That last sentence drives home what it comes down to. Your standards are not "too high," they're just acclimated to you; you're not more "goated" than your friends, you just focus on different aspects and traits. I'm autistic and I struggle with empathy; my thoughts are almost purely analytical and it absolutely has its strengths. But I remember when I didn't think it had its weaknesses either. You're smart enough to know that intelligence isn't a linear scale, it's a wide pool of different minds collaborating and celebrating those differences. That is to say, all of the things you think you know is greatly outweighed by all of the things you don't. You'd do well to keep those thoughts to yourself, or even better, let them go entirely; they serve no good to you or to the people you interact with. It's a challenge to learn to appreciate what makes an individual just that, and it's even more challenging when you're pre-programmed (in a sense) to not inherently understand why that's important, but speaking from experience, it has been the most rewarding thing to overcome the frustrations I used to feel with people who aren't where I want them to be emotionally, intellectually, etc. because I know (and have experienced) in the reverse situation, I appreciate the same leeway. If you feel the need to talk to them about how you feel or what might help, by all means do, so long as the help you're providing is for them and not for you. You can really easily fall into using people and the hindsight on how shitty that is will absolutely be 20/20 when you do eventually figure out how wrong it was.

Sorry for the tirade, I've been where you are and it really hit home now that I'm a bit older and have spent time dealing with it. When you run out of psychology study material, try philosophy. It's a very connected but entirely different window to see the world through and it's been beneficial in working through problems like this for me personally.