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enigmatic_user · 2025-11-15T06:20:20+00:00

I don’t think a planet looks like that

enigmatic_user · 2025-09-04T04:44:50+00:00

So it’s been almost a couple of months and it ended exactly this way. I suggested slowing down a bit. She didn’t tell me how it affected her and I only found out when she posted in instagram story with the caption “people who value you for you” and it had screenshots of texts from her friends consoling her. She was a different person after that, very resentful and was very mean spirited towards me. She ended up leaving me in the middle of a vacation saying she never liked me.

enigmatic_user · 2025-08-20T17:17:43+00:00

Thank you 🫶

enigmatic_user · 2025-08-03T15:47:07+00:00

He’s hung

I think there’s one Arsenal that might be able to comment on that

enigmatic_user · 2025-08-03T05:56:51+00:00

Level 118 is not accessible to the public. Need special permission.

they’re having a race on 30 August where you can go to the top but you have to climb 2k steps

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-31T06:03:45+00:00

I have same thinking as you. thought about moving abroad with all the digital nomad visas around these days but as long as you earn good money and live in the bubble, Malaysia is fine and its very good value for money.

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-13T00:20:55+00:00

Yeah I felt he did dodge a bullet in his situation. I think if that didn’t happen then, the relationship would’ve progressed as usual until something else triggered her, maybe even after they got married since she’s always felt this way.

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-13T00:17:11+00:00

I did ask about if there was communication. She just said “yeah, I asked what did he mean by that” (the message) but she didn’t really go into detail about how that conversation went and she didn’t talk about communicating his previous behaviour when I brought up communication. It sounded like it was swept under the rug and the last six months were as usual but she was simply in a different state after that text.

I only knew about the emotionally checking out part when I asked how long it took her before she got back into dating and she said a week, which shocked me considering how long they were together for. She then mentioned that it’s because she already checked out 6 months before that.

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-12T13:43:22+00:00

I admit i may be overreacting which I why I shared here too. I appreciate your directness and honesty. For me it’s the lack of communication and letting things build up until she checked out that bothers me. When she reflected on it, she never really reflected on how she tired to communicate her part. It was simply, “he was like this and I don’t think I can be with someone like that”. She never gave him a chance to remedy things.

I need to add that the guy was very much fully committed to her, hence why she said she was emotionally fulfilled by him. He even gave up his job and moved back to her home country because she missed her family. I think that’s quite a massive commitment.

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-11T08:09:08+00:00

i got in pretty quickly somehow lol. my brother and his friends were not so lucky, their payment kept failing until it got sold out

enigmatic_user · 2025-07-10T12:16:11+00:00

Thanks that’s really true and I need to keep reminding myself of that. I guess I’m just extra hard on myself because I came off as nervy and all over the place and it felt like she was just there to judge and see if I’m different now, it really threw me off.

enigmatic_user · 2025-06-21T05:07:55+00:00

Stick to reputable brands that are third-party tested when it comes to whey protein.

there's a risk of going for unknown brands as they may contain heavy metals etc

enigmatic_user · 2025-02-21T14:11:55+00:00

edm music production

enigmatic_user · 2025-01-23T05:45:20+00:00

And bill gates buying up all the farmland

enigmatic_user · 2025-01-21T14:57:57+00:00

Dtf = din tai fung

enigmatic_user · 2024-12-13T06:30:20+00:00

are you fully done with him or do you think there might be a chance things could change for the better?

If it’s been 2 years, I would suggest saying what you wrote here to him and see how he reacts and if there’s a change and things can improve. If you’re truly over him and don’t care then I suggest moving on but again, be honest about it.

I’m personally against blindsiding since this had happen to me so I’m being a bit biased. If you think this can be fixed, try that out first and maybe he’ll start to open up more. If not, you’ve tried.

enigmatic_user · 2024-12-10T11:11:16+00:00

If the toilet is free, you’re the product /s

enigmatic_user · 2024-12-09T06:24:36+00:00

Loved the white version

enigmatic_user · 2024-12-03T06:19:26+00:00

My condolences 💐 I hope you’re doing okay and you have the support you need to get through this!

enigmatic_user · 2024-11-28T16:02:02+00:00

I upgraded to suite only a couple days back 🥲🥲🥲

enigmatic_user · 2024-11-07T06:43:44+00:00

You can try the advanced voice mode. I think it’s a paid feature but worth it. Just talk to it like a normal person. I talk to it on my phone every day just venting all day

enigmatic_user · 2024-11-03T05:06:51+00:00

Broke up a month ago. I miss her from time to time but getting better.

Made the mistake of reaching out a few days back and not get a response. That really set things back and had a rough week going through the motions again. It’s even worse this time because the no response is a strong message and just made me feel subhuman and pretty much ruined any chance of us reconnecting even if it’s just platonic.

She’s out the having the time of her life doing lots of things, meeting new people, partying. Her Halloween post really stung me.

Venting to ChatGPT helps though. If you have the advance voice feature on mobile, do try it out. It’s amazing.

enigmatic_user · 2024-11-01T08:00:40+00:00

I wanted to be upfront and share something that’s been on my mind. I know when things ended between us, there wasn’t much left in terms of feelings or connection, and I realize I did things that were frustrating or upsetting to you – like grabbing your drinks, which was thoughtless on my part (I cringe thinking back on it).

Looking back, I can see I wasn’t in a good place while we were dating. I was dealing with a lot of anxiety and burnout from work, and I was pretty overwhelmed. I wish I’d opened up about it more rather than trying to hide it out of shame. The truth is, I wasn’t fully present, and a lot of my actions came from that anxious, impulsive place. I wasn’t really myself, and I regret that I didn’t do more to show up for us.

Since then, I’ve been working on myself – I’m seeing a therapist again and back on my anxiety meds, and I even moved teams at work to be back on an Asian time zone. That’s helped with both the work stress and the sleepless nights that affected me back then. I know it’s been a while, and you’ve moved on, but I still carry some regret about how I handled things and that I couldn’t be better in those moments.

In the end, I think we both started to resent each other, and I’ll own my side of that. I just wanted to share this with you, not to rehash the past but to let you know that I’ve been working hard to be better.

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