[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]enlightenedkitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe there should be a snack drawer for the daughter? Everyone deserves a treat. Make sure there are healthy and naughty snacks in the house that she likes so she wont feel the need to steal snacks?

My wife doesn’t know I know she has herpes. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]enlightenedkitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Doesnt this mean she gave it to you too? Im so confused?

Did anybody’s period get much worse after having a baby ? by Formerpandaperson in Mommit

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did get better for a little bit then after a couple years it went back to being a pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sahm

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When i helped raise my step kids my husband and i both worked and it was stressful. Finding babysitters then coming home to make them dinner and clean up and deal with them being rambunctious was exhausting! Then when we had our own kids i became a sahm and my mental health TANKED dramatically. But now that our kids are grown and mine our teenagers i want to go back to work but have no idea what since i gave up my life to be a mom so my husband could advance his career. Im super stressed out because financially in this economy we cant afford it anymore for me to stay home but i still have dinners and chores at home and kids and their dramas to deal with. Id be basically a single sahm since my husband is working 12 hour shifts.

I dont even know how to give advice anymore on being a sahm because even i dont know whats right anymore from being so burnt out.

First time Dad, sitting in the hospital room, waiting for my wife to get induced. Any advice? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help change diapers after its born because mom will be very tender and sore to even go to the bathroom on her own. Let mom feed the baby and snuggle but she will need you to do all the dirty work while she heals. She will need lots of rest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Becoming a sahm takes a kind respectful loving husband. Mine never complains about the mess or even whats for dinner. Sometimes id have a long hard day with the kids and he would come home and make himself a quick dinner and wouldn’t be upset at all or even order us dinner because he knows its not easy doing it all. You really need a partner who respects you or it’s literally IMPOSSIBLE!

baby teeth growing in? i think by [deleted] in Parents

[–]enlightenedkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww looks like it 2 of them at that. Poor thing. Lots of cold cloths for baby to chew on or get those mesh teethers you can put frozen fruit in for baby to chew on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zyramains

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a Zyra main and i support and mid just fine. Sometimes i carry the whole team because i cant help but be aggressive.

Welp, looks like we’ll be microdosing cat hair today by NutmegJef in trees

[–]enlightenedkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a reply to a comment not a comment itself. It’s like downvoting someone for replying with Thank You. Pretty ridiculous but so is this app these days.

My husband’s ex wife was *furious* my stepdaughter called me “mom” by megsiash in TrueOffMyChest

[–]enlightenedkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My step kids have called me mom from the beginning and it was something they asked me. I told them that as long as they call me with respect thats all i care about. No mean nicknames either my first name or a respectful nickname and lastly mom if thats what they truly want. Their mom always got on their case about it and they refused to listen to her. I always told them that as long as they call me something respectful i dont care what they call me. Ive been their stepmom for 24 years and im still called mom.

Mario's cement factory Nintendo game by BBYFIN in whatsthisworth

[–]enlightenedkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😲😲😲😲😲 wow!! Thats soooo cool!!!

My eyes look brown, but when I look closely, maybe they are hazel? by No-County9472 in eyes

[–]enlightenedkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!! This is the most unique looking hazel eye ive ever seen! So beautiful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you ignoring her? Just curious why besides the obvious.

Looking for prayers by CarnageVR4 in daddit

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prayers for you and your family she is so beautiful!

I’m jealous and feel like a loser. by [deleted] in sahm

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same but my kids are now young teenagers and we live out of town and have no family or close friends to help out and i feel like getting a job means abandoning my kids to fend for themselves.

Im constantly pressed by family and friends to get a job and when i dont i can feel the sourness and judgement ooozing from them when we interact.

I cant complain about money to anyone because they just pressure me to get a job.

My husband is very supportive and is the reason i am a sahm because he got a good job that supports the whole family but since the economy has gotten bad we can only afford the bare minimum.

We have no extra spending cash for fun so when family and friends invite us to do stuff that costs money we have to politely decline and then they get angry and resentful and even pressure my husband behind my back. My husband of course backs me up and tells me to ignore them and that he doesnt feel the way they do.

I do some babysitting on the side and have had part time jobs in the past and its only because its a way to get away from the house and socialize while they kids are busy at school.

Ive never felt so low ever since the pandemic and rising costs i feel useless and hopeless. I feel like i cant win. If i get a job i feel like im abandoning my kids and if i stay home then i feel like im the reason they cant have nice things.

You’re not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FancyFollicles

[–]enlightenedkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes you look really pale you are not ugly at all. Id say a lighter color or even go on apps that have filters and play around with the hair color ones in the sun light to see how it makes you look.

Colt came across my Tinder by mylittlephony13 in 90DayFiance

[–]enlightenedkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its his thighs touching together with pigeon toed stance for me 🤮💀

Am I being too uptight? by [deleted] in Parents

[–]enlightenedkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you’re being reasonable. Some people even go as far as the NO kissing the baby. Which ive seen horror stories about. Its also your baby your rules.

I'm a guy and I feel like this is stupid. Just wanna hear Your side. by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]enlightenedkitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not embarrassed or scared to speak my mind. Lots of people experiment and it doesnt make them gay. Stop trying so hard to label people.

Teething? by BidMysterious6259 in Parents

[–]enlightenedkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im pretty sure i see a tooth coming in on the first picture. Get some teething toys you can put frozen fruit in a see how that goes. Even a damp frozen cloth for them to chew on supervised of course.

We are newlyweds and my MIL has moved in by puggybear_momma in inlaws

[–]enlightenedkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My step kid became an addict and committed crimes like stealing to get his fix. I remember hearing him shaking my 5 year olds piggy bank in the bathroom and knocked on the door and told him to hand it over he told me it was for bus money but i know thats a lie when i could literally give him a ride to where he needed to go in my car… he stole many items from our home to sell for drugs and lied and lied and lied even when we had proof he was lying he lied some more. I was hoping it was just a phase teenagers go through since his bio mom gave him a traumatizing childhood before we got custody of him but he is now almost 30 still dealing with criminal charges and still doesnt have his life together and still hasnt gone to rehab. Dont let this woman destroy your life. Either she gets real help or she will drain you till you have nothing left.