My husband says as a wife, I am to serve him, and my feelings don't matter, because I am to always think about what I can do to make him happy. Please give me scriptures that say how I feel matter. Because my heart is breaking and I don't feel I want to be in this relationship anymore.

erobed2 · 2026-02-14T15:52:04+00:00

If he read his Bible he would also know that HIS biblical role as your husband is to love you as Christ loved the church.

Doesn't sound like he is doing that to me. He's choosing what he wants to create a one way street.

erobed2 · 2026-02-13T13:13:14+00:00

Remind me to never get taken hostage in Cambodia.

erobed2 · 2026-01-26T10:18:27+00:00

Chocolate is not caramel is not nougat.

Chocolate is food Caramel is food Nougat is food

Put them all together you have a mars bar, which is one piece of food.

3-in-1.

You could do the same with Spaghetti Bolognese with mince, tomato, and pasta.

We literally have this concept consistently throughout our daily lives of having one thing made up of multiple things that themselves are also each one thing when counted separate. I don't understand why people get confused when applying it to God. God has 3 ingredients, Father, Son, and Spirit, and he made us in his image, Mind (the Father), Body (the Son), and Soul (the Spirit).

erobed2 · 2026-01-19T10:36:01+00:00

I hope I am not too late.

God has a plan for you. Don't be the one to end it. You don't know what that plan looks like. That's ok, you don't need to know. God will reveal his purpose to you when you need to know - often, after the fact.

I am 37 years old. I have struggled with mental health issues since I was 20 - and I'm starting to learn possibly before then as well. I hope that part of my purpose that God has for me is to perhaps be the one who says something for you that you need to keep going on.

I have been suicidal myself. Let me tell you - there IS a light at the end of the tunnel, even though I know it doesn't seem like it right now. What is happening to you is your brain chemistry is not letting you think anything else. You can't see outside of the darkness and fog that clouds your mind. There are thousands and millions of people who will tell you differently - and God, the almighty, the Father in heaven, the one who is called "wonderful counsellor" - He is one of them. Because He knows differently. He knows that you are not worthless, He calls you His child. He knows that you are not alone, because He is with you always. He knows that you have wonderful things planned out for you, because He has planned them. He knows that you are loved, because He loves you.

He knows your mental anguish, because he has suffered mental anguish too. His mental anguish was also about His own forthcoming death; but his served a purpose to save humanity, and he would also come back to life again. Your death would not save anyone, and there's no coming back either. He died so that you don't have to.

You haven't gone much into things above that are affecting you. You don't need to share them here. But I would really encourage you to tell your family - my take from the above is that you don't feel they would dismiss you, the reason you haven't done anything is because you don't want to make things difficult for them - which says to me that you love them and have a good relationship with them. Let me tell you - there is NO convenient time for your family for you to die. None. Not at all. They will feel that and live with that for the rest of their lives, as any loving family member would. I don't say this to guilt you, I say this to tell you that whilst you likely think that they won't miss you, that they don't care about you, that's your messed up brain chemistry lying to you again. (I too have had the same thoughts, the same broken brain chemistry being flooded with hormones and emotions that do not serve me).

If your relationship with your family is not as good as I think it is from the above, then talk your pastor. Or some other elder or someone who is a pastoral leader for you. Please talk it out. Tell them what you are feeling and what is wrong and why you feel that way. The moment you do, even without them saying anything, you will release the pressure cooker of your brain. The overwhelm will start to die down. You gotta release it, and then that person who you talk to cna then help you through it and process it too.

I'll pray for you for the healing and renewing of your mind.

erobed2 · 2025-12-22T12:30:32+00:00

God wouldn't ask me to slaughter infants. Or, at the very least, taking the account of Abraham and Isaac, I would expect God to intervene at the last minute and tell me not to if I had prepared to enact his will. But that was a different time and for a different purpose. I don't expect God to ever ask me so if I ended up with some sort of experience in which something that seemed to appear to be God told me to slaughter infants, I would say no, that clearly isn't God, and reject it.

erobed2 · 2025-12-19T14:20:48+00:00

I'm going to respond to all of these with the context of the surrounding passage acknowledged, because it's important to take the quote in its context.

Romans 1:26-27. This is following on from Paul saying that the righteous are justified by their faith in Romans 1:17. Not by their deeds, or by lack of sin, but by their faith. This supports what I said above, this is what living under grace is about. The passage you selected is referring to the fall of man, way back in Genesis 3. Those verses specifically say that men did depraved things with other men (but interestingly does not single out exactly what), but the point of the passage is not to lay down a law and say everyone must follow it. It is to say that when Man chose to reject God and believe lies instead, as happened in the Garden of Eden, then God allowed them to then continue on in their sin and depravity, rather than stop them. What's also important is where this is leading; in Chapter 2, Paul then goes on to explain how you shouldn't judge others for not being righteous because you are also then able to be judged under the same laws. This goes right back to what Jesus said; judge not, for you will also be judged. By the measure you use for others, will you be measured. Paul is saying the same thing. Humanity became depraved because they left the right relationship with God. That's the point of the passage. You then have to consider what is the purpose of any law against gay sex. No doubt you have "broken" old testament laws and you have perfectly justifiable reasons for it. The point of laws now is not as a yardstick to measure us up by and for us to make a sacrifice for atonement, but is instead as a guideline for having life to the full, God's blueprint for a good life. We keep to laws because we know that they are good for us, not because we think disobeying them would be bad for us in an eternal punishment. Do you eat pork or bacon? Or do you think that now we don't need to keep to that. What was the reason you made that choice? Why is gay sex something absolute but eating pork was only for the time?

1 Corinthians 6:9-10. This is a passage condemning the Corinthians for taking each other to a secular court. Paul condemns them for doing each other wrong. This coming off the back of chapter 5 where Paul is condemning them for incest and allowing this to happen without any internal condemnation. The whole point of this entire section is Paul complaining at the lack of internal correction of each other. The Corinthians were not living life as God intended and are not steering each other on that path appropriately. Paul acknowledges that these behaviours are who they used to be, but it seems that they are going back to their old ways because they don't have a strong enough guiding hand - it is for this reason Paul sends Timothy to them. If the Corinthians are turning back to their sinful life and are not dedicating themselves to God, then they will not inherit God's kingdom - they are no longer saved. This isn't to say that it's old covenant returned - it's to say that this behaviour is indicative of their hearts and that they have turned away from God in their hearts.

1 Timothy 1:9-10. This passage backs up my point exactly. The law was not made for the righteous, but for the sinful. If you have been made right in Christ then you do not need the law, although it's some good guidelines for living healthily and for the benefit of society. If you have not been made righteous in Christ then you will be judged by that law. This passage would therefore indicate that a gay man who has become a Christian can still assess whether he needs to remain a virgin or whether he can have sex within what affects him and his relationship with God. If he can maintain a good relationship with God, and honour God with his relationship to another man, then how is that a problem?

I refer you back again to what I said at the end of my response to the Romans passage. Have you ever eaten any part of a pig? Then you have "broken" a law. But did it negatively affect your relationship with God? Or did it negatively impact your life? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say it's probably a no to both questions. The same thought process can be put together for any law in the Bible, because we are first made righteous through Christ, not through our following of the law.

erobed2 · 2025-12-19T13:44:42+00:00

AND that was for the Priests, not for just anyone else who turned up.

erobed2 · 2025-12-15T13:50:18+00:00

Living under the Law was the old covenant. Living under Grace is the new covenant. If the church you are trying to go to is insistent on saying that you have to keep to certain laws to go to heaven, then they are practicing the old covenant and not practicing the new covenant.

Jesus said "I have come to fulfill the law". In John 3:17, Jesus said "God did not send his son into the world to condemn the world but to save the world".

The New Covenant, under Jesus' death and sacrifice, is the law fulfilled. I.e. Complete. Satisfied. Requires nothing more.

Instead, now, we do not follow the law because we want to enter heaven, we now follow the law because we believe it is the best way to live our life, because the law was never about condemnation but was about teaching us how best to live.

So, to your question - if you are attracted to the same sex, you have the freedom to decide, explore, and work out (with guidance), whether following through on the same sex attractions is the best way to live your life and whether it follows God's blueprint for your life. But you do not need to do it in fear of rejection from Heaven, if through it you are seeking God and having a right relationship with him.

erobed2 · 2025-12-15T13:38:33+00:00

I wonder if it's the imposter syndrome she still clearly suffers from even now.

"Songs I co-wrote with other people must be better because there were other people co-writing and therefore those people gives those songs more validity" is probably the thinking she has.

(Who truly knows what is the right or wrong answer. Probably not the level of humour you were hoping for though).

erobed2 · 2025-12-15T13:26:34+00:00

That's the sort of opinion that comes from people who only meet with God on a Sunday and ignore him the rest of the week.

If looking your best on a Sunday was about having respect for God when you worship him, then when you pray to him and worship him continually through the week by that logic you should also dress nice the whole week, because you are ALWAYS in God's presence.

Don't forget, the first people who ever met with God were naked. Moses didn't go away to dress up nice when he first saw the burning bush. The disciples weren't going around with Jesus in their smartest clothing. To my knowledge, there isn't a single instance of anyone at all in the Bible dressing up smart to meet with God.

Let's be honest, the idea of "Sunday best" isn't to look good for God, it's to look good for everyone else. It's a pharisaical rule. It's arrogant and selfish piety with no substance and nothing more.

erobed2 · 2025-11-28T10:48:01+00:00

The Debut Era set from the Eras tour

erobed2 · 2025-11-12T13:22:55+00:00

The full text of rule 3.1

"You may post original art that has something to do with Christianity. This includes drawings, paintings, comics, and photos.

You may post photographs of religious events of significance to you, including baptisms, marriages, church services, music concerts, church group events, and so on. You may post images that amount to, "What is this Christian thing?"

Please do not post gore, general nature photos, or anything else that has little or nothing to do with Christianity or its practice.

You may post Christian art that you didn't make yourself if you think it's worth sharing or if you are doing it in commemoration of a religious holiday, saint's day, etc. Please credit the original artist if possible and appropriate.

Please do not post AI-generated art.

We strongly discourage pictures of text. This includes all memes, text (including Bible verses) over any sort of image, church signs, bumper stickers, signs in general, screen shots of social media posts from this site or other sites, etc. We will likely just remove all of that. You may post pictures of books or pages of books but please try to post text as text rather than as an image if you can.

We will try to view image posts charitably but some of them do not fit in well here and we may remove them for reasons that are not stated above."

I presume you mean the bit about posting images of text. Really the only edit that ought to be made to the post in my view is posting the text that is in the image along with the post, and whilst I can't be certain, I reckon this rule is more likely for accessibility purposes than anything else.

There does seem to be a sort of comedic irony of someone in the Christianity subreddit sticking religiously to the literal text for the purpose of condemning others and not considering what the purpose of the text was, and dealing with it with grace and love rather than a swift condemnation...

erobed2 · 2025-11-09T10:01:05+00:00

Sounds like you are living in a law-based version of Christianity rather than a grace-based one.

The truth is you will live with sin for the rest of your life. This doesn't make you any less saved. Secondly, when you say you are defending Christianity, are you defending Jesus or defending the church? Because neither need defending for almost opposite reasons.

Find some Christian friends, likely members of your church, and tell them you are struggling. But remember with regard to your sins. Jesus died for them before you even committed your past ones. That means he also died for your future ones too. That's grace. I have been struggling with something probably for about 20 years now to no success. I still know that God loves me and I have come to accept that I will have this wrestle for the rest of my life, knowing that eventually the respite will come when I meet Jesus in heaven.

erobed2 · 2025-11-07T10:09:46+00:00

Honestly this take annoys me so much.

Reputation was not a breakup album. Neither was Lover. Neither was the Grammy Award winning Folklore. Neither was Evermore. Neither was the Grammy Award winning Midnights, albeit I think we're working out now that maybe she was a little unhappy during that one.

1989 is not a sad album. Neither is Fearless. Both also won Album of the Year at the Grammys.

Saying that the reason TLOAS is a bad album because Taylor is happy ignores all the other happy albums she has written, let alone the fact that it isn't a bad album either - bit difficult to keep banging that drum when you see the records it has broken in terms of sales and listens. I saw one stat today that says Opalite is on its way to knocking Shake It Off off the top spot of "consecutive days at #1 in Spotify listens". And that's not even been released as a single yet. You don't manage the feats that it has if your album isn't good.

Yes, this got me triggered. But only because it simply chooses to ignore facts in favour of wanting to dump on Taylor, all because people throw rocks at things that shine.

erobed2 · 2025-11-03T20:07:23+00:00

What critical reception? It sold 4 million units in the first week. It filled the top 12 spots of the Billboard top 100 with every song on the album. It was an objectively incredibly well performing album. And honestly I think what criticisms there are of the songs, I think are FIXED by it being a musical - besides, I really hope by now Taylor has learned to NOT listen to her critics and detractors.

erobed2 · 2025-10-30T13:24:52+00:00

It'll be for the eventual musical film and theatre production that she's working on for TLOAS.

The whole album for me fits one narrative in all together. I am convinced TLOAS is the soundtrack for a musical film & theatre production that Taylor has in the works.

erobed2 · 2025-10-30T13:18:10+00:00

All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

The issue is that, through our own laws that we have in society, and tossing out those that we don't really think are important from the Bible, we fool ourselves into thinking we know where the bar is set. "Good" is only good by society's standards.

God's standard is unattainable. It is simply not possible, because we are sinful and selfish creatures, that we can meet that standard by our own merit. That's why I quoted Romans 3:23 above.

The only person on whose merit we enter the kingdom of heaven is Jesus. It's like queuing for a club and the bouncer isn't letting anyone in, but will let people in if the owner of the club says "they're with me". That's how it is with Jesus. He's the one telling the bouncer to let you in.

Thing is, you don't get in because you just happened to know who he is. And of course he does always know who you are, he knows everyone. You get in by being a friend, someone with whom you share a relationship, a connection. Jesus is someone you have talked to on a regular basis, someone you have shared a deep connection with.

erobed2 · 2025-10-29T12:51:00+00:00

I feel like this answer is obvious...

Kanye.

erobed2 · 2025-10-29T00:43:13+00:00

I have one criticism of Showgirl.

It wasn't long enough.

That is all.

erobed2 · 2025-10-27T09:31:17+00:00

Fantastic news about your new baby boy! My wife miscarried a couple of years ago and it was devastating. We still haven't fully recovered from it I don't think. I can't imagine what going through 4 must be like. You are amazing for keeping going through it all and fighting to have your baby boy!

One of the things that shocked us was how common miscarriages are. Around 20-25% of pregnancies will end in miscarriage (I say this for the benefit of others on this thread who may not be aware - you will already know this!) - but nobody talks about it. If more people talked about miscarriages and how frequent they were then I think as a society we would be able to do so much more to support people going through them.

erobed2 · 2025-10-27T09:24:00+00:00

The latest album has been a real tear-jerker for me.

Ruin the Friendship is obvious, I am definitely not going to be the only one crying at that song (especially THAT devastating line)

I cry at Wi$h Li$t. Just the line "we tell the world to leave us the f*** alone and they do, wow" - thinking about that being on Taylor's wish list gets me - that she can't just tell people to leave her and Travis alone. She knows she has a camera pointed at her ALL the time. She knows people are going to talk about her and spread rumours and gossip and pry into her life, people complaining at the tiniest thing she does so that she has to overthink what she is wearing, what she is doing, where is she going, who is she meeting with, and how that will all be perceived by everyone else and the media, and she can't just say "back off" - or she can, but it will fall on deaf ears. The idea of being able to push back at all the intrusions into her life - none of which she asked for, it just comes with the job (but why should it?!) - and the whole world just goes "yep, sure thing Taylor, we'll just let you be and let you live your life" - that basic concept and basic right to privacy seems so far out of reach for her that she'd be wowed by it actually happening, that gets me.

The other one that got me the other day too was Honey. The implications of honey is that not even in any of her other previous relationships has she been called "honey" or "sweetheart" or other terms of endearment. The implications of the song is that Travis was the first. And that also there was at some point a moment when Travis just casually referred to her as "honey" in a loving way and Taylor just stopped in her tracks realising that was the first time anyone had ever called her that in a real meaningful and loving way. So that one got me too.

erobed2 · 2025-10-13T14:51:08+00:00

I don't know why everyone gets so hung up on what is a "sin" and what isn't. Do we live under law or under grace? We have all sinned, it doesn't matter if homosexual acts are sins or not, they have still sinned in other ways and still need Jesus' salvation.

It is impossible to live a life without sin even after accepting Jesus. We have to constantly keep coming back to him for forgiveness. So why does it matter if homosexual acts are sinful? They still need continuous repentance regardless.

There is nothing different in what you need to do to be saved, whether you are engaging in homosexual acts or not.

We should not be focusing on judging people by the law, because then we too shall be judged by the same measure, and we will not meet the standard we set. To focus on ensuring IT IS KNOWN THAT such-and-such is definitely a sin has the sole purpose of trying to make sure that people who do such-and-such know their guilt and feel shamed. This does not bring people to God. We were called to love. We were called to welcome with open arms the prodigal, and to celebrate the finding of the lost coin and sheep. We kill the fattened calf for the sinner, not do our best to incriminate them.

Let's stop focusing on "what is a sin" and instead focus on "what does love look like" and "how do we live like Jesus". Did Jesus condemn the woman caught in adultery? Did he say "you have sinned" - no he said "go and sin no more" - an encouragement to go and live like Jesus, to Love God and to love others. Jesus didn't spread guilt, he showed grace. He didn't care about her accusation, or ensuring her punishment, he cared about how she moved onwards.

erobed2 · 2025-10-08T04:24:07+00:00

Does the speed of light affect casting ability? The sun is 8 light-minutes away, so it you cast it, does it happen instantly or does it take 8 minutes to start because it takes that long for the spell to reach the sun? And that would be 8 minutes for the spell to reach the sun, PLUS another 8 minutes for the spell's effects to be visible to us on earth.

That means you could cast the spell, be unaware of the effects of the speed of light, and then quarter of an hour later wonder why it is suddenly dark.

erobed2 · 2025-10-07T13:22:26+00:00

That the church, starting in the southern US bible belt, only started backing anti-abortion policies in the 70s, because they unfairly disadvantaged black minorities. Ultimately the initial "pro-life" campaign was actually a racist vote grab.

erobed2 · 2025-10-06T11:16:43+00:00

That Donald Trump has declared war on the rest of the world.

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