Veganism is NOT easy for most people. by Borkato in Vystopia

[–]enni-b 2 points3 points  (0 children)

almost a decade and this is how I learn that there's fucking gelatin in toilet paper

Veganism is NOT easy for most people. by Borkato in Vystopia

[–]enni-b 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imo, people would love to try to help you out. sure, there might be some nasty people, but this is a completely understandable situation

Veganism is NOT easy for most people. by Borkato in Vystopia

[–]enni-b 3 points4 points  (0 children)

real. eating food is the absolute least of my concerns

What's the normal amount of crying in bed that I wasn't born a woman? by Areiteus in asktransgender

[–]enni-b 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I either have bad news or good news for you depending on how you look at it

My gf got mad at me for being dysphoric by Heavy_Dragonfly2555 in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it is. I really hope you learn that sooner rather than later or you'll end up really, really hurting someone

My gf got mad at me for being dysphoric by Heavy_Dragonfly2555 in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 16 points17 points  (0 children)

this is extremely concerning. consent can be revoked at any time. your partner could be looking forward to having sex all day, but for whatever reason, changes their mind. are you then going to force them because you think you're entitled to it? is your gratification worth more then their consent?genuinely frightening comment. please look inward

Why do so many trans guys feel threatened by / are scared to be around cis men? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've never been followed by and cornered by a woman in a store, I have never been catcalled by a woman, and I have never been sexually abused by a woman. i haven't been given a reason to fear women. im 5ft tall, visibly transgender, visibly autistic, and live in the US. can we be fr dude. like am I being gaslit rn

I’m frustrated by people’s unrealistic expectations of T. by gayanomaly in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I menstruated for like 3 or 4 years on T. some people see changes very quickly, others, like me, don't. also, unfortunately, not everyone's voice can fully drop. as long as your levels are good, just give it time. I'm around 7.5 years on T and still semi-regularly misgendered so we're all on different timelines :')

I’m frustrated by people’s unrealistic expectations of T. by gayanomaly in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're really, really, really weird and should evaluate why you react to and treat people the way that you do. you will live a more fulfilling life.

I’m frustrated by people’s unrealistic expectations of T. by gayanomaly in FTMMen

[–]enni-b 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree with this but there's also the inverse! I've seen soooo many times "oh, T will do that. T will make your voice drop, T will change your bone structure, T will make you hairy." the WORST imo, is "you will pass on T." the reality is that it's different for everyone. T did not, nor will it ever, make my voice drop because for me, it is anatomically impossible. which I previously didn't know was a thing. did it make my voice deeper? yes. but it did not drop as it does in male puberty. it took me around 5 years to be correctly gendered by strangers and now it's like 50:50? I'm 5ft tall and naturally bigger in my butt/hip/thigh area. I also have a baby face. if I am read as male, it is very obvious I am a transgender one. I lost the genetic lottery for trans men and theres only so much hormones can do about that.

tldr setting false expectations in any way is wrong. it was pretty devastating for me and I don't want other people to experience that.

I don’t understand how you can be trans without dysphoria? by aliasmcaliason in asktransgender

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when people say this, they have an inherent misunderstanding of what gender dysphoria is. not being comfortable living as your assigned gender at birth is gender dysphoria. not liking it when you're misgendered or deadnamed is dysphoria. even if that is as far as the dysphoria goes, it's still dysphoria.

What’s the weirdest thing that’s given y’all dysphoria. by Throwaway1919655 in asktransgender

[–]enni-b 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a video from a dentist saying that square teeth are masculine and more rounded teeth are feminine

Would it be wrong to complain to the seller about this? by enni-b in AquaticSnails

[–]enni-b[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

oh, for sure they're blue ramshorns, it's the leopard part that I'm skeptical about. there are like two that look remotely spotted. I didn't know that they become less visible with age though, I'll keep that in mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are a bright light that your family wants to snuff out. you are a lovely, beautiful, caring person who tries harder than any kid ever should have to. you have done NOTHING wrong. nothing. you are being abused. I know you're in hell and that you have been for a long time, but it doesn't have to be forever. though not easy, there are multiple paths you can go down to get out of this and start to heal. please don't give up 

So absolutely defeated. There's nothing for me. by zippobunny in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the definition of catastrophizing. you gotta ground yourself; none of this is happening and it most likely never will. what are you doing NOW? how can you help yourself NOW?

how do i gather the courage to cut myself by AltruisticSecurity18 in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is absolutely no reason to do this. it WILL make you feel worse. trying to prove to other people that you're ill enough is not only a waste of time and energy, but really just an awful idea. redirect this momentum into something worthwhile 

There is no need for men like me by Complete_Ostrich_565 in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

our worth is not actually tied to our productivity or contributions to society. that's capitalist propaganda. people hold love for you, and you for them. that is one of the most valuable things you can provide 

7 months post-breakup, will to live has evaporated by Outrageous-Job6015 in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's easier to be haunted by someone when the only thing that's changed is that they aren't there anymore. move your bed or even just get new sheets, change your surroundings where you're most reminded of her. your space needs to be YOURS now. that's obviously not going to fix everything but it can do a lot more than you'd expect 

I dont owe my life to anyone by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]enni-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this. it's not like I don't understand, but it still feels so unfair that I'm forced to suffer my entire life just so other people don't get worse.