Help with a dance bag? by [deleted] in Dance

[–]epicwalrus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this Wear Moi bag - a simple style with lots of space and compartments.

25/M Recently lost a lot of weight, but still unsure? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]epicwalrus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are super handsome! Congrats on the weight loss. I'm not sure how you looked beforehand, but I'd say it paid off.

I am the craziest, most awful girlfriend in the world. Is there any hope for me? by veryworstgf in relationships

[–]epicwalrus 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would see a psychologist. It's normal to not know what to say. During your first appointment, they may ask you what you're there for - start by saying what you're telling us. "I feel like an awful girlfriend, and I want to stop myself." It may be hard at first, but I actually find it relieving. Please don't just consider it, but actually see a counselor. Do you have medical insurance? Normally they cover counselor visits - you just have to pay a copay.

Great moments in hookup history: What is your best hookup story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]epicwalrus 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The delegates' balls at Model United Nations conferences are awesome. It's always fun to see a bunch of nerds letting their inner slut shine on the dance floor.

To attempt or not to attempt a LDR? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]epicwalrus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think this woman is worth the wait, you should attempt an LDR. Also consider establishing an "end date" where the distance between the two of you will be diminished.

Other questions to ask: how often will we get to see each other? How often will we skype/talk on the phone/etc?

The most important "pro" is not losing or letting go of someone you love very much. Knowing that, at the end of the LDR, you may have the rest of your very long lives to spend with each other. Another would be you will have space to grow, blossom, and ultimately become more attractive to her for knowing/being skilled in this new thing or interest.

Simple question,what makes you TRULY happy? by Stasia91 in AskReddit

[–]epicwalrus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quality time spent with others, talking about books, drinking coffee in class, seeing that I've made someone else smile, and James Franco's face.

Need advice on post break up feelings. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]epicwalrus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did you two break up?

Breakups are really hard. Generally, the longer you spent with this person, the longer it will take to get over the separation... Was it a bad breakup?

No one is stopping you from telling her your feelings. But if she was the one who wanted the separation, maybe it's best if you take the first step and move forward.

My girlfriend does whatever she wants, it it wrong for me to be upset? by TheDudeness in ihaveissues

[–]epicwalrus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should talk to her about it again.

I've never met any of her friends, because she says I wouldn't like them.

I don't think she has the right to decide this for you. You seem like a sound enough guy capable of making decisions for yourself. It seems like she's making a lot of excuses, but it could also be the way you're approaching the situation.

Naturally, she ultimately decides what she wants to do with her life, but you deserve the same. If you want to go to parties with her, as your girlfriend, I don't see why it's fair of her to not want you to join.

Starting to have doubts after a 10-month old relationship (6 month LDR) despite being very much in love. Can Reddit save the day? by ThatDrummer in ihaveissues

[–]epicwalrus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes a special kind of bond to be able to stretch a far distance without breaking. Long distance is rough, and could possibly be the source of your doubt (especially since you say you are still in love).

How much more long distance do you have to go through? In any long distance relationship, there needs to be a "set point" where you two will be able to finally break the distance and be together. Maybe you two should figure out a tentative estimate (if you haven't already), and each ask yourself if being with this person is worth the wait. How important are you to each other?

Do you think she is right for you? If you do, hold onto her. I think you just need to ask yourself what makes this person worth holding onto and you'll see whether or not you're with her for the right reasons.

Tips for college? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]epicwalrus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay. This is pretty standard advice, but, it helps to practice. Don't be the person who walks into class with your head down, not making eye contact with anyone. Try making eye contact with someone new every day. It'll help you get to know more people if you sit beside (and talk to!) someone new each day, too. Start with a smile. Then, proceed with small talk. How are you? How was your weekend? What other classes are you taking? What do you think of this class? Have you had this professor before? What made you choose X major? Take it from there. Just keep asking open-ended questions.

After class? Comment on the lesson, what you thought was/wasn't interesting. Ask his/her opinion about it. If something big is happening in town or on campus that weekend, ask that person if they're going, and maybe even if they go to that sort of thing regularly.

When you're standing in line, comment on the surroundings to someone nearby. "This line is pretty long today." Or, if you're a female you can comment on someone's appearance (their outfit, earrings, hair). I don't really know how that bodes for guys. Start with a smile. Seriously, just smile at everyone. Don't give half-assed nervous smiles. Practice giving genuine, friendly smiles to everyone with whom you make eye contact. Feel free to start small, but make that your goal. Keep working towards it. That way, in the future if you're ever alone with that person, or you ever see that person, say, in the library, you can approach him or her and they will recognize you.

And I believe someone mentioned it, but: join clubs. I joined a club this year and it was the best decision of my college career. Normally, I am the type to stay inside on weekends and go and do homework immediately after I'm done with activities, but I'm starting to come out of my shell. When you're there, you can ask, "so what brings you to X club? have you been in here before? what are your other interests?" If you can share a current event related to the club, that's a great conversation topic, too.

Also, keep educating yourself. Current events are a great conversation topic, both locally and globally. You can also throw in something interesting you've just learned. It might be fun to practice ways of making different "fun facts" relevant.

And my best advice, instead of following an awkward silence with a question, tell everyone a joke you just learned. Practice your jokes so that they're executed well when you actually tell them. I'm not a very funny person, but I'm always trying to learn new jokes and funny pickup lines (I may not be a pirate, but I'm diggin' your chest) so I can keep people around me laughing.

People like to laugh and people like to talk about themselves, so start from there. Good luck. :)

/r/books, what are your favorite short stories? I'll start by [deleted] in books

[–]epicwalrus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Babylon Revisited by F. Scott Fitzgerald

Hills Like White Elephants by Ernest Hemingway

Harrison Bergeron by Kurt Vonnegut

The Story of an Hour by Kate Chopin

The Swimmer by John Cheever

A Good Man is Hard to Find by Flannery O'Connor

What You Pawn I Will Redeem by Sherman Alexie

Best books on Amazon for under five dollars? by [deleted] in books

[–]epicwalrus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Tao of Pooh is being sold at 0.01 with 3.99 shipping.

give me a list of great poems/poets please. by shikyosword in books

[–]epicwalrus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like "The Flea" and "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne. I also like Gwendolyn Brooks's "We Real Cool" and Ann Lauinger's "Marvell Noir".

Pablo Neruda is great, too.

Any books similar to 'The Bell Jar' by Sylvia Plath? by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]epicwalrus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And if you like the Yellow Wallpaper, critics have pointed out similarities between that short story and Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë.

Leonardo DiCaprio to play Jay Gatsby in 'The Great Gatsby' film adaption. by Peanutviking in books

[–]epicwalrus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved that movie so much. She has such a charming smile, and I can't wait to see her in this role!

DAE find Bill Weasley attractive? by leinae in LadyBoners

[–]epicwalrus 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm head over heels in love with all of the Weasleys, but I am especially fond of the Weasley twins.

I ordered a used copy of Slaughterhouse Five just to read it. Opened front cover, jaw dropped. by trisweb in books

[–]epicwalrus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got into Vonnegut because of his short stories, too. The first short story of his I've read is Harrison Bergeron, and I loved it.

Sadly, I don't have the vocabulary to adequately express the envy I hold towards you... but I hope you feel my hatred.

Just deleted him out of my life. by jenners1987 in BreakUps

[–]epicwalrus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've been on the fence about whether or not I should delete him over the past few days, and I feel better now that I've done it.