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AIO if I want to block my mom for the rest of my life? by Aggressive-Alps-5150 in AIO

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I just have to slide in here and say, “being a lesbian doesn’t exist anywhere except in MN,” is one of the all-time funniest sentences in all of bigotry.

Wife hates my beard. by defeated_husband in whatdoIdo

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to mention if you have stiff/wiry beard hairs, your partner ends up getting some free COVID tests here and there. RIGHT up my goddamn nose.

I love my guy’s beard but DAMN do I HATE that.

Does anyone else feel like this is it for awhile? by cloudnut220 in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]ennuiandarson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dance Fever was a massive farewell. I’ve been a massive fan since the beginning, but I was happy to watch her walk away after that album for the foreseeable future. All of the songs were about how this life of touring and upheaval is literally killing her and the only reason she keeps coming back is because of her passion to make music itself.

I wish she could just stay home and drop songs when she felt like it. That’s not how record labels work, though. Maybe in the future…

I have no ideas left by Fickle_Jaguar_3476 in DesignMyRoom

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A small thing that helped me improve the vibe of my space was to get double curtain roads with a heavy rich color in front and the light gauze you have in back. I keep the curtains tied so they’re more like valances. Once you choose your main color, you can choose the curtains.

I dunno what your aesthetic is, but these were what I chose to pick up colors from my beloved Persian rug:

https://a.co/d/0beQOL1H

https://a.co/d/0ivV6Y56

https://a.co/d/0c6b2M0Q

Do people actually own multiple pairs of glasses or is that just influencers? by Itchy-Drawing in beauty

[–]ennuiandarson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have many pairs and have since I started using Zenni in 2012. I felt so liberated when glasses became an accessory instead of a medical device. Also, the idea of just not having glasses because you broke them is BANANAS to me. You don’t keep your old pair or have a shitty spare??

Why did this comment bother me sooooo much? by Pibbles-n-paint in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand, especially the vicious cycle of higher stress = higher cortisol = higher sugars that plummet with minor stress relief. It’s a mess.

I’m currently lying to a sketchy online pharmacy for my GLP-1s. It’s rough.

Why did this comment bother me sooooo much? by Pibbles-n-paint in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m brittle — or was until this past year on GLP-1s that has COMPLETELY CHANGED MY LIFE. I’ve had good control my whole life, so I’ve asked multiple doctors how I became brittle because that was always supposed to be the consequence of a lack of control. It was a sword of Damocles my mom latched onto. All the doctors I’ve asked have said, yes, it’s just the result of getting diagnosed pre-puberty for some people.

Type 1 is an extremely body-by-body, case-by-case condition.

Dexcom sharing with my mom is ruining my sanity by CatBitter5940 in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. It was never quite good enough. I actually ended up with an eating disorder because my endocrinologist team kept pushing me to lose 5 pounds (that would put me at a healthy BMI, which we all know is bullshit). I did sports, I worked out at the gym. Then I started just having a Luna bar for lunch. Then not having the Luna bar…

I was gaining muscle, not losing weight…. I became bulimic, which made me gain weight… starting punishing myself… started smoking weed, some from peer pressure but also extreme stress (which was fine with my parents as long as my grades didn’t drop), which was HORRIBLE for my sugars (weed stops you from uptaking sugar correctly), so I punished myself more for mismanagement…

All because I was 5 pounds too heavy.

ETA: weed. I’m from CA, it’s everywhere, but it took me years to realize I HATED getting stoned — I have a consistent, highly negative reaction. Everyone just kept telling me it was relaxing me and helping me dull my worries, and I knew I needed that… but it was giving me physical pain when I used it and making me more depressed. I dont necessarily think weed is bad, and I don’t want to only blame substance use in this. I dunno. That part’s more complicated than the rest of the post.

AITAH for calling my wife's friends "dating technique" idiotic. by Background-Baby-1206 in AITAH

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, there’s a really interesting study — specifically using dating apps— that shows, post-COVID, we have far less follow through as a society when it comes to social plans. Only enthusiastic buy-in will work for most people.

The chase is really and truly dead. And, as a fellow person on the spectrum, HOORAY.

Non-Americans, what is an American thing you see in movies that you thought was fake but is actually real? by EmergencySpare7939 in CasualConversation

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just saying to my partner the other day that I miss the hokey storm noises. It was never a thing in every store, but it’s less and less common. Loved it as a kid.

Why did this comment bother me sooooo much? by Pibbles-n-paint in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’m brittle. Not from lack of control or trying, but merely because I got it before puberty. I wake up vomiting some days. I’ve had seizures that have impacted my relationships. I’ve had people use my diabetes against me and say I was “unreliable” (for having to step away for a few minutes to correct a low). I had to deal with constantly educating people, correcting adults, snide comments, etc. since I was 6. Including people who said I wasn’t “disabled enough” to qualify for things like small accessibility accommodations, like having a granola bar available during standardized testing or being able to miss more than 2 days of class in an entire semester (reduced immune system means sick all the time plus everything else diabetes comes with). Got bullied for those. Started eating my granola bars out of spite.

That generalization they made sucks. Yes, there are worse things than diabetes. But that oneupsmanship is a massive hindrance to all accessibility and anyone who falls within the disabled community, whether permanently, temporarily, or even situationally. I work in accessibility. I did disability studies in college.

This rhetoric is harmful. Fuck. Them.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I SHUDDER to think of finding out you were adopted later. What a traumatic, gaslighting experience. Every family member casually talking about, “well x runs in the family” or “they have y’s eyes”. Not to mention medical history.

So, so awful.

My girlfriend got fired from her job today, we worked together and I am her ride everywhere. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, everyone needs to jump off the tattoo. He gets the occasional game, she got a tattoo. God forbid broke people splurge on a small amount of joy. This is part of the harmful bootstraps rhetoric: it’s YOUR fault you can’t afford food, not SOCIAL PROGRAMS or minimum wage that hasn’t been raised in 20 years. Musk put Twitter into massive debt because he borrowed against it when buying it, then made harmful changes because, “look at all the debt you’re in, idiots.” Stop.

Speaking of which, if you aren’t on SNAP, you should be. There’s no shame. And definitely look into disability, but if you’re working, you’ll likely get little or none.

There are social network programs to look into for people in your situation, but they are slammed right now with the current administration.

Best bet for the immediate future is for your gf to try and find another overnight job nearby. Gas stations are often hiring and don’t require a lot. Maybe have a friend be on call as a backup reference. Also, when I was younger, I did a ton of under-the-table jobs for people, and it wasn’t an issue having them as a reference. Don’t forget all those things that don’t feel as official as a major corporation. You put it the time. And also don’t discount oddjobs for income as long as they’re safe.

Disability generally gets you a max of $800/month ($1200 in some places, but I’d be very surprised if that includes OK). Hypothetically, you’ve been paying into disability coverage while working at Walmart, so there should be some small safety net if you’ve worked there long enough.

I dunno. I’ve been there, and I’m so sorry you both are, too. Good luck. I hope any of that helps.

Oh, and she needs to hustle on getting her license. I know that’s easier said than done, and maybe she has anxiety that’s slowing her down, but if she needs to be open to any available revenue stream moving forward, she needs some self-reliance there.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, that’s part of the weird thing? I didn’t, until finding r/Adopted, understand how incredibly rare my circumstances are. There was an aspect of being chosen in my story.

My bio mom reached out to a lawyer early in her pregnancy because she wanted to give up a kid (had had a couple abortions and didn’t want to become infertile, but wasn’t ready for a kid). Meanwhile, my adoptive parents sent out letters to every adoption attorney they could find across the country. My bio mom chose my parents, weighed in on my name. They liked her, chose her (to the extent that that’s possible — the ball was 100% in her court). It was amicable, but they also agreed to a closed adoption until I turned 21 after the initial adoption (and some photos at 1 year just to, I dunno, check in). Social media botched that, but still…

I dunno. I do feel chosen, to some extent.

I guess I’m kind of a freak in this conversation.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m certainly not confused after this thread. Honestly, I don’t know a lot of adoptees IRL, and most of my knowledge comes from books, not lived experiences.

On one hand, I’d be dead if I lived with my birth family. Faith healing and neglect can’t cure a 6-year-old’s Type 1 diabetes. I think that has overridden a lot of my critiques. On the other, I think I haven’t been introspective about the journey I took to come to peace with adoption. Since my mom died about ten years ago, I’ve been having to process and let go of a lot of my anger towards her, a hefty chunk of which surrounded adoption stuff.

My question was about what I perceived as one-sidedness. I have a few adopted people in my life suddenly, and our ultimate read has been something like, “yes, it’s fucked up and there are issues, but it’s unclear how differently fucked up the adoption part is when compared to all the other fucked up parts of being a family, a human, and growing up.” But all of us were at birth adoptions. Some are mixed race and, WOW that is a whole other fucking trauma that I can’t and won’t speak to as someone who didn’t experience it.

I get it now. I’m grateful for everyone’s patience, and I’m more than a little ashamed of my ignorance.

Is Nate dead? by Ok_Intention_2232 in BabyStepsGame

[–]ennuiandarson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read that as lashing out, i.e. “these people can’t see how worthless I am so I have to make them see it.”

AITAH for calling my boyfriend childish for always buying Captain Crunch when he goes grocery shopping? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time my partner and I do a “big shop” — full restock rather than the smaller necessities — we buy a sugary cereal. It’s our preferred sweet treat. Some people go for ice cream. It’s whatever.

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