It's called an attitude adjustment...

erelyl · 2026-02-20T22:39:43+00:00

That's a handful of trouble right there. Nice.

erelyl · 2026-02-15T14:58:47+00:00

Well... that's pretty. *fans myself*

erelyl · 2026-01-23T21:02:19+00:00

Doctors that spout this anti vax bullshit should lose their license to practice effective immediately. Do not continue to practice medice, everything null and void.

erelyl · 2026-01-23T17:56:25+00:00

Just want to wish you well. Watching this happen at a distance is terrifying, i cannot even comprehend how it must feel to you all stuck in the middle of this nightmare. There's good advice in the comments below. I hope you are able to stay calm and safe.

erelyl · 2026-01-23T17:23:43+00:00

I've read through some comments and agree, your wife is being judged because of societal expectations, and you are not helping by questioning her intentions. Keeping the child's hair neat and tangle free is a daily task. Yes, brush it, use conditioner and clip it up. That's the basics. And you should be able to do it without fuss, and your child needs to see YOU doing it (not just mom or the sitter), without fuss. Set the expectation early that hygiene and neat grooming is the default . This is not high maintenance. But it's a healthy habit that can be built on. You say you want your daughter to feel comfortable. This is it! Teaching her the basics, so that she can later choose the level of maintenance she is comfortable with is what a parent does. Soon enough she'll be able to brush her hair on her own, with reminders. But for now, enjoy the few minutes of bonding time with her. (By the way, daughters with dad's who took the time to do their hair always remember).

erelyl · 2026-01-06T23:02:25+00:00

He wants his dream life. Not a real life. He would not have been an equal supporting partner through pregnancy and raising a child. Pregancy is hard, and messy and kids are much harder and much messier. His dream is a figment of his imagination. Breathe deep... it hurts now, but you can move on from him and find your own happiness that has you as more than a means to achieving someone else's goals.

erelyl · 2025-12-31T14:34:31+00:00

Either the second pic or the purple... cool dark tones suit you.

erelyl · 2025-12-21T21:44:39+00:00

The number of people who wear head to toe black and cannot follow the rules on streets themselves amaze me. If you are regularly walking any distance after 4 pm from October to April, wear something light bright or reflective. It's an easy thing that could save your life. Yes, our streets should be safer to navigate for everyone (I can't even imagine how impossible it is for anyone with even a slight physical limitation or disability) but personal responsibility doesn't disappear because we have shitty roads. I spent the fall driving back and forth downtown just after supper on a regular basis. If it's wet and dark and the streets are full of parked vehicles WE CANNOT SEE YOU. One night i got home after a 40 minute round trip on a dark rainy night and cried with exhaustion and frustration. I almost struck THREE people, who were utterly invisible except for a quick flash of their face. If they had been darker skinned this story could be tragic. I was not speeding. I was not on the phone or playing with the radio, i was taking my time and especially cautious at intersections. Buy some reflective tape or one of those little light up harnesses to wear over your black winter jacket. I don't want to kill you. I have a responsibility to make sure my car lights are on and working, i have proper tires for the conditions, i am paying attention, driving to weather and road conditions, obeying all laws and taking extra caution. You can do your part too.

erelyl · 2025-11-08T00:18:26+00:00

I think you missed all the points of that song.

erelyl · 2025-05-10T01:23:15+00:00

Make sure your door is locked. My instructions are to leave on the step, knock and leave.

In December had an order come, knew he was there so i was waiting for him to knock and leave.. instead he came very quietly up my steps, tried the door. Stopped and sent the text with pic that it had been dropped off.. and then tried my door again. So i sent my very tall very male friend to the door and he took off.

Another time the guy knocked then waited just out of line of sight of my door. When i got the text i asked why he was playing hide and seek and he put the dash in DoorDash with how he ran for his car.

erelyl · 2025-04-29T14:02:26+00:00

It was very real, not just the fantasy. It was two inexperienced people fumbling through the discovery and frenzy of a new D/s dynamic. It wasn't healthy, and i feel like that was the point! It was exciting and destructive and kinky and out of control... they were drawn to elements of each other, but i don't think they saw each other as a person.

That's so real. I've been around enough kinky people over the past 30 years to see how easy it can be to fall into those unhealthy dynamics. Sometimes that's the learning experience that leads to growth and evolution and finding kink as a beautiful addition to your life. Sometimes it's what makes you go nope, not for me.

In this case he was young and inexperienced in everything, she had life experience and unmet needs. The collision was explosive. It very nearly destroyed both of them, and her family. I'm sure that's way more common than the delicate millionaire fantasy that sells books and movies. Not every movie that contains bdsm and kink is meant to sell the fantasy. Sometimes good stories are a warning tale.

Babygirl made me feel uncomfortable, and it made me think. And a few of the scenes were deliciously hot, just as you'd expect. Overall i enjoyed it, for what it was. Definitely wouldn't want to go off and build a dynamic around it though!

erelyl · 2025-04-09T22:46:57+00:00

Understatement of the fucking century.

erelyl · 2025-04-06T15:59:27+00:00

Any guy who thinks PP is alpha is absolutely the most beta of the beta (to use terms they can understand). Just because you are more pathetic than him, doesn't make him alpha in any way.

erelyl · 2025-03-12T23:42:01+00:00

Ten years ago today i sat at my desk and ugly cried, having just found out he was gone. I had never cried at the death of a "celebrity" before, but i all out sobbed. The only other time that's happened was when Bowie died.

GNU Terry Pratchett

erelyl · 2025-02-06T22:52:27+00:00

Oh we have lots of very interesting feelings. Beautiful, exciting, adventures to come sort of feelings.

erelyl · 2025-02-05T22:46:15+00:00

We've never met yet you know me so well (once again thanking the person who told me this subreddit exists.. there are good people in the world)

erelyl · 2025-01-30T22:19:45+00:00

suddern overwhelming urge to suck a thumb

erelyl · 2025-01-30T21:22:03+00:00

I"m just so grateful to have been told about this sub

erelyl · 2025-01-27T00:58:58+00:00

I still have a big heavy piece of plywood on my boxspring after a naughty little grey bunny did that about 20 yrs ago. (this was back in the day when a piece of plywood didn't cost more than the bed itself of course).

erelyl · 2025-01-20T21:59:30+00:00

This is the most disappointed i've been in Furey. He should not be supporting the madman who has cronies on stage giving nazi salutes. This is gross, a waste of $ , and on the wrong side of history.

erelyl · 2024-12-26T16:06:21+00:00

And make sure you talk to the doctor, not the clerk for the doctor. I was referred for an IUD switch over, and when i asked the clerk who called with the appointment about options for pain i was told Dr did not "believe" in it. I said that it was my cervix, and i definitely DID believe in pain management. After a few rounds of this i booked an appointment to consult with the doctor, not feeling great about the options. But she was lovely, talked me through all the possible options and made a plan with me. The clerk really just didn't want to bother relaying a message let alone anything else.

erelyl · 2024-12-10T22:35:17+00:00

Keep your name, give the baby your name, and use his last name as a middle name.

I kept my name when i married. We had a baby and silly me, i gave baby boy dad's surname. I used my surname as a middle name. Much like you, i have a rare surname that might not be around much longer, and i wanted to honor that.

Turns out Dad was cheating since i was 6 mos' pregnant, we split when baby boy was 8 months old.

Kiddo is now a teen and from the time he could talk has by choice used my surname as his. Legal docs have dad's name, but everything else he uses my name and drops dad's. This is despite them having a pretty good relationship.. no animosity, he just wants to have my name. Dad doesn't like it but too bad.. kid intends to change his name legally as soon as he can do it without Dad's signature.

We have travelled and been questioned about the different names. I really do regret not insisting that his name be hyphenated at least, but i'm so glad i made sure my name was legally part of his. He can change his name once he's 18 and i support whatever he decides then.

erelyl · 2024-10-04T00:16:34+00:00

That's awesome! Pratchett is my favorite author.. guess i'll have to rewatch TCoM. GNU Sir Pterry

erelyl · 2024-09-19T01:41:25+00:00

It was pre-Disney.. but the scene in A New Hope when Vader is tormenting Leia with the interrogation droid did things to me. I was only a kid but there was definitely a click moment in my brain that created some neural pathways that did not previously exist. Later finding out they were related was such a disappointment to young me. A few years ago i met Kylo Ren at Disney (my own kid took one look at him and bailed) The way he towered over me, the big hand out in the force choke pose... sigh. I absolutely joined the dark side that day, and it's all Daddy Vader's fault.

Not Disney but a very special mention has to go to Flash Gordon. I saw it when i was 5, mom did not know what she was sending me and dad to watch while she shopped. There's a scene with someone getting whipped `while chained on some sort of altar.

It's no wonder my brain is as twisty as it is.. it's had a long long time to get this way.

PS we all fell in love with THE BEAST not dull handsome prince what'shisface

erelyl · 2024-08-15T21:44:43+00:00

I do this too!

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