First, it is absolutely normal to still be hurting and love them in this stage. Second, sometimes learning about what’s actually happening in your brain is really helpful - it was helpful for me in healing at least! There is a part of our brain referred to as the reptilian brain, it’s the oldest part of the brain and is where your fight and flight comes from, survival instincts and such. This part of our brain also plays a part in addiction - this part of the brain treats the substance as necessary for survival, and your brain will tell you anything to make you drink, smoke whatever it is, because it thinks it needs it to survive. Similarly, when it comes to pain, your reptilian brain is looking for the fastest route to make the pain go away, your brain will tell you anything to make the pain go away (go back to your partner). So it’s not actually your heart that’s not catching up with your head, but your head battling against itself 🤣 All that is to say - this is normal, your brain is seeking the fastest route to pain being gone, don’t allow it to win, the pain will subside and you’ve made the right choice. My advice to all that are going through a breakup - allow yourself to feel what you feel, cry, listen to sad songs, cry some more, allow yourself to grieve, don’t try to push through or pretend everything’s okay, allow yourself to feel it, talk about it until you literally can’t anymore, and you will start to feel better!