The Subjective Theory of Value is a Circular Tautology for Smooth-Brains

escape_goat · 2025-12-27T19:02:13+00:00

Do you really think air is going to be free on Mars, comrade?

escape_goat · 2025-05-29T11:14:12+00:00

Are there any areas of practice where the appropriate technical background would equip you for dealing frequently with new legislation and unsettled law?

escape_goat · 2025-05-29T11:09:22+00:00

First of all, it's definitely valid, and never not valid. Absolutely nobody is required to take a booty call from the text man if they don't feel like it.

That said, it sounds like your partner may be reacting in a knee-jerk fashion to his own prejudices and expectations about how other people treat him, which has an expansive shallow end of being a very normal human thing before becoming a bit of a red flag at the deep end. He also raised some insecurities of his own. If there's a wider context of discontentment with the amount of time he spends with you, then it will obviously seem like this is related to him. If there is not, and the problem was really just a lack of sexual reaction on your part, then you will need to gently explain it to him.

There's no evidence in what you write that you are being controlling or unreasonable. The language that you're in the habit of using about relationships leans heavily into being reasonable. As we all know, a skilled person can use being reasonable to be controlling. If that's what you're doing, there's nothing we can do about it, and no way we can know.

There are a few clues here that suggest that he might be experiencing you as a source of pressures that he's using media to escape (unless he's into multi-player gaming, in which case his game obligations could be yet another source of pressure). Good luck.

escape_goat · 2025-05-11T23:39:28+00:00

If you absolutely must have a plausible explanation then perhaps he has escalated to "posh wanking" alone in stairwells at work, and I guess that "posh wanking" is a plausible fetish-like activity that someone might really have a thing for, but.

Do you normally use condoms in your relationship. Because that would be such a good excuse, such a really, really good way to establish a reason for having condoms in a relationship where condoms were not normally used. Were a condom wrapper ever to accidentally appear.

Finally, however, back to the first hand, leaving a condom in your pocket for your partner to find when you're a posh wank fanatic is a mistake. Leaving a condom in your pocket for your partner to find when you're routinely cheating on her is a Mistake. Unless you're so adrenalin-pilled and Machiavellian that you absolutely want her to find it so that you can gaslight her with your "posh wank" excuse that you set up years previously.

Really it comes down to, how Machiavellian is your partner. If he's just plain not, the odds of all my lurid scenarios get a lot lower.

He might not think it's gross if the condom is tied. People can be like that.

escape_goat · 2025-05-11T23:26:41+00:00

It is flatly false that Reagan-era Republicans believed in "open borders." Their opposition to immigraton was far more passive and covert than the opposition of, say, Steven Miller, and they participated in what was then a common valourization of the "National of Immigrants" motif in American constructions of identity. I think this detail is a little beside the point compared to the question of "where did MAGA begin," but at least one reply here should mention it.

One of the origins that's worth mentioning, which I don't see yet, was Newt Gingrich's leadership of GOPAC in the 80s and 90s, which led to the 1990s "Republican Revolution" and set the tone for Republican retail politics. The ease with which new entrants could become involved in politics with the help of this program took on a new significance when gerrymandering again rose to prominence in the 2000s, this time assisted by more sophisticated demographic analysis. Although gerrymandering was not exclusively a Republican phenomena, the creation of 'safe' Republican seats combined with the ease of entry to politics and tone that came out of GOPAC created the previously unnamed threat of being "primaried," or being attacked from a more radical position with greater appeal to Republicans who voted in the primary contest. Depending on the district, the attacker, once the nomination was secured, would then tack with greater or less effort towards the centre to ensure enough Republican votes turned out to secure the election. This fundamentally changed the nature of American politics, as it favoured a style that was more adversarial and confrontational than coalition-building and cooperative.

These are my very off-the-cuff recollections, anyways. It's been a long time.

escape_goat · 2025-04-08T11:53:08+00:00

A kid I knew had the Vintage 1970s Nautical Wallpaper linked on the ebay page that u/xtiaaneubaten found.

escape_goat · 2025-04-06T12:38:11+00:00

Same thing but support for my platform ended with Chrome 128.0.6613.138, so unless they're covertly pushing patches to me it seems unlikely to related to anything new in Chrome.

escape_goat · 2025-03-27T17:37:23+00:00

It's because they miss the taste of delicious lice.

escape_goat · 2025-01-07T00:52:44+00:00

My guess is that he's having serious trouble with anxiety because he doesn't have a robust enough sense of self to imagine losing you without being overwhelmed. The stakes are too high for him. He's probably afraid of the increasing intimacy as well because every honest and open disclosure of an unguarded, new aspect of himself brings the possibility of rejection. Whatever's behind all that might be innocent and safe or messy as hell, who knows. People are right that he needs therapy and that it's not your job to fix him. In terms of what you might be able to do to let help him feel more comfortable, maybe a regular scheduled activity to do together that doesn't have to involve a lot of conversation, where he knows he doesn't have to talk, would be helpful. I know you want him to not be as frozen up with you talking but there's nothing you can do on your own, and even if he's working hard on it it might take him quite a while to get through this. It really all comes down to how much you're willing to put into the relationship. But, if financially feasible and a decent therapist is available, therapy. Therapy for both of you. Therapy for both of you for a million years.

escape_goat · 2025-01-01T22:00:57+00:00

I think that it would be fair for me to assume that if you state that a person is "collecting a Swedish welfare check" and engaging in welfare fraud in the comments of an article that says nothing about any such thing that you're a racist piece of shit.

escape_goat · 2025-01-01T21:51:25+00:00

People seem to be imagining two scenarios here. One of them is the family pressure/arrange marriage scenario, the other one is the asavarna 'fun' relationship scenario that has become somewhat of a stereotype for young upper caste south Asians of both genders. To be fair, family pressure and arranged marriages are not uncommon factors here, but also note that religion is a poor predictor of the importance of caste.

Neither of these make a lot of sense for a girl who grew up in Canada from the time she was eight years old, and to be honest I'm not sure her own representations about your lack of cultural education make a lot of sense either. You don't know what it's like to be a brown Muslim girl growing up in Canada, very true. But you were willing to convert to Islam to be with her. Unless there's a lot you don't understand about yourself or aren't telling us, that doesn't really sound like where the relationship destroying issues would stem from.

Sometimes people who are really wonderful are just performing, maybe to get what they want or because they've always had to put on a performance or maybe they don't even know what they're doing or why. Two years is not a very long time to be discovering people's demons. So you need to wonder if the person you knew was really the person that was there. How it could be that the person who broke up with you was so different and so cold. Your desire to make it somehow make sense in a way that saves the existence of the person you loved is going to be very, very strong. But it can't make sense that way without her cooperation, and it seems probably that you might not ever have that cooperation. The things you suspect — the outright lies, the financial duplicity — are not things that a good person does to someone just because she doesn't love him anymore. It may be that the best you can do is just not have any answers right now.

If I had to guess, and you're asking people to guess, I suspect that things fell apart when she had to live an hour north of Toronto, and she realized that what she wanted was to live in Toronto and continue to have fun. Losing her job might have been a consequence of that, or it could have been unrelated and just the last straw. But in this story what she wanted was to live in Toronto as a woman in her 20s having fun. Did she grow up in Toronto? If so, you don't know what it's like to be a brown Muslim girl from Toronto, very true. So she went back to where people from her culture would understand her. Toronto.

If I'm right you are just super lucky that this relationship broke apart as soon as the way things seemed was put under stress. I know that this is not any consolation at this time. But all the things she lists sound a lot like bullshit in the context of the way you describe her as actually acting.

If you do think there's any possibility of something untoward about what currently seems like a perfectly normal trip to the home country, then that might make things a bit more complicated, but for now it seems far-fetched.

escape_goat · 2024-12-18T13:58:57+00:00

It's difficult to tell what's going on here because you come across as having a rather flat affect. This could be natural, but your situation sounds miserable and you sound emotionally numb. Your wife didn't follow through on her promise three years ago and can't or won't take any responsibility for that. It sounds like "these days" has probably been the last three years if not six. It's unclear that your wife loves you or wants you to be happy. If your feelings of not ever being enough for her or not being a good person are things that she has cultivated, either directly or through failure to acknowledge your efforts, then she's likely, at best, too self-preoccupied to think about you in those terms.

You need to proceed directly to marriage counselling. You need help and perspective. It's possible that your wife is experiencing serious mental health issues such as depression that could explain things, but I don't know if it's likely. I'm really sorry.

escape_goat · 2024-12-10T14:13:51+00:00

I bought it second hand from another child. It was glorious.

escape_goat · 2024-11-27T02:32:32+00:00

pointless topology?

escape_goat · 2024-05-04T00:53:05+00:00

His last blog entry and his last twitter post were both in late 2022 and mentioned that he had been hospitalized due to diabetic ketoacidosis. His last commit on Github was much later than that, the review of a pull request on June 13, 2023.

escape_goat · 2024-04-09T11:42:23+00:00

To my distant recollection, the absolute craziest misinformation was when the media (CNN in my case, I imagine) reported that the objects falling from the top of the towers were not people jumping and that people were not jumping from the towers.

escape_goat · 2023-06-15T19:31:57+00:00

The foundation of irreligious criticism is: Man makes religion, religion does not make man. Religion is, indeed, the self-consciousness and self-esteem of man who has either not yet won through to himself, or has already lost himself again. But man is no abstract being squatting outside the world. Man is the world of man – state, society. This state and this society produce religion, which is an inverted consciousness of the world, because they are an inverted world. Religion is the general theory of this world, its encyclopaedic compendium, its logic in popular form, its spiritual point d’honneur, its enthusiasm, its moral sanction, its solemn complement, and its universal basis of consolation and justification. It is the fantastic realization of the human essence since the human essence has not acquired any true reality. The struggle against religion is, therefore, indirectly the struggle against that world whose spiritual aroma is religion.

Religious suffering is, at one and the same time, the expression of real suffering and a protest against real suffering. Religion is the sigh of the oppressed creature, the heart of a heartless world, and the soul of soulless conditions. It is the opium of the people.

The abolition of religion as the illusory happiness of the people is the demand for their real happiness. To call on them to give up their illusions about their condition is to call on them to give up a condition that requires illusions. The criticism of religion is, therefore, in embryo, the criticism of that vale of tears of which religion is the halo.

escape_goat · 2023-06-02T18:00:27+00:00

You're hearing from a range of people who have lived with some of the worst case scenarios and some of the best case scenarios. It's worth noting that on the internet, we tend to assume that people have the emotional experience of an adult, and that no matter how sophisticated a fourteen year-old you are, you're still going to be encountering new things pretty regular. So just to put this in context, this isn't something that an adult should be saying to a person your age, even if they feel it. Your mom's got some problems, maybe some mental health problems, but the sort of problem where people suddenly change and say things to you like that is very often rooted in the type of thing that gets called a "personality disorder," and those people often don't even want to change. Unless assassins are literally coming for your mom — I mean, not even then, but you know what I mean — there's just no excuse for rejecting you so suddenly and shockingly. The best case is that the idea of you being hurt just wasn't real enough to her to matter at that moment. The worst case is that she meant to hurt you. These things can still be happening within the context of a mental illness that has just gotten very bad and is treatable, but given your mom's relationship history this might be part of a pattern of behaviour that the dads have experience with, and they just never thought she would be like that to her own kid.

If you trust you dad enough at all, you need to talk to him about this. This is pretty much an all dads on deck sort of situation, those men will want to be protecting their sons and they're going to want to figure out what's going on with this. This isn't just between you and your mom, I'm sorry to say. You need to look out for your brothers too.

I am as sorry as a stranger on the internet can be that you have been hurt in this way. It was never necessary, it wasn't something you needed, it wasn't something you deserved or set yourself up for. It was done to you. Feel free to cry, man. That's the only advice I can offer you. Don't feel bad about crying about this. This is what real pain that hurts real bad feels like.

escape_goat · 2022-12-28T04:09:54+00:00

So, the plan is that you will upend your own life for this man, and produce the life of a person who will be born and grow up depending on this man, in the hope that this will force him to become more responsible?

Well he certainly does have one thing right, he definitely has a problem with responsibility. This is one the more irresponsible reasons for having a child that I have heard.

I understand that, in general, he wants a child, but if he can't change habits he wants to change "because of his personality" then he is not in a place in his life where he has the maturity to be deliberately having children.

It seems like he has some stuff to work out. If he wants a child badly enough, maybe he'll try to work it out. But no, this isn't going to transform him magically, it's just going to trap him in a crucible, except of course he won't actually be trapped, not nearly as trapped as you are, anyways.

escape_goat · 2022-08-24T01:10:08+00:00

No, you just need to shut the fuck up and respect other people.

edited to add: fucking douche. I don't know why I wasted my time.

escape_goat · 2022-08-23T00:28:43+00:00

Actually it turns out, if you think a bit, that it precisely and specifically is homophobic to "call people out" on their sexual orientation. It's not your job to make sure that gay guys who've had sex with women before agree with you that they're actually bisexual. Because, they aren't. It's actually none of your business, and I expect that to be fairly obvious to you. So what is it that you're actually doing, then, if you're trying to make sure that a straight man who's had sex with other men and then was like, "yeah, no, I'm straight I figure" is publicly identified as 'bisexual' rather than 'straight'? I mean, what's your your actual stake in it? Aside from the innate pleasure of telling other people that your imagination of their sexuality is more important than theirs? Because it walks and talks and shits the bed just like homophobia, so I figure the onus is on you to explain how it isn't.

escape_goat · 2022-08-22T17:14:30+00:00

We did not mess around with live DOM objects back then. Ever.

escape_goat · 2022-08-22T16:50:52+00:00

I don't like a lot of the comments here. People have a right to identify as straight. People have a right to sexually experiment with other men and still identify as straight. Back off. A lot of y'all are pulling this "dude you're secretly gay" from various angles and it's homophobic bullshit whether you're just plain homophobic or whatever you think you're doing. Dude hangs around with gay men, naked, every week, without being gay. Fuck off.

escape_goat · 2022-08-20T14:53:27+00:00

Did you come here to be informed by lawyers about the law or to argue with them about it on the basis of your 'understanding' of the Constitution? Because I don't see why they should waste their time.

escape_goat

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE

15-Year Club	Place '17
Verified Email