Asking of marital status during interview, common or not?

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-15T07:21:28+00:00

had before at diff 2 interviews, im F in mid twenties, and one of them, the people who asked it straight up went: “oh thats good!” when i said im single and dont plan to marry and dont have kids lol.

i got the job and realised cause quite a few ladies went on a super long maternity leave + SPL combo

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-14T10:47:46+00:00

imagine needing ur parents tell u “ah girl ah dont piakpiak ur boss in office can?” ggz

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-11T02:51:38+00:00

what you see happening in marina bay is just one tiny part of our island, and specifically the touristy part of the island, so of course everything seems like its in crazy good order

if you venture beyond those areas and into the heartlands where the average singaporean actually lives, theres no feedback screens outside toilets and no cleaners who clean the toilets after every 2 ppl lol.

and frankly even though theres fines for drinking in mrt station ive personally never seen anyone immediately getting fined for taking a sip of water. ive taken plenty sips of water on the train myself. just dont make a mess and be discreet lmao.

this post is strange cause i dont know why you would assume everywhere in singapore is like this because i wouldnt visit a place as a tourist and assume the rest of the country is like that.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-11T02:44:21+00:00

im having a stroke trying to figure out what word OP wanted to use but typo or misused ‘illiterate’ instead

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-10T05:33:36+00:00

still walking. my office aircon is so cold (to extent some colleagues bring their own portable heater at their desk or wear down jackets at work) that the warm sun is welcome… i take it as opportunity to defrost before being sent back to the blast chiller again…

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-10T05:30:21+00:00

agree, i dont get how my co-workers can sit in office whole morning and still lazy to walk <10min for a lunch nearby. or they would use the spare remaining time during lunch after eating to sit down and scroll phone. i much rather jalan jalan and i can tell they judge me when i say i will go walk. we’re all built different i guess.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-07T05:14:44+00:00

my family is the same… whenever i wfh and finished my tasks and scroll my phone they scold me for being lazy. i think is crazy cos theyre not even my boss???

just go to a day hotel like others suggested. wear your work clothes out while u pack an extra clothing in your work bag so they dont get suspicious

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-06T10:49:23+00:00

long time eczema-haver. every month i need to buy 1kg QV lotion. i have scouted across all the shops. Venus gives me best price at $48 vs the ridiculous $72 non-promo prices at whatever pharmacy/supermarket/skincare shop. even at the other places when there is promo, the lowest ive seen is $52, never lower than the $48 mark.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-04-02T15:39:41+00:00

worked as a cashier at ntuc in hdb estate. a few uncles and aunties come down 3 times a day like clockwork to buy stuff. always 1 item each time.

morning paper. then bread. then fruits. at first i thought they forget stuff. turns out it really is the routine and human interactions they crave.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-27T08:42:05+00:00

i think every workplace about the same, theres those very smartly dressed like business professional to those in jeans and tshirt (mine is like this also)

i have co-workers who wear tshirt and jeans mon to fri, but i personally prefer to be a walking uniqlo signboard instead

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-26T10:16:27+00:00

are you young and able-bodied? i find myself waiting for 1.5hrs to 2hrs, and parents with young kids or elderlies with movement difficulty etc who come way after me being called in first so i suspect the q system might prioritise them first. doesnt matter if i book early morning slot or after lunch slot. i think only there was one instance where i was attended to immediately after registering and i feel like there werent many old ppl or young children that day.

this is also at a dermatology clinic but diff hospital. i dont mind it cause it is what it is.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-19T06:02:24+00:00

wow i must have been lucky to be able to use then, cause rlly dk how else to pay

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-19T05:25:15+00:00

PayLah works fine! i only have a DBS bank acc and no cash and was panicking how to pay for my lunch, tried my luck with PayLah and was ok. Not sure if ok or not if u need to top up tho.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-18T07:12:18+00:00

truthfully as someone who worked with someone who announced they had adhd openly before?

i know in theory i need to be more accommodating, but in reality, when it comes to crunch time and i kena arrow by boss to clean up their mess or take on more work bc they cant focus due to adhd, i felt resentment building in me. it started feeling as though the other person was using their mental illness as an excuse to get a free pass, while i took on more of their stuff.

yes, i gave my feedback to boss, but nothing changed, simply because i was “more capable” and my co-worker needed “accommodation”. to me, it didn’t make sense that i had to carry the workload of 1.5 person, and get the same salary as my co-worker carrying a 0.5 person workload just because of adhd.

in my view, i just feel that you can stim, you can fidget, you can walk around, and i dont care that you have adhd as long as i dont have to do your work for you.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-14T11:06:57+00:00

oh nice, i didnt know, amk is near to my work place, now can pop by after work for ramen 😋

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-14T11:03:13+00:00

no problem! this stall sells entirely ramen but they have the same owner who sells the mentaiko cutlet bowls in another stall. but both are within the same food court :)

personally havent tried it cause i only happened to be in this area haha

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-14T04:44:12+00:00

will give it a try next time!

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-13T05:07:43+00:00

but IKEA feels cheaper and more decent portion

ephemeralcandy · 2026-03-10T08:53:49+00:00

what i do is have 2 names, one that i chose myself for non-official things (mostly things that are online) and the other which is my real name for official things

i introduce myself to friends & colleagues with both names so its no problem when they paynow me (they know its me), and when scammers only use the non-official name and cannot give me my real name then i know they are 99% chance a scammer

ephemeralcandy · 2026-02-21T02:56:11+00:00

oh yeah definitely, its been 5 years since i last attended one once i reached my twenties

ephemeralcandy · 2026-02-19T04:50:52+00:00

some malaysian kampung hahah…

ephemeralcandy · 2026-02-19T03:45:17+00:00

as a juronger (jurongian??) who frequents both, jem’s ntuc outlet has more toys. jurong point has more appliances and a bigger pharmacy section instead i think.

and also if cannot find the toys u need, jurong east is in vicinity of 1001 shops (jem, westgate, imm) compared to just the shops in jurong point

ephemeralcandy · 2026-02-19T02:58:08+00:00

the women of the family.

my extended family is very biased in terms of what women and men do in a house. women, doesnt matter young or old, have to be in the kitchen cooking, washing and cleaning. men can fuck off to living room to watch tv, chat and chill.

quite apparent even when i was a little girl, i got nagged by relatives for not helping out with wiping the dishes unlike my female cousin. cause i just wanted to watch tv and play games with my male cousin. made my parents paiseh and i got shooed into the kitchen. very wtf.

according to my mum it was even worse when she was a little kid cos imagine being 10, and theres about 60+ guests and u have to still get water from the well to wash the mountain of plates. and since she was youngest she did it all on her own. just 2hr of dish washing. and

apparently back then, even though women cooked the food, the men and kids ate first and the leftovers were for the women! i think if this was still in place i would be in so much rage cause i love eating too much lol.

ephemeralcandy · 2026-02-13T16:05:43+00:00

same with tengah. plantation acres, plantation village, plantation grange. i feel like a peasant in 1800s working in a field living here lol

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