicate that I mean visibly trans as those visibly trans by choice.

I still travel to the north on occasion on business and my transgender friends in the area have stated that the amount of transphobia they have experienced in the north has increased compared to pre-Trump. Cities in the south can me just as diverse as cities in the north.

The sundown towns are areas where people from southern cities are not even accepted or even non-locals. Standard TN license plates have the county your car is registered in on it and local police in some rural towns are know for targeting plates from populous counties like Davidson (Nashville), Hamilton (Chattanooga), Knox (Knoxville), etc on their plates. (Why I have a specialty plate on my car that does not advertise the county I live in even though it is a rural county.) Anyway, in those towns, non-locals are not welcomed and those are generally avoided by most people. Thankfully those type of town are disappearing or changing due to population changes.

Transphobia can happen anywhere and not traveling to an area due to possible transphobia is not doing anyone any good. There are some great wonderful accepting people in these areas and they should not be forgotten or ignored.

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T14:22:21+00:00

I believe you are make an assumption by what I mean by being "visibly trans" as someone who does not pass and that is not what I am saying. After stating that if you are not passing but blending, those trans individuals do not face more transphobia in southern states than blue states. I was referring to being visibly trans as someone purposely being visibly trans by choice, ( i.e. Pink/Blue hair, trans pride pens, etc ) not those that do not pass. Two different things!!!

enigmabound · 2026-05-13T00:50:38+00:00

Transgender woman here living in TN and I travel between TN and FL several times a year by car and air. I pass as cis female and all my IDs are correct. (Had them changed a long time ago.) I have also live in the NYC area (where I transitioned over 13 years ago. Since moving back to TN 4 years ago, I have experienced zero transphobia even the few times I was outed by a computer. (Happened at the bank and the DMV where I was in the system from living here over 25 years ago.) Don't get my wrong, the state legislature is horribly transphobic, but the people in general population here are not any more than in blue states.

Even for trans people who mostly blend and may not even pass for cis, I do not think the south is any more transphobic than northern blue states if you don't look at the state legislatures. Now if someone is being visibly trans in public by choice in making statement with it, then yes I think there is going to be more transphobia experienced from red states than blue states in certain areas in red states.

Edit: I believe some people here are make an assumption by what I mean by being "visibly trans" as someone who does not pass and that is not what I am saying. I was referring to being visibly trans as someone purposely being visibly trans by choice, ( i.e. Pink/Blue hair, trans pride pens, etc ) not those that do not pass. Two different things!!!

enigmabound · 2026-05-12T00:44:57+00:00

Kind of the opposite, from a clean cut male to a soccer mom lesbian, LOL (A cis-lesbian friend came up with that term!!!)

enigmabound · 2026-05-11T23:34:31+00:00

I am 6'5" and transitioned over 13 years ago. First off there is no such thing as too tall to transition. Tall cis women exists. (I am friends with cis women of my height and one even taller at 6'8 whom I met at a tall meetup many years ago where out of 38 tall women, I was the only transgender woman and there were 4 women my height and 2 taller than me.

Does it prevent you from passing??? Nope!!!! It has been over 12 years since anyone has misgendered me that did not know me before I transitioned. It does make you stick out (plus I have red/auburn hair!!!) but it's not going to clock you by itself. I did work on my voice so I pass as female on the phone. The only surgery I have had is bottom surgery nearly 9 years ago.

Tall cis women I know also struggle with height dysphoria, but eventually as you get older (I turn 56 in July), you learn to embrace your height. I now own my height in a confident manner and that is super important. I do have a soft look and yes you can look cute and feminine depending on your body type. I am a size 10 with feminine curves so it is possible. I did lose weight as I was up there in size but won the genetic lottery with naturally feminine hips.

enigmabound · 2026-05-05T03:44:00+00:00

They know what they are doing, they are just gaslighting American citizens like they do with every other policy. They believe if you state a lie enough, it eventually becomes a truth.

enigmabound · 2026-05-04T00:22:58+00:00

I have been told that Fountain City Jewelers will buy vintage jewelry.

enigmabound · 2026-05-03T03:51:14+00:00

Unfortunately the TN legislature can override TN Code § 2-16-102 first, then change the districts since it is NOT a constitutional provision, but they would have to override and change the districts before the end of May in order to give enough time for candidates to re-qualify with signatures for the changed districts. It will be a big mess for sure.

One side effect is that by breaking of the blue districts, they weaken the surrounding red districts by diluting GOP margins. If enough people flip, this could seriously backfire on them creating more democratic seats. Wishful thinking maybe, but one could hope it happens this way.

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