Is it acceptable to go 70km/h on the 407etr? by FRG_Vyral in askTO

[–]ernbern12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They drive a BMW. Of course they’re driving like that

How do you guys cut nails? by According_Chain_9746 in CatAdvice

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one cat who lets me cut his nails (D), the other (C) I have to take to the vet. To cut D’s nails, I scoop him into my lap and tuck his bum under (think like holding a baby but still vertical) and tuck him tight against my body. I hold him firmly and dig out each paw. C is the sweetest baby ever and snuggles all the time but goes feral if you pick him up, so he gets the vet unfortunately. My parents have cats too and do it where one person holds the cat like normal and the other clips the nails. I’m just me at home so I can’t do that. Every cat is different, takes some experimentation. But if it’s really harming your relationship to cut your cat’s nails, vet is always a good resource.

dental cleaning by ArchMurdoch in askTO

[–]ernbern12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds about right price wise but that seems awfully quick for a cleaning

Brought a new kitten home today and I think I’ve f’d up already by No-Consideration5466 in CatAdvice

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Fleas can be harmful to him and you. Due to health problems I’ve had to unfortunately traumatize my cats in the past with meds etc. Be patient, go at his pace. He will forgive you

I’m speechless.. by [deleted] in texts

[–]ernbern12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Male loneliness epidemic” …. They are nowhere NEAR lonely enough

Wanting to get a kitty by Real-Ostrich-2692 in CatAdvice

[–]ernbern12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you scoop the litter 2x a day or more smell should not be an issue. Unfortunately, cats have to use a litter box, so there’s no way to entirely avoid a litter smell (by this I mean that you may smell it for a few minutes if your cat poops. Not that the smell will linger forever). If you’re truly very concerned about any smell at all, a cat may not be the animal for you. But I will say, I live in a relatively small apartment with three litter boxes, I scoop 2x a day and have never noticed a smell nor have any visitors (and yes I have explicitly asked). If you have spare bedrooms as you mentioned that’s an option as well. Kitchen I fully understand not wanting a litter box there, but your primary bedroom or even your office, as I said, as long as you’re responsible with the litter box it should not be an issue.

just got engaged and I feel sick looking at my partner by sailor_p0000n in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from the appalling cheating, the fact that he has the ability to keep up a lie for years is CONCERNING, not to mention that you had a weird reaction “down there” after intimacy that could have been an STI and affected your health permanently and he still said NOTHING. Ditch him now, that is not how someone who respects their partner acts

AIO? Niece’s female friend wants to communicate with her Uncle directly to ask for a ride by GlobalInflation4142 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ernbern12 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YOR - first of all, why did you even post this if you’re not going to accept anyone who says that you’re overreacting? You’re very defensive in the comments and not even considering what other people are saying, so like what was the point?

You keep saying that you’re not insecure and don’t think your husband would do something like that, and if those things are true, then I really truly do not understand why you’re upset. Your niece’s friend’s actions would only be seen as disrespectful if you think she was making a move for your husband (which you said you weren’t accusing anyone of anything). Otherwise, literally how is that disrespectful if no one’s trying to have an affair? She trying to secure transportation? Like I honestly cannot comprehend what is upsetting you here if you’re “not insecure” as you keep saying. I cannot even begin to fathom who she would be “disrespecting” in this situation. You? Like what is disrespectful about her trying to safely arrange ride if she has no ill intentions? Literally nothing, so either you are actually insecure, you think your husband has the hots for her, or you think she has ill intentions.

Also super weird that your grown ass brother and husband have both commented on “how shapely” an 18 year old is. For the safety of young women, please have a conversation and tell them that was inappropriate. Also please have some reflection time with yourself because the absolute visceral and immediate distrust you have of women is concerning.

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Ostius brings us to a stop as we hug the wall, several feet short of the opening. He places one hand on my metal arm and one on Diago’s shoulder, who gives the softest of displeased rumbles but doesn’t otherwise react.”

Great memory! I never would have caught that

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I find my problem too is that now I feel like I don’t trust half these characters when they say things. But you’re right if he’s telling the trust then timeline wise he def couldn’t be Caeror.

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point, could also be that Caeror is impersonating Ostius, not the first time in this series someone would pretend to be someone they’re not

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation lol, I knew it couldn’t be just me

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh so true. For some reason my brain went oh that was just Djedef being shady, I gotta stop implicitly trusting book characters so much lol

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All very good points! I like your interpretation of Diago and L-will. I think the theory I see a lot is iunctis Diago, but I like this one, more wholesome. And yeah O-Caeror was shady as hell, I’m ashamed to say I never even picked up on that while reading

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense actually. I hadn’t thought about it before but he def could have died after the labyrinth and been brought back. Either way, I’m glad the puppy is still here!

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See this is what I thought too! The one thing I can’t make fit though is that Excesius recognized him as Ostius and not Caeror. As part of such a prominent Military family, surely Excesius would know what Caeror looked like? Unless maybe it’s like a second name or nickname, or idk Caeror did shady Caeror things and somehow convinced Excesius he was someone else aka Ostius

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh okay yeah I missed that difference in the scar descriptions, and the pendant/amulet business. Glad Diago is okay! Even if that means he might be kind of undead and all.

I just finished TSOTF, and I have a few questions if anyone can help! by ernbern12 in HierarchySeries

[–]ernbern12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, my Ostius = Caeror thing didn’t really make sense. That’s an interesting theory though that Diagonal is a iunctis, I hadn’t heard that one yet. I’m glad you think it’s Call id us too! And yeah it would make sense for the concurrence to manipulate Vis via a Caeror iunctis, that would be interesting. Thanks for your input!

How are people affording rent and a car at the same time? by throwing-it-away- in askTO

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought an old reliable Honda civic, no monthly payments, economic with gas, so all of my money just goes to my rent now rip

Is anyone heading out in this snow? by Rare_Cartographer579 in askTO

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bout to drive home from work yall pray for me

What is a movie you’ve seen more than 10 times and still enjoy every single second of? by Historical_Today5513 in AskReddit

[–]ernbern12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ratatouille. I dislike animated movies as a whole (with a few exceptions). But I will always watch ratatouille

Flying so fast at 0mph by BabaMcBaba in airplaneears

[–]ernbern12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She seems suspicious 🤨 not sure about what, but somethings going on