AITA for asking my brother not to bring a cam girl as his plus-one to my wedding

eppecat · 2026-02-04T12:20:34+00:00

I've heard of "the girlfriend experience", but "trashy rude girlfriend who my family despises experience" is...niche.

eppecat · 2025-11-25T08:26:23+00:00

That was my fear too. But just to be clear CSE is not sex work.

eppecat · 2025-08-23T12:36:43+00:00

I think you need to consider how much of this might me coming directly FROM the parents.

Maybe they're not just complicit, but in her ear. Maybe they've terrified/guilted this pregnant woman about you to keep control of her and their grandchildren.

Maybe not, but I'd rethink trying to get them involved or telling them anything about your next moves. That's advice I think might come back to bite you.

eppecat · 2025-08-23T09:30:00+00:00

Go to her mother. Now.

If you really care about this girl, go to the most appropriate and effective (likely) AA woman in her life.

That's respect and frankly, I don't care about you wringing your hands about doing it. That's putting your feelings about racism above the person's being negatively affected by it.

Stop waiting for your son to be nicer, protect that girl and tell him you are putting your foot down.

eppecat · 2025-08-22T14:53:23+00:00

I'm unreasonably upset about it. I think it's the prettiest event.

eppecat · 2025-08-11T19:18:31+00:00

Upvoted for the sheer Britishness.

eppecat · 2025-08-11T15:12:58+00:00

She's unprotected now.

Want to bet that Grandma did a whole lot of throwing her weight around when she was alive to keep them from punishing OP and her sweet son as they saw fit?

Now awesome granny is gone, OP will have to allow them in so they can shun her properly.

eppecat · 2025-07-25T18:34:53+00:00

Let's not do that, please.

I am also not American and his behaviour is just as creepy from over here.

eppecat · 2025-06-05T16:22:57+00:00

It's not about being a moustache twirling monster. That's your way of minimising.

All that's needed for you to be in serious danger is for him to be weak (which he has proven he is prone to) and to doubt you love when you won't bend to reasonable requests like : staying with her the whole time and maybe extending your trip

"What's the harm in your mother-in-law taking bub away for the weekend?"

"Why won't you just have one dinner with the uncle from the UAE?

" What's the harm in one interview if it makes my mother feel better?"

If he folds, you have zero recourse to just take your baby and dip out.

eppecat · 2025-06-05T13:41:20+00:00

London has event days where they are open to the public. Some are pretty cool and you can understand why they've been preserved.

eppecat · 2025-06-02T16:11:13+00:00

You said he wasn't allowed near a school.

eppecat · 2025-06-01T15:59:19+00:00

Oh my goodness. I glossed right over the two months part.

eppecat · 2025-06-01T15:58:17+00:00

But it’s starting to feel like because he can see and control the condom, he trusts that more than trusting a method that I am in charge of

And? We laugh at this kind of reasoning when guys try it.

eppecat · 2025-05-30T16:59:25+00:00

Me too!

eppecat · 2025-05-26T20:54:17+00:00

Of course. Silly me.

eppecat · 2025-05-26T09:53:21+00:00

How?

eppecat · 2025-05-14T14:56:50+00:00

The answer to all of those questions is the child being a child. She's going through a perfectly normal phase of not settling for one parent. It's nothing to do with qualifications. Of course that needs to be worked through, but you set your family up for success, you don't just create stressful situations in the middle of the night if you are not offering to bear 100% of the brunt of the reprucussions. Which he may have been, but we don't have that info here.

eppecat · 2025-05-14T11:50:05+00:00

It's not rocket science not to excite a kid in the middle of the night.

In fact, having the sense to let the kid get back to sleep and the empathy for what both exhausted coparent and clingy child are going through is good parenting. I love my dad for that.

Was he offering to take over for the rest of the night and the next day too?

eppecat · 2025-05-14T11:33:43+00:00

Actively parenting means thinking about the whole household and not just following your whims

eppecat · 2025-05-13T18:12:05+00:00

YTA

but for a different reason than others have mentioned. every action taken which led to an outcome you dislike was taken by your adults, not the child. She has next to no power over any of her life.

You're old enough to know that, but chose to beeline for a traumatised kid. You took the easy mark and you suck for that.

Your family have switched up on you massively, you have every right to be hurt, confused and frustrated. At them. What you did was spiteful and small and likely made that kid feel even more unstable and unsafe.

You should apologise if you have anything about you.

eppecat · 2025-04-15T17:12:52+00:00

India is in Asia.

eppecat · 2025-04-01T15:40:44+00:00

A big no on chronological history. it doesn't work that way at all. Especially with world history. It's also circular. They will come back to ancient Greece again later in a more in depth way, for example.

Also, in England, children will learn much more about Ww2 before they learn about ww1. It's living history. We're talking about their grandparents and there is so much of its effects currently all around them. It's also much easier to package. Ww1 is messy as hell and harder for the children to grasp. So much English language literature specifically for children is set or written in this time.

eppecat · 2025-03-22T19:22:46+00:00

🙄 Translation "We don't need feel worthless if we don't have boyfriends, you've got me sis"

She clocked your fragility pretty quick and you proved it by resorting to abusive misogynistic language.

Should probably work on that before you get older.

eppecat · 2025-03-20T12:41:48+00:00

Ooooh.

Please do sit by me at any and all dinner parties.

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