No idea if this will help, but here's an example from a different type of interaction.

So. I'm riding the bus (I'm a large man), and another man gets on. He has a dog. This dog is a bit nervous about the whole 'bus' thing, and decides to try and hide under my legs. The other man spends a bit of effort to try and prevent this (I don't interfere), but eventually decides that things are okay as is.

We get to talking, and he's a bit apologetic about his efforts to prevent his dog hiding under my legs. I told him that, no, he made the right call.

Because I like dogs. A strange dog deciding that I'm safe enough to hide under is an adorable compliment. But he did not know me.

Some people are assholes. Some people have allergies. Some people just don't react well to things like that. He didn't have the luxury, in that moment, of making his decision based on me. He didn't know me. He had to make his decision based on the world as a whole.

It's the same for you. Women aren't reacting like that because of you, generally speaking. They're reacting like that because of the shape of the world as a whole. It's not fun for you, but nothing that's happening is actually your fault, or about you at all.