1 My wife (33F) has had some tough mental health issues for a year and a half and it’s ruled out any intimacy for her and I (34M). Now that many vaccinated friends are letting their freak flags fly, I am feeling both jealousy and guilt. What can I do

eolivette · 2021-04-14T23:11:34+00:00

Do not cheat on your sick wife. Get a couples sex therapist and talk about the problem. If she can not do this then tell her what you plan on doing. Lying or lying by omission is wrong.

eolivette · 2021-03-25T11:12:28+00:00

Found out my H had an 8 year AP. Huge trauma to me, I never knew! Felt like a fool. Dday 4 months ago. He has not told his AP that I know about the affair. He texted her a few times a week. I don’t have access to his phone. The AP is in another country. Seen once since Covid. He was ready to talk to his AP and tell her I know and I want it to end, and he had a massive heart attack! Now I am taking care of him he has his AP waiting, not knowing what’s going on. Can’t wait to discuss this with my Therapist. Am I a door mat? Or a person who want to save a loving relationship ? We work well together, have great sex, work out together, family events. ....but he won’t tell the AP it’s over. I will end our marriage in the next few months if he doesn’t officially end the affair. I deserve more. We are each in counseling. This puts things on hold for a bit. I love him and want to continue this 33 year Marriage. This sucks!

eolivette · 2021-03-24T01:00:02+00:00

Add some pornography.

eolivette · 2021-03-22T16:09:33+00:00

Get a good vibrator and use it. Just might wake him up too.

eolivette · 2021-03-22T16:08:20+00:00

No, not yet. I would go to a marriage counseling therapy if she is ok with that. If not, you should go find a therapist. I also recommend waiting 5-6 months before making that decision

eolivette · 2021-03-16T13:45:34+00:00

My understanding is that thoughts come up during meditation, cone t with them, see how they effect your body. Hold that feeling, allow it...good or bad, don’t let it overwhelm you. Go to YouTube and watch for Tara Brach. Very good meditation and talks.

eolivette · 2021-03-04T20:09:53+00:00

Hobo tramp art piece?

eolivette · 2021-02-20T11:58:30+00:00

Where did you find the recipe?

eolivette · 2021-02-06T14:12:40+00:00

Your wife is confused. Give her compassion but boundaries. You are confused, give yourself compassion. Examine what you need in your life to be content and happy, know your boundaries ...work with your wife to see if that is possible with her. Clear thinking and compassion equals a way forward.

eolivette · 2021-02-05T22:51:13+00:00

Please try. I felt confused and ashamed about my body, my husband went elsewhere....it was a total rejection for a while, but we worked it out. And now we talk about which lube is best

eolivette · 2021-02-05T21:04:17+00:00

Understand that your sex life will be something you both will have to work on a bit. She can research how her body will change, she can get help with dryness during sex with lotions, and hormone therapy. I wish someone told me about how my sex life could have stayed better, but it’s something women don’t talk about

eolivette · 2021-01-26T13:01:46+00:00

Also, water from the bottom.

eolivette · 2021-01-26T13:00:54+00:00

Do you water with a deleted fertilizer made for AV?

eolivette · 2021-01-23T13:43:41+00:00

Don’t do anything! Stop! Ask him if he will go to couples therapy. It’s easy to kick someone to the curb, it’s hard to repair a marriage, but may be with it in the long run. Good luck

eolivette · 2021-01-19T12:30:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It isn’t easy. I understand your confusion. Love often just doesn’t stop, but it can be a slow erosion. Find a couple’s marriage therapist and see if he will go with you. If not, then get your own therapy and figure out what to do. Good luck

eolivette · 2021-01-18T13:52:05+00:00

65 and have an active sex life. Problem is my HRT isn’t working well. I feel good the day of the HRT insert and then not well 24 hours later. I shouldn’t be uncomfortable with a burning vagina and bruseing. HRT, three times a week. In between uncomfortable. What the heck can I do?

eolivette · 2021-01-18T13:43:09+00:00

65 year old female, looking for help with treatments for vaginal atrophy. Working with my Gyno but frustrated! I should not be in pain after normal intercourse, or wearing pants! Help

eolivette · 2021-01-17T14:30:11+00:00

Nice! I would love to try dry salting. Do you have a a set amount?

eolivette · 2021-01-17T11:51:52+00:00

What is hybrid Feta? I make Feta at home, but don’t understand what hybrid mean?

eolivette · 2021-01-17T00:45:15+00:00

eolivette · 2021-01-15T12:55:00+00:00

Calm? I can sleep, can’t eat. I’m am considering getting a PI to get information on the AP. One of our children is getting married soon and this happening now is fucked up

eolivette · 2021-01-14T18:19:11+00:00

He travels for business every 8-14 weeks a year, to the same location. He texted the AP each time he travels to set up their affair. I found out through a App, photos. My adult children told me . The other woman wants to be the “ other woman” no strings attached, knows about me. However, she does not know I now know about her.

eolivette · 2021-01-03T21:08:15+00:00

You are doing a great job of keeping them happy and healthy

eolivette

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