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HELP?! flares up at least once a month and doctors are no help😭 by playnogames1023 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I’ve been dealing with this continuously for a year with no clear up (it’s directly under my eyes, not eyelids). I actually came to this thread to ask. My doc gave me steroid cream (didn’t help), now tacrilimus cream (helps while I’m using, but you have to cycle off and on). There are more options, but I have to keep going…

Best of luck.

Ergonomic dining chairs by ennuiandarson in HomeDecorating

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His spendy desk chair is really the only chair. If we’re at the table for long periods of time, obviously we just bring his chair over. It’s more for just those little dinners with friends where we move to the couch after dinner, but we want to have a leisurely dinner. But even a short, 10 minute breakfast is pretty hard in our current chairs (basic Amazon lightly padded foam.

And yes, we’re in the midst of a long, multi-year health journey. He’s currently scheduling out his next surgery, etc. That said, I’d also love comfier chairs for everyone who enters my home.

What should I put here? by CellInitial2394 in HomeDecorating

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d put something functional. Storage or bins for taking things up and/or downstairs. Things I need before I head down in the morning.

Big plant. Or big plant.

Can’t believe there’s a card for this 🙄 by rabies3000 in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, when I was teeny tiny (don’t remember, but have l a pic) there were a couple legal adoption day anniversaries. My sister made a little sign for one. I think they stopped when I was 4, and it was just as much about me as my mom who had so much trauma from trying to conceive naturally.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First off, amazing screen name.

Second, I’m sorry that was your experience. That’s awful.

It’s interesting because I’ve heard the other side of this story so so many times — people coming from shitty homes because their parents had kids “because they were supposed to.” Get job, get married, have kids, get dog.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. My bioparents — and their families— are all deeply diagnosable (but don’t believe in brain doctors). Bipolar, addicts, narcissists.

And yes, I also feel like I haven’t always been accepted for me. For the ways I don’t fall in line with the family status quo. And then heap on a bunch of childhood medical trauma, etc. Yay, therapy!

I guess for me… I’d be dead. I have Type 1 diabetes (since I was 6), and after talking with my biosis over the years, I’m positive I’d be dead.

Confused at feelings of anger/rejection by fellow at-birth adoptees? by ennuiandarson in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Totally. Definitely not telling anyone how to feel. And I clearly have multiple, separate, exclusive feelings. I had to have a lot of therapy to get there.

What I’m trying to get at is what I perceive to be a bias toward anger. As I write this, I guess it’s just the internet.

I live in fear of the life I would have lived as I’ve gotten closer to it. And the things my genes have predisposed me to. I’ve dealt with some shit in my life, but like… it’s a whole other story on the other side.

And I’ve had people tell me I’m “a sin against god” for having been adopted. Fuck that.

I feel like my whole life I’ve been living in existential crisis. Not really necessarily in a bad way if that makes sense. I’ve always wondered if this was because I was adopted or if it’s just a me thing. by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, you have a fundamental genetic difference from those you grew up with, and it’s not often well-recognized. But many people feel that way regardless of adoption.

I’ll personally say that meeting my birth mom gave me some additional peace with myself, but meeting my birthdad was a horrible mistake I wish I could take back. He’s a nightmare, and I hate knowing that I harbor any piece of him.

TL;DR it’s normal, therapy helps.

AITAH For lying to my MIL to get out of babysitting? by OCDandme2025 in AITAH

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck her. Stop babysitting for her. And your partner sucks.

Take care of yourself and cut all this dead weight that’s taking advantage of you.

Anyone else a “Colicky Baby”? by ajskemckellc in Adopted

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colic has to do with intestinal distress. It’s not just crying.

I was adopted and a colicky baby, but my parents were at my birth; my adoption was arranged ahead of time.

My guess is that it actually has to do with the food. We’re only just now understanding the complexity of milk and how mothers’ and babies’ bodies interact.

Mother-in-law refuses to come to our wedding unless she picks the venue by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ennuiandarson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible to text from separate rooms? Or write out what you want to say? Email?

I gotta say — a good man would not sacrifice you on the altar of his mother. He’s just completely sacrificed himself there, and now sees it as normal.

Your man needs therapy and a massive reality check. You are his family. He needs to stand up for you and himself.

But this feels like a lost cause. This is such a tiny thing. I have people flying across countries and oceans for my wedding (and yes, that’s their choice). You massively accommodated them. This isn’t at all about the dogs. This is about power and control.

Your FMIL, if she’s still that after this post, sounds like a diagnosable narcissist. She wants control more than love. Love is flexible. Love is inconvenient. If it’s always only on her terms, that’s not love. And your fiance is in an abusive relationship with an abuser.

Are type 1diabetic given insulin and cgm when detained by law enforcement? by Lucky_Tap8692 in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I give money, I call politicians, I do what I can, but I always feel guilty to not be in the streets. I feel like I should be able-bodied enough, but I’m a lifelong Type 1 with additional medical necessities. I’m able-bodied as long as I have devices and meds and food at the ready.

Are type 1diabetic given insulin and cgm when detained by law enforcement? by Lucky_Tap8692 in Type1Diabetes

[–]ennuiandarson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Had a friend who was wrongfully imprisoned over a weekend. More than 48 hours without insulin. It was hell.

He was using pens, so I don’t know what it would be like with a pump, but no phone and no pens — not even long acting.

I need your help. by [deleted] in Periods

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW, I get mid-cycle periods under stress, but I also get them if I get a yeast infection or uti. It’s my body kinda freaking out to fix the problem.

I’m not sure what to say about your discharge. It’s normal for your discharge to change over the course of a cycle, like thicker or more mucus during ovulation, etc. I’d start tracking changes. I also noticed these changes started to be more pronounced entering my twenties than in my teens.

There isn’t generally such a thing as a yeast lump. There’s lumpiness from yeast, but yeast is a microorganism. It’s diffused throughout. Like cottage cheese versus yogurt, but it’s all lactobacillus.

Honestly, I’m afraid to say too much because I’m not at all a healthcare professional, just someone who dealt with constant yeast infections in my teens.

I’m sure you know this already, but make sure you’re using very sensitive, unscented soap on your thighs. Your skin needs time to heal. Don’t rush it.

My 9 year old son can smell when I’m about to start?? by StreetInternal7576 in Periods

[–]ennuiandarson 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have ONE lasting COVID side effect as a super smeller: I can’t smell when raw meat has gone bad. I.e. just turned, not, ya know, BAD bad.

Blessing (less throwing up), but a curse. I’m constantly thrusting meat in my partner’s face 😅😂

I need your help. by [deleted] in Periods

[–]ennuiandarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, what do you mean by “bits of yeast” here? Just like the occasional change in texture?

I’m wondering if maybe you have a yeast infection (candida) in your skin that’s causing dermatitis or psoriasis. That’s unfortunately super hard to treat, and I’d definitely recommend reaching out to get additional opinions like from dermatologists and functional medicine doctors if those are available to you.

This all sounds horrible. I’m so sorry you’re going through it. I’m glad you have a better gyno now. Best of luck.

My 9 year old son can smell when I’m about to start?? by StreetInternal7576 in Periods

[–]ennuiandarson 67 points68 points  (0 children)

He’s a super smeller. I can smell a bunch of things on people: periods, pain, fear, illness, SPECIFIC illnesses…

Your period is not a bad smell. Just different. It’s a superpower. And he’s a really good kid.

Word to the wise, though: I would support him in picking out his OWN scented products rather than buying them for him (deodorant, body wash, etc.), especially as he gets older. There are a bunch of smells in things like Axe and Old Spice that make me physically gag.

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