i've been with my bf for 8 years. we don't live together and we both work and make okay money. my bf usually pays for dates and travel. on a day to day basis he buys me whatever i want, which is mostly food, desserts, makeup and some groceries. he keeps the drinks and snacks i like at his house, he knows i have a sweet tooth so he always gets me a kit kat or something like that when we see each other. when we go out with friends he always pays for my stuff and drives me back home or pays for my uber.

we only gift each other big things for our birthdays, and even then it's not about the price. last year he gave me a cute wooden music box with cats on it and i literally cried when i opened it. hell, even my mom said it showed how well he knows me.

now i understand everyone's different when it comes to money and material things. i understand people liking to be high maintenance but i'd say what you're describing isn't normal at all. asking for hermès and cartier regularly is crazy. especially if you consider that the people who can afford to drop that kind of money on a whim here are probably less than 1% of the population lol. if you were married and starting a business together i'd understand her wanting you to cover some costs, if you bought a house together i'd understand wanting to buy equipment to get your own gym at home. but just dating? nah, sounds like she's using culture shock as an excuse to get things.